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To think my dd is making a porn film!

87 replies

ManifestoMT · 16/02/2014 22:47

Due to the amount of lardy arse and saggy tit footage she has broadcast of me on fecking FaceTime to her 7 yr old friends. I can't walk out of the shower without her papping me.

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AwfulMaureen · 16/02/2014 23:24

I would in no way let a 7 year old indulge in this.

Bogeyface · 16/02/2014 23:25

AF you know I am on your team!

But I dont see an accidental arse shot as disrespect. I was having an early bath as was going out and she forgot to knock if the door is shut. The only person I do take issue with her friends mum who takes the piss every time I see her, but on the upside, we are now friends (I posted about her a couple of weeks ago, wondering how I could make friends with her. Turns out that her DD seeing my flabby arse getting in the bath was all it took :o)

Joules68 · 16/02/2014 23:25

You knew the lock was broken but have ant fixed it I guess bogey

Ten minute job really

FaceTime is quite intrusive tho. Dd rang last night from uni using if, nice to see her, but made her even more homesick watching us all!

Picturesinthefirelight · 16/02/2014 23:25

You can set a password & disable FaceTime so they can only use it under your supervision.

AwfulMaureen · 16/02/2014 23:27

It's too young. They don;t need to be doing this and believe me, once they realise that it can be used as a weapon, they will indulge.

I intercepted messages on Moshi Monsters where my DDs friends were bitching about another child in their class...discussing what was in the rooms of her home...and trying to get her to post "sex talk" by asking her to complete lyrics of songs...and then deleting their own contribution so that it looked like the victim was saying "Don't you think I'm sexy?" and similar.

AnyFucker · 16/02/2014 23:29

I know, BF Smile

A one off "background mistake" is one thing. Is that what OP is saying though ? She seems to think it funny that her 7yo has enough footage for a "porn film" and appears to be deliberatley catching her out as some sort of pratfall bollocks

WorraLiberty · 16/02/2014 23:31

I understand what face time is

My kids are not allowed to wander around the house while using it

It was the first rule I put in place with FT and with Skype too

Your home is your private place. They wouldn't invite a friend in without asking first, so they wouldn't wander around the house with a phone or tablet either.

Bogeyface · 16/02/2014 23:36

Joules no I havent fixed it. Yes it is a ten minute job, as are all the other ten minute jobs that need doing.

Are you telling me that there is nothing in your house that would just take ten minutes that you havent done? That there is no outstanding jobs that you think "oh, I need to do that...I will do it this week" and then another week goes by and you just havent got around to it?

I got a major bollocking once from DD (15 at the time). I was 9 months PG, 2 days before I gave birth and one of the hottest days of the year. I had a cool bath and lay on my bed on a towel to let the heat evapourate. DD walked in, to MY room, without knocking and got very pissed off that I was naked where "anyone could see you!" she meant of course her! She didnt want to see that, and I cant say I was too thrilled that she saw me doing my best Moby Dick impression. Was that my fault too?

MrsGoslingWannabe · 16/02/2014 23:43

Porn isn't a 40 year old's naked body anyway.

LimeMiniPumpkin · 16/02/2014 23:43

I am a. a person with a broken bathroom lock, b. a mediocre parent c. fairly nonchalant about nudity in the house and d. my kids have FaceTime and Skype.

They know not to use it outside of their own rooms because that is basic privacy for everyone else in the house. I don't think we've ever really discussed this because it is so obvious! I think the kids in question need to be reminded of privacy before they go out in the world with Smart phones in a few years and start filming others without consent.

AnyFucker · 16/02/2014 23:46

the thing is, BF, a broken doorlock is not really the issue

we don't have any doorlocks in our house (apart from the downstairs loo, which tends to put house visitors more at ease) but I just know my kids would never do this

a one off mistake is one thing (something not noticed in the background), but to deliberately share something that compromises another person....nope, even when mine were 7yo they would fear my wrath too much to do that

I am very far from a perfect parent

AngryBeaver · 16/02/2014 23:48

Erm,I think we know what face time is!!
This is MUMSNET, you know, for mums..online? Which means we know how to use, you know, technology?

I have a 7 year old. We use FaceTime together to talk to friends/relatives (we live in another country so do this often) .
We use our iPad mini, actually (ooh, see how advanced we are?!)
BUT, she's 7. I think it's inappropriate to give a 7 yr old free reign to walk around a house talking to friends using a camera.

My dd hasn't even got to the stage of asking to use the phone!
I like it like that.

My dc's are allowed to play on my iPad, with me in the same room.
Or on the mac, again with me around.

Bit I think it's quite bizarre that your dd and her friends all FT each other like mini adults?
And after the first instance of accidental nudity, that would have been the end of that.

Like people have said. YOU are the parent? If you don't like what's happening, make it stop.

Disclaimer: I also have a GSOH, but your post isn't funny, it just makes you sound ineffectual

Bogeyface · 16/02/2014 23:50

DD and I did have a chat about it, she is allowed to do it in the conservatory now, because I can hear her but she isnt so close that everyone is disturbed by it. And chatting is not an excuse for not realising that she needs to knock on the loo door!

I didnt get that the OP's DD was doing it on purpose, but if she was I would guess it was a bet or a silly game and yes Iwould be having a word about it.

CouthyMow · 16/02/2014 23:56

Blush Am I so old fashioned that despite having DC's ranging in age from 3yo to 15yo, that I can't see the need for a 7yo to be using FaceTime without it being one of his / her parents or grandparents on the phone, under the direct supervision of a parent? Last time I checked I was still only 32, and also that none of my children had died from lack of unsupervised use of the internet at Primary school age - or even under 14...

CouthyMow · 16/02/2014 23:59

And as it turns out, 15 was too young too...in my DD's case! And that was 15 and 9 months before she had unsupervised access to the internet, she still wasn't ready. Despite having had internet safety talks from me, from Primary school, every year plus PSHE lessons in Secondary school.

Isn't it called PARENTING to keep an eye on your DC's online presence? It only took 3 weeks of unsupervised access to realise that my DD wasn't keeping herself safe, and therefore losing the ability to have unsupervised internet access.

Starballbunny · 17/02/2014 00:05

Fortunately my FaceTime addict chats to her best mate sitting in her room. Random wandering round the house on any kind of video call is clearly not on.

AmberSpyglass · 17/02/2014 00:17

This thread title is utterly vile.

A one off mistake is fair enough (though you'd think before you let a small child use this sort of thing you might make sure they knew how to use it appropriately), however once you realised what had happened you would surely make sure it NEVER happened again, wouldn't you?

waltermittymissus · 17/02/2014 08:40

Ah I didn't read properly. I didn't realise OP was about to get in the bath and daughter walked in on her.

Still, my 7 year old wouldn't do this...or if he did it would be once and he damn sure wouldn't do it again!

Horses for courses I guess. He's very, very tech savvy so I watch him like a hawk.

The title when talking about a 7 year old is a bit grim though!

As you were...

RedFocus · 17/02/2014 09:25

My daughter does this when she's talking to her dad, my ex. He's overheard things he shouldn't and he's seen things he hasn't seen in a long time Wink my daughter walks in with her iPad to ask me something (usually when I'm getting dressed) and he sees it all. I am beginning to suspect he is asking her to ask me silly things on purpose Hmm

sweetkitty · 17/02/2014 09:33

My 8 year old face times her friends BUT she is it allowed out the living room with the iPad. I wouldn't trust them wandering around the house incase they dropped it.

They also shout "can I come in?" before entering our bedroom.

JeanSeberg · 17/02/2014 09:34

Why don't you put a stop to it Red?

frugalfuzzpig · 17/02/2014 09:36
Confused
frugalfuzzpig · 17/02/2014 09:38

My DD doesn't even realise yet that chatting to her school friends outside school is actually possible Blush

I don't think she'd be bothered though, she wouldn't sit still long enough Hmm

Onesleeptillwembley · 17/02/2014 09:41

I don't pretend to be a perfect parent. I do, however claim to have a err lets say very inclusive sense of humour. I don't find this funny. Just the and sad.

nennypops · 17/02/2014 09:42

Do stop jumping down OP's throat, people, and take off the judgypants. It really isn't an "utterly vile" thread title, this is not the end of civilisation as we know it, and you are not all the perfect parents you make yourselves out to be.