aibu, letting dd wear boys swimming trunks...

[5madthings]

So dd is just threeand totally obsessed by dinosaurs, I was sorting out some of the boys old clothes (4 older boys) and putting some away for dd, I found a pair of dinosaur swimming trunks. Dd saw them and immediately wanted to put them on, and loves them. They are fitted shorts style and fit fine will be perfectfor this summer.

Anyway I figure they are fine for beach or swimming, on the beach she will prob wear a t-shirt as well purely because of sun etc but for swimming in a pool the trunks are fine...or so I thought but mentioned it in passing to a friend who thought dd should wear a full costume or atleast a bikini type top... really?!

Last year she had a tankini thing, purely as she was potty training and it was easier, she liked the top so wore it as well but obviousy didnt need to wear it, what with having no boobs!

I think the trunks are fine, she likes them and saves buying new, but then I remebered a thread on here where a toddler girl was told (well her parents were told) she must cover her top half as she is a girl.

I am hoping our pool doesnt have this policy!

So aibu to let dd wear boys trunks or should I buy her a costume?

I took my dd's swimming in just a swimming nappy until they were 2-ish. I'd be surprised if anyone batted an eyelid.

My dd is 8 now and every year on holiday she would just wear shorts or bottoms but this year she will need to wear a top she's not got boobs but you can see she's filling out

But I the swimming pool she always wore a costume

I find it vulgar to see young kids in bikini tops. What are they for?! Makes them look like little women which I find a lot worse than just wearing swimming pants.

My DD is 9 and said the other day that for her next fancy dress party she wants to go as a "Surfer dude" and wear surf shorts, no top and have a spray tan!

I said, "well maybe you should wear a swimming suit or shorts and a top?" and she said "Come on Mum, I'll have boobs soon and then I can't be topless anymore!"

She's right of course but I think she'd still raise eyebrows in drag!

Everlong - the girl in DS1's swimming class doesn't have breasts or even buds yet, but has a slight curve to her waist and looks as if she is just starting to 'fill out' a bit all over, iyswim (now it sounds as if I spend all my time gawping at her. Sigh.)

Her 'trunks' are actually quite feminine, and look to be the bottom half of a nice, sporty-style bikini. It really doesn't look weird, and no-one appears to be bothered by it - and we are not in some hippy-dippy, let-it-all-hang-out place. I've assumed that she has a bikini, doesn't like the top half or finds it a faff, and do wears only the bottoms. Might be wrong, though. It really doesn't seem weird, and I actually think it's nice that she's not self-conscious about her body yet.

Rash vests are brilliant for keeping children warm and I would get one but not so her completely undeveloped breasts are covered just so she is warm in the pool.

youarewinning that would be fab if you dont mind? Will pm you :)

DD is in Year 2 and does weekly swimming at school. She doesn't like swimming costumes at all, says they ride up and are always uncomfortable. She wears shark board shorts and a striped piranha rash top. She is the only girl not in a costume. The teacher had a word with me a while ago and said the swimming instructor had brought up dd's 'inappropriate' outfit. I dug further and the instructor quoted the school policy of 'girls must wear full swimming costumes'. The headteacher laughed and explained that it was only bikinis they were advising against because they're impractical and ridiculous on children who are learning to swim. He said as long as she's wearing comfortable, practical swimwear, then she can wear board shorts and a top for as long as she likes. Interestingly, the swimming instructor still comments on dd's 'maverick' behaviour. Och well.

Can the boys swim in onesies?