To find this offensive

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As I was leaving my neurology appointment, I have epilepsy, the receptionist loudly said to her colleague "I nearly had a fit the other night when I saw the state of the house".

To me wrong in many ways. Firstly, wrong terminology secondly, demeaning to people who have SEIZURES, could be upsetting for those newly diagnosed plus just generally inappropriate.

and really, this does nothing to help any "stigma and shame surrounding epilepsy"...which by the way we do not tend to find happens at all, perhaps because we don't go searching it out.
Its a common neurological condition, that many people have. Why pretend there is any shame in it? Why take offence? You're creating the problems you are complaining about.

exactly what mrsdevere said up-thread. Usually a turn of phrase but considering her job and the particular ward she works on, not on in any context! very unprofessional.

A competition. I'm fucking offended* by that.

*so fucking what.

I quite like horses. If someone said "I could eat a horse", I would not be upset. It's a benign turn of phrase.

"AIBU?"

"Yes."

"No I'm not!"

Nurseries refusing to take children with epilepsy?! Is that even legal?

Of course there i stigma to having epilepsy. If you think there is not then you are either ignorant or a complete fucking fool. I am going to have to walk away from this thread. Some of the idiots on here are enraging me. If one of your kids gets epilepsy and you think they have died in your arms, see how fucking touchy you feel about people bandying round the word fit or eppie. Goodbye.

The only competition I see here is who can kick the OP hardest.

You think she's BU. Fine. Calling her pathetic and ridiculous and falling over each other to compete to be the meanest though is lowest of the low.

The OP has health issues and has said she's had bad news today but here you are still seeing who can put the boot in hardest.

It's awful.

Personally I feel given the setting the OP was NBU to feel sensitive about the comment.

YABU having a fit over the state of the house is a contraction of a 'a fit of anger' ( ie. a short sustained bout of rage) not an epileptic fit. In this context, it is no more offensive than saying, 'I'm sorry the Docto can't fit you in today.'

If she'd said 'I came into the house and chucked an epy' then you may have had a point. But even then you shouldn't be earwigging on private conversations.

The receptionist shouldn't be expected to account for the dim and pointlessly offended when she is speaking to a colleague.

I'm a complete fucking fool? Please tell me what stigma you think my son is supposed to have that I don't see in my daily life? Do you understand the word? Do tell us all why my child has "extreme disapproval of (or discontent with) a person or group on socially characteristic grounds that are perceived, and serve to distinguish them, from other members of a society".
You think I wouldn't fucking notice? You think his father, who is now classed as epilepsy free, wouldn't notice?
Fuck off. Maybe you surround yourself with twats who stigmatise you, doesn't mean we all do.

Weirdthing> "And Arsepaste - calling yourself an 'epileptic' is very much non PC these days."

I KNOW, that was my POINT! I have epilepsy. And if I call myself an epileptic, that is MY choice. However, someone supporting the OP shouldn't be referring to people as "epileptics" at all. I was making the point to someone else, that they were in the wrong to use the phrase.

Very bizarre, Annabel. I have a parent with epilepsy and she's faced with plenty of stigma. People doubting their ability to do things and be safe in situations where it's really not an issue.

yabu, the world doesn't revolve around you're feelings. It's your choice to be offended by innocent comments from others and their lack of psychic ability about what could potentially offend the desperately seeking to be offended. You can't and shouldn't expect anybody to take that unreasonableness seriously.

I don't think that just because some people with epilepsy are saying that they wouldn't be offended that the OP is wrong because she is.
There may well be others reading this who like to post in support but won't because of the way the OP is getting the piss taken.

Because of course a clinical specialist in Neurology would be completely oblivious to how that comment could be construed. Right oh.

MrsDeVere

I would not come on AIBU to ask AIBU to educate the pricks that said next time you do that can I give you a cocktail shaker cos I bet you make a mean sex on the beach! When I was coming round from a seizure.
This is one of many things said to be.

me

I,apologise for using the term "epileptic people"

Arse I still think it's inappropriate to call the OP a tit.

And Op I think you should hide this thread as you will continue to get called all sorts of names.