to be perfectly happy in my own company?

[Stinklebell]

because apparently it's "weird"

I'm not madly extrovert, not a hermit either, but I am perfectly happy pottering around by myself.

I work part time from home, and I've just had a very nice couple of hours with Sky+ and my ironing pile

DH is the opposite, loves company, always organising get togethers and nights out - even stuff like a Saturday night takeaway turns into a mad social gathering and sometimes I just find it a bit too much.

My DH went away with our kids a couple of weeks ago, and a friend was all "oh, you can't stay home on your own, I'll be over Friday with some wine, we'll go shopping Saturday then we'll go out Saturday night". It was lovely of her, but she didn't quite get that actually, I am just fine tootling around alone. I like mooching around the shops on my own, I like chilling out with a film or something on my own. I don't want to stand outside the school gates for an hour every morning chatting, or go somewhere for coffee or meet up for lunch every day

I don't mind friends over, I don't mind meeting friends for a coffee, I just don't want to do it all the time. I like my own space, I like my own company, I'm not bored or lonely, I just don't want to be surrounded by people all the time.

It's not unreasonable, right?

Waterlego....ditto.

Always a corner, or a wall at least. Centre of the room...last resort!

Now DH and I both love our own companies, as said earlier we are very understanding of that, but we are both happy with each other.
This is almost to the exclusion of others. We work together too, but we finish at different times so I get time at work on my own and he gets time at home.
The thing is I think we are becoming introverted as one person!

Laq, I bloody hate it when dh ends up at home rather than away. All my plans gone out of the window.
He is away all week, gets back Friday and so far, as I thought am loving it. When he gets back I am on a weekend away with my oldest dearest friends. We will drink and dance and chat. Tables will be danced on, shots will be consumed, marvellous.

The above sort of sums me up. A partying loner

I love my own company

totally agree.

bliss is dh out (bless him) and 4 kids out too.

glass of wine and midsommer murders. fabbi.

and I hate shopping with any other women apart from my teen dds as they will bugger off with a tenner each while I sit in a wine bar with a nice cold glass and watch the world go by.

I NEED space to myself, at least an hour a day, or I get grumpy and pissedo ff with the world. I love to potter, read, get out in the garden, watch a Good film, surf the web...

I do also like being in company, but it always tires me after more than about an hour. I like to know I COULD have company if I wanted it, but will happily, blissfully, have a day to myself. Yanbu. :)

I'm the same, I've always been that way. I love a good night out and being with friends, but not all the time. I equally need time alone, doing what I want and some space.
I am confident, I am not a loner and I am perfectly happy - sometimes people just don't 'get' it.
I was at university with a girl who came from a big family, she couldn't deal with not being with people. She would constantly charge into my room and talk for hours on end, she'd be arranging nights out or social events for every evening. She just couldn't physically have a night off to herself, it made her feel insecure and upset. It drove me insane!!
I think my introverted nature is simply a sign of self-assurance and being content with yourself.... I just wish society as whole would see it that way too

I am another home buddy who enjoys my own company.

I have some friends who I see occasionally and chat to, but I am not big on going out.

Activities like shopping are not social occasions to me. I do like it occasionally, but I am very much a lone shopper. I want to browse what I want, when I want to, and without being beholden to anyone else.

I do like to have the occasional meet-up with other people for a coffee and a catch-up, but not all that regularly. I can just as happily sit in a cafe alone with my cappuccino and either read or watch the world go by.

Also, much as a do love my children, my favourite time of day is when they have just gone to school and peace descends on my house. I can then have my own breakfast and cup of tea uninterrupted. It is absolute bliss.

What I really hate, really, really hate, is when I think I am having some time alone and someone pops in, or I see someone whilst out shopping. Then I have to be all chatty when I was looking forward to just zoning out and being by myself.

Topsey, I am a lone shopper, lone runner and lone gym goer. Cannot stand people with me for those pursuits.

YANBU I love my own company and get stressed and down when I can't have time alone.

Having your friend over on the Friday or the Saturday night would have been fun but not the entire weekend.

I sat and read the "introverts advantage" this evening... it all made so much sense..

*I don't hate visitors, I just need them only to come for 2-3 hrs and then go so I can have my space..
*I'm not odd cause I only have 2-3 friends..
*I'm not odd cause my mind goes blank when people ask me a question..
*I'm not odd cause I struggle with small talk..
*I hated being at Uni, I realise now that if I'd had a flat to myself (as I did for my MSc and work) instead of having to share a house/Uni accommodation then I would have found it so much easier...
*I'm not odd cause I arrange meet ups for once a week or less - my way of not seeing too many people nor am I odd cause I find too many arrangements in a day stressful..

I could go on! Why didn't I realise all this years ago?!

I'm a shy extrovert. I'm happiest in a room full of people, but quite often I seem to be ignoring them because I have no idea how to talk to them.

Being stuck indoors quite literally drives me mad (and before the pedants start, yes it does. I have a long term severe mental illness that gets notably worse if I'm stuck alone for too long.) I will quite happily sit on my front doorstep reading, just to be part of the world.

I also love love love people coming round, but get in a right tizzy about it if I know in advance. I want them there, but I don't want the fear that they won't come, or that they won't like it, or that they won't want to be my friend. I'm quite needy, really.

"alone with other people" makes me happy Reading in a busy library or cafe recharges my batteries.

Wow, this is really enlightening. Do you think we're slightly "on the spectrum"? I have (identify with) many (many) of the traits mentioned here. Sometimes it's so daunting being in social situations and such hard work/angst ridden that it's just easier to do something else! And yet, though I'm not a social person, you'd never pick me out in a crown as being antisocialas such. DH and I talked about this recently and he was adamant I'm socially confident, excellent company in "public" and with a great sense of humour. I deny that accusation, emphatically! Maybe that's why I like Mumsnet.....I can converse, when I want to. Or not.

Good morning all Socially Reserved folk!

Ohh, i love my own company and have always had. Dh is the same. i do not drink and most of my friends don't drink either. we meet once in blue moon and still manage to continue where we left off. I am at home on ML now ,what bliss.

i guess i could say i am balanced but given a choice i would choose the introvert. If i am at a social setting i go with the flow but nothing beats coming home and sitting in my couch Mning. So it is very much normal. My Dd is the same as well. She is only 3 but is much her own person and loves playing alone if at home and misses her friends when not in daycare..

Good morning fellow introverts. I am finding this quite strange. I suppose that because of our nature, we don't get to meet many people like ourselves.
Get very fed up with our image in the world. Have you noticed that the media always points out when 'a loner' goes on a killing spree.
Maybe we should start a pressure group. One with no meetings obvs.

*I don't hate visitors, I just need them only to come for 2-3 hrs and then go so I can have my space..
*I'm not odd cause I only have 2-3 friends..
*I'm not odd cause my mind goes blank when people ask me a question..
*I'm not odd cause I struggle with small talk..

Yes! It's quite liberating actually, I used to apologise for myself, thinking I was just an odd, miserable grump, but actually, fuck it, maybe I am odd but I can't help it

I've never really looked properly at the definition of "introvert" before, I mean, I thought I knew what it meant, assumed I was an introvert, but not actually looked at the introvert/extrovert energy thing.

DH has taken the kids to school on his way to work this morning and it's bliss, the house is quiet and I'm having a nice cup of coffee in peace. Got a couple of hours work to do, then a nice tramp along the beach with dog (so long as I can sneak out of the house without dog walking neighbour collaring me )

Kittensoft... a no pressure pressure group

Britt...I like that idea....alone with other people.

Likewise....window shopping, doing a crossword over coffee, visiting the library

Barley . Quite.