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To not want to encourage raspberries?

65 replies

NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:39

A bit petty but here goes.
DS is 14 months.
Has good oro-motor development
Has a handful of words, mum, dad, woof, hiya, more, milk, hi 5, bye.
He is very communicative and playful.

MIL keeps encouraging him to blow raspberries. He can do these easily and loudly. They sound very trump like!!
I'd rather not encourage it but it's become her party trick with him and she kind of shows off!

Would you say anything? I think it will get less cute as he gets older.

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BlueFrenchHorn · 15/02/2014 15:41

Why does she encourage him to blow raspberries? She thinks they're cute?

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NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:42

Yes she thinks it's funny

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ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 15/02/2014 15:42

Oh offs, don't be so petty.

They're only babies once.

Joysmum · 15/02/2014 15:42

It didn't take my DD to realise that what I allowed, and what others allowed were very different. Children are adaptable.

WorraLiberty · 15/02/2014 15:43

Most babies work out how to blow them eventually anyway. I wouldn't worry about it.

What is 'oro-motor development'?

Does it mean he's learning to speak well?

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NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:44

Yes but I would rather she teach him a new word, or song with actions.
I think I possibly am petty and wouldn't care if he was say 8 months.

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MBT1987 · 15/02/2014 15:44

You know what I say to this?

PBBBBBBBBBBBT!

Raspberries are hilarious. My DP still does them to me. Grin

BlueFrenchHorn · 15/02/2014 15:46

I wouldn't tell a 14 month off for blowing raspberries but I certainly wouldn't encourage it. When he's 2 you'll get your MIL saying 'oh he's so naughty terrible twos" and all that.

My mother used to encourage my dc to kick the cat which I very much hated.

MardyBra · 15/02/2014 15:46

I'd be more concerned about him saying "hiya".

BabyMummy29 · 15/02/2014 15:46

My XMIL always used to have an obsession with this as well as using silly baby words that I hated.

If I objected she used to say "Nonsense" and whatever I said or did made no difference. Silly old cow.

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NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:46

It means the muscles in his mouth are developing well and allow him to chew a range of textures and make a range of sounds.
Most children go through a lip smacking/raspberry stage before they babble. They babble different sounds then begin words.

If he didn't have good oro-motor control the raspberry blowing would be a good idea.

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Cranky01 · 15/02/2014 15:46

No don't encourage raspberries, my 3 year old and 1 year ok do then too each other all the time, it drives me up the wall and I think it's rude and unhygienic.

Muddlewitch · 15/02/2014 15:47

It's an awkward one.
My DD2 (5) has started doing this as someone as school apparently does it and she can't possibly think for herself grr.
I told her the tooth fairy can tell who has done a lot of raspberrying and reduces payment accordingly.
Might not work for a 14 month old though I suppose. Hmm
Maybe you could say something lighthearted to MIL along the lines of "I'll make sure I tell his future teacher who taught him that" followed by hearty laugh with a little bit of a stare.

WorraLiberty · 15/02/2014 15:47

You'd rather she taught him a new word or song with actions? Confused

Really, you have many years ahead raising your child.

Don't sweat the small stuff or try to micro manage too much.

You'll just stress yourself out and everyone around you.

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NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:48

bluefrenchhorn exactly. At some point it will definitely become something less desirable.

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Wantsunshine · 15/02/2014 15:49

This is such a minor issue. Why does it matter if he does this. Seriously count your blessings if this is all you have to worry about.

AwfulMaureen · 15/02/2014 15:49

YABU it won't last. In about a month....he'll have a new party trick. They develop very quickly from here on in.

ChazzerChaser · 15/02/2014 15:50

Don't sweat the small stuff

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NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:50

worra No I mean if she wants a party piece, which is what this is, then 'ready steady go' or something would be better.

With DS they taught him to throw things off the sofa (piles of newspapers/magazines). It tips from cute to obnoxious.

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NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:51

Yep is a small issue, which I said when I first posted.

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WeAreDetective · 15/02/2014 15:52

Darn... Thought this was a gardening thread.

Or an ICT thread.

I didn't think it would be a cute baby making funny noises thread Grin

MardyBra · 15/02/2014 15:53

This really is a non issue.

OutragedFromLeeds · 15/02/2014 15:54

It will become less desirable/less cute as he gets older and he'll stop doing it.

He'll also stop using a buggy and shitting in his pants.

What they do at 14 months doesn't continue forever.

They change! MIL probably knows this, having raised her own children.

Does DH have an obsession with raspberries?

WorraLiberty · 15/02/2014 15:57

When he's shouting Cuuuunt instead of 'cant' on a crowded bus

You'll look back at the raspberries and smile...

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NightCircus · 15/02/2014 15:57

Ok I'll not bother about it (but this will be reviewed at 18 months!!)

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