to think this mother was Completely Out Of Order Today

[mentaltodolist]

Revealed tonight by an upset DD: -
Today DD, age 6 (youngest in class) was eating her lunch in school gym with friends when the mother of boy (age 7 1/2) in her class came in, went up to DD's ear and said 'stop distracting ' (insert son's name) in class'. Her DS then came & stood next to his mother. My DD said 'I did not distract **' - mother then said 'I'm going to speak to your Mum about this'. DD said 'OK'.
General Background: My DD has been off school with a D&V bug for a week & was just back in class today. This woman is chair of the Parents Assoc. She ranted at the Head during a meeting I was at & said 'Bullsht' about a particular matter. Her son cries before school most mornings - I know he's having a hard time in class & in a reading support group. He has called my DD 'wierd' on a few occasions but my DD - just shrugged it off. Anyway - I'm actually furious, as is DH.
I feel like the mother should have spoken to the teacher if her son was 'distracted' in class. I speak to DD's teacher every day after school. She is new & very, very thorough, giving a detailed précis of every single occurrence in class re: work & behaviour. I've drafted an email to Teacher & Head but haven't pressed Send as I need to breathe first. What would you do???

Quick update: no meeting with HT as she was called out to district meetings all day. I'm e-mailed her to ask if I should 'follow up with the class teacher' & no response as yet.
Cameleon: I actually would love to know how HT is dealing with this (sanctions / action etc) but as you say, I'm not sure if I can ask or if she will tell.
Hmmmm...

It would be fabulous if she was made to apologise to your Dd.

Why was that woman allowed have access to someone else's child during school hours when she is not a paid employee of the school? I'd kick up a murderous fuss. That's outrageous and very, very inappropriate of her. Wagon.

We did not go to the Valentine PTA Party that Mother Of The Distracted organised. Instead we all ate special chocolate sundae ice-creams out

Whilst I'm sure this was much more fun, do let the head teacher know that you/your DD did not feel you could attend a school event due to your upset over this incident.

How dare she! Who does that!?

Have you heard anything further mentaltodolist? I work in a school and some parents who wheedle their way into schools (through PTA or governors) are unbelievable (lots are fantastic though)! We had a parent governor caught in the office trying to sneak a peek at the next year class lists in the register (always a hot topic as we have mixed year groups)

I do hope she is made to apologise!

Any update OP?

Write to the head personally, relate the cold hard facts and explain that having handed your child into school's care for the day, you would naturally not have expected your child approached and intimidated, castigated or whatever else by other parents acting on the basis of what their children say. It saddens you to have to bring this to the head's attention as - like any parent or teacher - you would think it went without saying that governors/PTA having personal confrontations with the pupils (in the absence of a parent or teacher or not) would not be considered alright.

If you get a belligerent response, you have to take another tack, but for now I expect you will get the head/other teachers on side very quickly if you are firm and reasonable and offer them an attractive chance to agree without necessarily waging war on this odd lady.

I'm not sure if I made this bit clear above, but I fully expect the head teacher will be unaware of the incident, and while perhaps more laid back about it than you (professional, not their child etc), they will probably be more than prepared to tell the lady to get her tanks off the school's lawn in this regard if you are not too spiky in your approach.

Is this school in England? Firstly, why are ANY children having their lunch supervised by parents? Regardless of SN, all children should not have to have a non member of staff attend to their needs. Next, I would also have a problem with other 'designated' people wandering around. Who are they? This mother should be stopped at reception and made to hand over the food at that point. Or bring it in at the start of the day like normal people manage to do. With regard to approaching your child, I would not let this lie. How dare she!
As people keep mentioning crb checks, unless someone is likely to be alone with a child(not normal for parent helpers etc) then a crb check isn't necessary and probably only staff will have one.

I hadn't seen this before. Blimey, not suprised you're fuming. I really hope the school are cracking down on this, there's no way she should be allowed to waltz in and out as she pleases, especially if she's going to confront children like that.