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To ask about when nudity is no longer ok....

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JohnCusacksWife · 01/03/2014 23:51

Chatting to a friend tonight and she was shocked that both my DH and I think it's ok to be naked in front of our DDs (9 & 7). We don't really shut doors in our house so they see us dressing in the morning and one of us is often in the shower while they're in the bath or vice versa. She seemed really appalled by this, although I do have to say she is a prude quite reserved. Are we unusual or doing anything wrong? Am intrigued to see if we're massively out of step with what's deemed acceptable!

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RalphLaurenLover · 02/03/2014 11:51

I sleep naked and walk around the house naked.

However I wont cuddle, go into his room naked etc. It's just weird for me. We don't shower/bath together and none of us are naked together really.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 02/03/2014 14:15

OP... why do you need to call your friend a 'prude' at all? You don't really come across with an 'each to their own' attitude.

Many posters say 'each to their own', but it seems to me that it's more "If you don't do what I do then you're weird" with a stick-on caveat of 'each to their own' to prevent a backlash comment. If you're really comfortable with your own choices then it shouldn't matter what anybody else thinks about them.

I'm with Worra on this; I don't see the need to cover up but I like my privacy so the net result is that my children wouldn't see me nude - and nor do they need to.

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BabyMummy29 · 02/03/2014 15:30

Totally agree Cladius. I managed to grow up to be fairly normal without having ever seen my parents' naked bodies.

If people want to do that in the privacy of their own homes, that's up to them. I'm glad we don't have any communal changing rooms here where I'd be subjected to women's naked bodies that I'd rather not see.

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JazzyCardi · 02/03/2014 15:42

Corus and Squoosh, yep he covers his genitals with a flannel even when he's in the bath alone. I've just asked him and he said he started doing it when DS was little and tried to grab him and now he's just used to it.

He did tell me ages ago that his dad used to walk around stark bollock naked in front of him and his brother and it disgusted him, so maybe he's frightened of upsetting us all

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MissWimpyDimple · 02/03/2014 15:48

My DD sees me naked a fair bit but I don't make a point of it as such. If she comes in while I am naked, or in the bath etc then that's fine. I go to the toilet I front of her too and in fact neither of us ever really shut the bathroom door!

As far as I know she sees her dad too (we don't live together). He has just moved in with his pregnant partner so I'm not sure how that works but to be honest they now have a huge house so I suspect it's less likely.

She is nearly 8.

Each to their own! My dad walked around naked a lot at home between the bathroom and bedroom etc. On the other hand my mum didn't, and I'm not sure I've ever seen her completely naked!

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missismac · 02/03/2014 15:51

I'm also with Worra. In our house my oldest children began the overly dramatic ("oh my eyes - my eyes . . .oh the pain - I am blind etc.etc.") when they were about 10/11/12 - can't recall what age exactly.

I'm naturally a naked person - I sleep naked and will pop to the loo naked in the night. I'm only a bedroom naked person now though as I understand that the kids would rather not be faced with the saggy bits that they created (as I like to remind them) so now I restrict my nakedness to the parts of the house that aren't public - mainly my room. I do draw the line though at them coming into my bedroom while I'm dressing and starting with the 'eyes' business. It's MY room FGS!!!

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JohnCusacksWife · 02/03/2014 21:06

Lying, perhaps "prude" was a bit unfair. She is a lovely person but quite uptight about anything related to nudity, sexuality etc. I really don't have an issue with how she chooses to behave in her home but was a bit taken aback with the suggestion that there was something wrong with how we behave in ours. I was only asking because she suggested to me that what we did was "not right". I just wanted a second opinion on whether we were being inappropriate. I am absolutely not saying my way is right and her way is wrong....she was the one who suggested we were in the wrong. Not the other way around.

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RevoltingPeasant · 02/03/2014 21:32

I'm aware that some people will probably want to call SS on me after reading this, but actually children don't, IMO, have the right to tell their parents what to wear.

I think it is fine for pubescent children to become shy or weird about their own bodies. They may want to use the bathroom on their own, get changed separately etc - fine.

However their immaturity should not set the standard for the whole household and people who are comfortable walking around in their own house shouldn't be put to inconvenience because one person in the house develops hang ups. If a child of mine started covering their eyes and saying Ewwww because they walked in on me in the shower, I'd remind them quick smart how many times I'd changed their nappies and cleaned up their poo, and tell them not to be so bloody rude!

Nudity is not sexual. Having sex in front of DC = wrong, being naked isn't.