To siphon off DH's money?

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DH gets paid cash and always has a lot of coins floating about (always pays with a note and just shoves change in his pocket). We've always had a small change jar, but I recently got one of those big money saving tins that you can't get into without a can opener. So I've started putting DH's £1's and £2's in there, along with some notes sometimes if I think he won't miss them with the intention of when it's full, it might pay for something nice for us; something to put towards a holiday maybe.

I haven't told DH I'm doing it, he knows I have the tin but thinks I just put the odd £1 in it, he hasn't noticed anything missing (he often gives me change for parking meter at work for example) and the reason I haven't told him is just because I want it to be a nice surprise for him. I'm not planning on running off with it.

Told my coworker yesterday though and she thinks it's stealing! That it's "his money" and I shouldn't take it.

So what do you think? AIBU? Should I tell him I'm doing it?

yep, I've been doing this for years, he never notices the odd couple of pound a week, around 6 years ago we were going on holiday, his car had broke down and he was stressing about paying for the car to get fixed plus his holiday money.

I told him to take the tin to the local coin bank in asda, he was there over an hour and came home with £462. The woman at the desk had to call the cash office as she didnt have enough in her tin to pay him. I know that money would have gone on crap here and there and its so nice to actually have a large enough amount to use.

Trouble is though ds now beats me to it, if he sees spare pennies lying around he grabs hold of them and runs off to his piggy bank - he is only 19 months so its cute at the moment!!

Certainly dont think of it at stealing though! carry on what your doing op, Im sure he'll love the surprise!

I just find this thread really sad, that whatever your financial situation, couples can't sit down & make a plan together & one half has to resort to subterfuge.

magimedi you find it "really" sad? Check out the relationships board if you want to see really sad. Really sad is not saving money to surprise your partner with

maid she isn't keeping the money, she's putting in a tin for dh later on. Not the same as what your dh is doing.

You're married

You raise a family together

It isn't 'his' money, it belongs to both of you.

So YANBU.

I've done this with loose change, ended up with about £600 after a couple years.

I don't see it as 'stealing' my DH's money, we have joint bank accounts and share our finances, so it's our money in the first place - it was loose change that DH was leaving in little piles all over the house - he has a 'thing' about change and empties it straight out of his pockets, I once found £15 in pound coins chucked in the kitchen drawer

It meant we could hire a self catering cottage for a holiday instead of going camping again.

He was massively surprised by how much there was and that he had potentially wasted £600