Aibu to buy valentines cards for my children

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Bought them on impulse whilst doing shopping, DH thinks it's a bit strangeð???

And i agree with lying

Well we're going to be putting the jack valentine presents out for the kids soon, guess that makes me and dh creepy weirdo sinister peedos

Yes, bamboo, obviously it does. Throughout this thread there have been posters saying that anybody who gives their child a valentine card is a 'creepy weirdo sinister peedo'... you should all be on the register and have your children removed from you. Perhaps MN could draw up a special one for all the valentine freaks

You think it's inappropriate to send a innocuous/non sexual card to your own child, that is so sad on several levels

My Dad did this when I was 17 then 18 when I had a rocky relationship and when was single and had a bad year.

Now I am in a relationship he doesn't do it though.
But does pick up an extra box of Matchmakers for me :)

From Wikipedia:

The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately 190 million valentines are sent each year in the US. Half of those valentines are given to family members other than husband or wife, usually to children. When you include the valentine-exchange cards made in school activities the figure goes up to 1 billion, and teachers become the people receiving the most valentines.[61]

2tired... Does it matter what I think? Really? If you really want to know, I think it's incredibly sad that some parents/mothers/fathers/whatever cannot bear not to involve their children in everything that goes on in life. There seems to be so few boundaries between kid-stuff and adult-stuff.

I don't think it's appropriate to send valentine cards to your children - or anybody elses. Valentines Day - apart from being a huge commercial opportunity to be milked - is about romantic love. I think it's for non-attached people but it's definitely for adults, not children.

It really seems to be that everybody wants to muscle in on it, they can't let days traditionally set aside for a certain group (unattached singles) be left for them. Not only that, there needs to be a huge fuss about valentines for partners with the attending 'grief' if the wrong chocolates or wrong-size lingerie is purchased by the errant MAN (and it is ALWAYS the men who are criticised - many women seem to do nothing yet expect the moon on a stick). Then, to put the tin lid on it - the children have to be involved because... well, because they can't be 'left out', told 'no' or just explained to, they must be pandered to forthwith! I think it's the parents who generally insist on the pandering, not the children and, if you are a 'traditionalist', you find it creepy and irksome because it's not about parental love and never was.

The 'day', such as it was has been well and truly bastardised to take account of the wants of Joe Public who is absolutely entitled to grab and dilute every occasion for themselves, no matter how inappropriate. I remember my gran/granddad saying something like, 'Oh let's leave that to the youngsters'. I can't remember the context but it was right - they didn't want to change the atmosphere/expectation of something. I doubt whether you'd hear it now. It's all 'anything goes' and we're entitled to do whatever we want because we want to.

I could take offence that you think my view is 'sad on so many levels' but I don't, I accept it as your opinion, which I don't share. Each to their own as somebody wisely posted upthread.

I am not Christian and I don't send cards to anyone accept my elderly Mother, because of my environmental/waste beliefs.

However the original meaning if Valantines Day and the meaning to the Christian Church, is the celebration and giving of Love between peo

tired... We don't pledge allegiance to the flag in the UK either. Traditions from other countries aren't necessarily traditions here - although it may be moving that way. American consumerism is huge; it's not something that I personally feel should be emulated; the UK has its own traditions but, time marches on.

I sent my dd a card she's 8 and was so happy

Sorry, between people, as in "Human Love", but that can now be extended to pets in the Western Prosperous world, I suppose.

I hate the way on MN (and other places) when people quote "the true meaning" and get it wrong.

There was a varity of reasons why, around the world and at different times, it changed to just Romantic, or Sexual love, but it doesn't mean that everyone has to follow that.

I probably meant offence by it if i'm totally honest, I can totally understand people who think the whole things a waste of time etc etc, but creepy and innappropriate it is not, and 'day set aside for a certain group' puhlease! My DC arent pandered to, if you knew me you know that but you dont so in the words of Hullygully Ner

Erm ok Lying..

My last post was to tiredbutnotweary, sorry 2tiredtocare, she posted about American tradition, it wasn't a jibe at you (or anybody else).

Fair enough

I also think it's sad and actually quite offensive that people are saying that it is creepy to send cards to children, and I am hardly offended by anything.

And then all the backtracking about not actually calling 'people' creepy, and it being nothing to do with pedophiles, of course that is what is being implied.

We all exchange cards in our family, my Dad used to give them to me and my sister when we were little. Nothing 'creepy' about any of us.

YES YES YES! YABU

My mum did this for years, I was heartbroken when she told me it was her all along. Made me totally give up on valentines!

workhouse, I don't 'backtrack'. There's a difference between calling people creepy (which nobody did) and calling the giving of valentines to children 'creepy' (which some people did).

You can infer what you like though.

My Dad used to send me a card, he always signed it ??? I knew it it was from him, it was lovely. He passed away last year and these cards now bring back happy memories, nothing creepy about it whatsoever.

You read some of the pet threads on here and you'd imagine people sending cards to their dogs. I expect it will happen, because where there is money to be made, someone always rushes in with something to buy.

Me too skivvywoman, and she was so happy.

I don't understand this 'creepy' stuff.

Not weird I buy my dd a card. I always got a little heart shaped choc every year from my mum its sweet gesture

We buy cards and pressies for our children.Always have done and DH feels the same as me,we both think it's nice to include the children.

They always really appreciate it and they all go soppy when they open they're cards and pressies from us even our nearly 18 year old DS.

My Dad used to always buy me a valentines card and a little pressie and I always really loved him for doing that.

I have done it for my dc's for 22 years now - it would be weird if they did not get one each after 22 years.
A woman in work took flowers to her mum today in her lunch hour.
What's the issue? There are age appropriate cards you buy for your children, they say - you're really cute... And I love you because you are funny and kind and make me smile - where's the harm in that?

What is stupid is arguing about if you should or should not do it. Respect each other's views eh? World would be a much nicer place.

I guess valentines day means different things to different people. For me it's just a bit of fun, a way of telling people you love them and it put a smile on my4 year olds face. Nothing sexual in it and I don't like the insinuation that it is.

This thread is depressing!