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AIBU?

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AIBU to think this is quite cheeky?

100 replies

Sammie101 · 11/02/2014 15:31

So I probably shouldn't be so bothered/astounded at this but I am sad and don't have much else to do except fathom some of the things that other people do (and put on Facebook!)

An old friend of mine from school recently got engaged. There were lots of pictures, articles online and in the newspaper (it was a very public proposal) and after the initial "oh so and so is engaged, that's nice" it got a bit irritating.

Anyway! Just saw before on Facebook that said friend has posted a status and link on her Facebook saying something along the lines of:

We already live together, we don't want 17 blenders. We would kindly appreciate help towards the cost of our wedding. Obviously we have to start this earlier as things need to be paid for.

Obviously this was said more eloquently than I put it but you get the jist.

AIBU to think that essentially asking people fund your wedding is a bit cheeky? The donation page is set up so that anyone can donate, even though they might not even be invited to the wedding (although people most likely wouldn't donate unless they were sure they'd be invited)

My friend put her goal as 7k! I think that if you want to have the whole shebang you do what everyone else does and save up for it. She mentions on her donation page that having children means they'd be saving years but that's a reality for most couples. It just irritated me because I thought it was cheeky.

I'm probably being unreasonable and sh

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gamerchick · 11/02/2014 19:06

there is no way I couldn't not say something to that..I just wouldn't be able to help myself Grin

frugalfuzzpig · 11/02/2014 19:12

Ruuuuuude!

TidyDancer · 11/02/2014 19:17

Haha I was just coming here to say this is the one aspect gluezilla was missing. But as the OP from that series of threads and gluezilla's victim, I can confirm I was not asked to fund the festivities....just decorate them. Grin

MrsKoala · 11/02/2014 19:18

perhaps she could get local businesses to sponsor it in return for advertising. She could have signs up everywhere. Little ads and slogans on her dress and flowers. They could do product placements and the speeches could be like 'i really love my new wife almost as much as i love a doner from the Abrakebabra, it really is great value at only £2.99...'

Or maybe people could pledge money if they do their vows in a bath of baked beans or something.

wildfig · 11/02/2014 19:29

Has she checked whether wedding donations might qualify for Gift Aid? Every little helps.

WaitMonkey · 11/02/2014 19:32

This is brilliant. Grin

MetellaEstMater · 11/02/2014 19:36

Grin wildfig

MrsKoala · 11/02/2014 19:36

She should defo put together a photo montage with sad faces and sad music with a 'give generously' appeal and text to 'chkybtch' for donations. all calls at standard rate plus a fiver donation to the wedding fund.

NatashaBee · 11/02/2014 19:37

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Shutupanddrive · 11/02/2014 19:40

So how much has she raised so far? Unbelievably rude

KoalaFace · 11/02/2014 19:41

Classy Grin

She's probably only planning on inviting people who donate. So basically, she's selling tickets to her wedding.

Wow.

Floggingmolly · 11/02/2014 19:49

I've always thought gift lists were incredibly tacky. Nobody ever agrees with me. Then we moved on to the "pay for my honeymoon, I've got all the material goods anybody could wish for" brigade, which I think is fucking appalling, but most people think it's just fine...
This piece of nonsense is just a logical progression really; it'll probably catch on.

Sammie101 · 11/02/2014 19:59

Just looked on her donation page and the budget has been changed to £750! Somebody must have had a word.

The proposal...think cheesy cheap pantomime proposal (literally at the end of a panto) which made front page news, the papers must have been having a slow week (meowww)

I am so glad people don't just think I'm an unreasonable bitch Grin

We're saving for a mortgage, should I set up a donation page? Wink

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MrsTerryPratchett · 11/02/2014 20:01

No, but you should link to hers

Sammie101 · 11/02/2014 20:04

Ohh I really want to but I fear that would be too mean! I do trrrrry to be a nice person, honestly 0:)

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Only1scoop · 11/02/2014 20:08

Saw you have sent us a list
Of things we may wish to gift
So grabby are you as the sender
Here's another fucking blender

Have a wonderful wedding
Grin

Sammie101 · 11/02/2014 20:10

Only I wish they had a Facebook anon button, I would definitely post that! If only I weren't such a wimp Hmm

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Viviennemary · 11/02/2014 20:12

I'd buy her a blender or another similar boring present. Don't give money.

Only1scoop · 11/02/2014 20:16

You started off with a sum
That you can quite frankly stick up your bum
Now it's seems you are getting thrifty
Amending to seven hundred and fifty

But us we know the score
We know you wanted more
So you whittled the figure down
So no expensive gown Hmm

KoalaFace · 11/02/2014 20:21
Shock

I think I read about this!

York?

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 11/02/2014 20:21

Lots of comments along the lines of 'buy her' and 'her page'

Is she just getting married alone the or is there a partner that some of these (well deserved) remarks could be directed towards?

yummystepford · 11/02/2014 20:21

She's a dick head. If they can't afford the wedding they want, well they will either have to wait or have a cheaper do. Would never ask for donations for anything!

Sammie101 · 11/02/2014 20:25

Not York Koala, there must be other people that think that it's normal?

I've never met her fiancé, he might be perfectly lovely! However from what I heard he's a bit of a twat Hmm

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 11/02/2014 20:27

They both sound it tbh. Share the vitriol Wink

KoalaFace · 11/02/2014 20:28

Oh, I read about a panto proposal last month and thought it must be them!