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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be slightly glad my DC ('dear' cat) never came home...

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rolloverandshitmarsbars · 03/03/2014 20:19

Light-hearted, but serious Wink
Since she disappeared 8 months ago I have not had to:

-Cover the worktops, fridge and cupboards with sellotape every night to prevent her sleeping all over them. No cats on worktops.
-Remove all traces of water droplets from around sink - she would lap them. No cats on worktops!
-Keep bathroom door closed so she didn't sleep in the sink/bath.
-Be sad about the nose scratches that appeared weekly on my other cats.
-Close doors to stop her sleeping on the baby.
-Open doors slowly, leading with a foot to stop her rushing through, upstairs and under the bed so that I get to lie flat, wriggle under and drag her out shouting and squirming.
-Tape cardboard and old bits of carpet to the lower half of all the doors I had to close because she scratched and destroyed them.
-Close all windows, even upstairs because she could and would get through them so she could get under the bed, or sleep on the baby.
-Discover poo hoards.

Unsurprisingly I got used to not doing these things quite quickly. If she showed up now, I'd be a little cross quite frankly.

Don't worry, at first I was sad and spent weeks coordinating house checks within a 2 miles radius, 3am night walks to call for her and I stuck a picture of her on top of the fridge so I could tell her off.
But, when I think of the additional work she created and what I have saved buying sellotape, I am afraid I just don't want her back. Unreasonable?!

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usualsuspect33 · 03/03/2014 22:12

There are plenty of threads on MN about cats and their weird and exasperating ways.

It was the glad she fucked off bit that annoyed posters.

Sparklingbrook · 03/03/2014 22:12

I think an AIBU about a missing cat is a bit unwise.

LEMmingaround · 03/03/2014 22:12

I was relieved when I had my dog pts -there I said it. Thete were many reasons and I was devastated. But looking back (a long time) god was looking out for us both that day.

Preferthedogtothekids · 03/03/2014 22:13

I think you have missed the fundamental ethos of MN Rollover. It's a snakepit all right, and adults who stray from the straight and narrow will be fed to the fishes. Conversely, vulnerable members of society: the young, the very old and pets will be supported and defended. There does have to be some boundaries!

Original poster
rolloverandshitmarsbars · 03/03/2014 22:15

Oh. Did I look like a troll?? I thought trolls would only really comment on threads rather than start them. It's only my first post under this name. I have also been quixomixo, but then I saw someone with a similar name, and also quixomixo meant nothing to me so did a change.

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Mintyy · 03/03/2014 22:16

Its probably something to do with your horrible username.

Selks · 03/03/2014 22:17

OP what you didn't realise before posting this thread is that certain subjects are like tinder around here and this is one of them.
I suggest you hide this thread and try to put it behind you and gradually get involved with the site. You'll build up an understanding of how this wonderful but maddening site works soon enough. You've just made an error of judgement with this thread, but don't let it put you off.

usualsuspect33 · 03/03/2014 22:17

Start again.

With a nice normal thread about something boring. Grin

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rolloverandshitmarsbars · 03/03/2014 22:17

When I say you know each other, it means that you will have in-jokes and back each other up from time to time. All good, but it makes me feel stupid because I won't get it and it's like school all over again!

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LurcioLovesFrankie · 03/03/2014 22:19

Sorry, may have over-reacted - it's just there have been a lot of very odd threads today (and one blatant wank troll perv who was restarting zombie threads then using them to send weird messages to people who actually took the bait - troll in question still hasn't been deleted, so won't link to any of those so as not to feed, but MNHQ are on the case, I believe).

RubyrooUK · 03/03/2014 22:20

I thought you were not being entirely serious OP. Although I didn't have time to reply earlier as I am sellotaping the house up in case it stops my 11mo from climbing every surface known to man.

(The 11mo is human. A cat would have better sense. Grin)

LEMmingaround · 03/03/2014 22:21

Listen op. One.'s first flaming is a rite of passage on here. Its how one deals with it that counts.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 03/03/2014 22:21

OP mumsnet is huge. There are hundreds of thousands of people here, most of which wont have met another MNer at all. There are also new people joining daily. Dont worry about not knowing anyone. Most people just recognise names and that's as far a 'knowing' one another goes. Others have met and are friends. You'll settle in like the rest of us. And then you'll never leave Grin

Sparklingbrook · 03/03/2014 22:22

roll nobody 'knows' anyone on the whole. it's just if you have been here a while you recognise people. Except the ones that N/C all the time.Grin

Comeatmefam · 03/03/2014 22:22

Ok OP, stop apologising and fretting and getting cross with people, you're making things worse.

Tis only 'words on a screen' as Scottishmummy would say oh no sorry I am not allowed to quote another poster as that's cliquey.

I've been on here since 2008 and used lots of different name - just namechange and start again or go to a different forum. No biggie.

Vibrissa · 03/03/2014 22:23

It doesn't come across very lighthearted. I just feel sorry for your poor cat and hope she's been found.

It annoys you that she drank water droplets; so much so that you wiped them up!

The poo hoards and taped carpets fitted on all doors is a bit Hmm And I thought that was a myth about cats sleeping on babies (you listed it twice)

Original poster
rolloverandshitmarsbars · 03/03/2014 22:23

I didn't say I was glad she fucked off Usual. I said that I was not so sad about her not coming back. We were devastated and because today is the 8mth 'anniversary' of her going missing I was thinking about her and realising I don't miss the palaver she created. And with the lighthearted/wink stuff I expected people would understand.

And sellotape really worked, it is not insane. I don't want to clean up after a cat from morning til night. I want the cat to not bloody jump up.

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Original poster
rolloverandshitmarsbars · 03/03/2014 22:25

OK, no more apologies. See ya!

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 03/03/2014 22:25

What do you mean clean up? Surely you just spray and wipe the counters in the morning? Far easier than removing all that tape which is so unbelievably odd!

Sparklingbrook · 03/03/2014 22:26

Oh. have they gone?

roll put this one down to experience and just join in on another thread?

Hix · 03/03/2014 22:27

OP. It is quite normal to name change several times whilst you get the hang of it Grin.

There is something about threads about animals that brings out a bunch of self righteous do gooders. They are possibly posters who are very funny and nice on other threads.

Plus AIBU often turns into a scrap, it's nothing you have done.

CoolaSchmoola · 03/03/2014 22:27

I got what you were saying OP, even as someone with a beloved, ancient, cancerous dog who is terminal.

I adore my dog, but I will hold my hands up and admit that there is the odd thing I won't miss when she's gone . Like picking up dog shit. I do it because it is part of having a dog, but I don't enjoy it, and won't miss it.

I will always miss my dog though.

ExitPursuedTheRoyalPrude · 03/03/2014 22:28

Start one about P&C parking instead. They always go well.

strokes cat

HelloBoys · 03/03/2014 22:29

Poor cat. I've had 2 (both now dead 1 recently) little shits they may have been at worst of times but no way I wish they'd left me.

Your cat has found a nicer, kinder owner than you.

Nicola19 · 03/03/2014 22:29

YANBU! I am totally with the OP- loving a cat for a long time but hating some of the things he did! I think people are being harsh.