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AIBU?

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AIBU to think this is quite cheeky?

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Sammie101 · 11/02/2014 15:31

So I probably shouldn't be so bothered/astounded at this but I am sad and don't have much else to do except fathom some of the things that other people do (and put on Facebook!)

An old friend of mine from school recently got engaged. There were lots of pictures, articles online and in the newspaper (it was a very public proposal) and after the initial "oh so and so is engaged, that's nice" it got a bit irritating.

Anyway! Just saw before on Facebook that said friend has posted a status and link on her Facebook saying something along the lines of:

We already live together, we don't want 17 blenders. We would kindly appreciate help towards the cost of our wedding. Obviously we have to start this earlier as things need to be paid for.

Obviously this was said more eloquently than I put it but you get the jist.

AIBU to think that essentially asking people fund your wedding is a bit cheeky? The donation page is set up so that anyone can donate, even though they might not even be invited to the wedding (although people most likely wouldn't donate unless they were sure they'd be invited)

My friend put her goal as 7k! I think that if you want to have the whole shebang you do what everyone else does and save up for it. She mentions on her donation page that having children means they'd be saving years but that's a reality for most couples. It just irritated me because I thought it was cheeky.

I'm probably being unreasonable and sh

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Joysmum · 11/02/2014 16:47

I love the idea if giving money towards the wedding or honeymoon. Far more beneficial than buying 'things'.

expatinscotland · 11/02/2014 16:50

What's wrong with 'things'. People often need them. If they don't, they don't need gifts.

MrsDonnaLyman · 11/02/2014 16:55

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Sammie101 · 11/02/2014 16:59

Gluezilla? I feel I need to know about this!

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Lemonfairydust · 11/02/2014 17:02

Buy the cheeky cow a toaster.

GruffalosWife · 11/02/2014 17:03

Buy her one of those recipe books, you know, 1001 things to do with a blender.

MrsDonnaLyman · 11/02/2014 17:03

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procrastinatingagain · 11/02/2014 17:04

I don't see how it's different to me saying I'd quite like a new kitchen for £8000, please could all my friends and family pay for it. Cheeky buggers!

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 11/02/2014 17:07

Cheeky cheeky cheeky!

Ive heard of people writing similar in the invitations but posting on FB at the engagement stage before anyone knows if they are even invited yo a wedding that could be years away or never happen is so grabby!

ihavenonameonhere · 11/02/2014 17:08

HA HA

I am single but I would like to get married one day in the future so if all my facebook friends can start saving now that would be great!

mymatemax · 11/02/2014 17:11

Send her a packet of disposable napkins, with a little poem explaining how you don't have cash but have sent her a gift as a contribution toward her special day :)

expatinscotland · 11/02/2014 17:12

Why not make the wedding a ticketed even and be done with it?

MrCabDriver · 11/02/2014 17:12

Did she set up one those just giving pages?

Please link us Grin

MollyDoublyBarrely · 11/02/2014 17:17

7k????

We managed our entire wedding (and didn't skimp on luxuries like wine for guests) on a lot less.

Very cheeky asking others to pay for the whole thing for them. Asking for honeymoon money is one thing, but this woman is ridiculously cheeky IMHO.

MildDrPepperAddiction · 11/02/2014 17:18

That is so money grabbing and rude. Do what everyone else does and save!

ShadowFall · 11/02/2014 17:24

That's well cheeky.

I have no problem with people asking for cash towards honeymoon / home improvements etc as a wedding gift, but asking everyone you know to fund the wedding in advance?

That's taking things way, way too far. What if they don't reach the target? Is it a cheaper wedding, or is it no wedding? And are they even planning on inviting everyone who's been asked to donate?

Elderberri · 11/02/2014 17:33

WTAF

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 11/02/2014 18:17

Oh please do tell us about the proposal!

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/02/2014 18:28

I've just realised. They are having a Pay Per View wedding. Mark my words, it is the next big thing.

NatashaBee · 11/02/2014 18:34

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wildfig · 11/02/2014 18:41

Genius. A Kickstarter wedding. Say you'll chip in, but only for Shrek wedding outfits.

saulaboutme · 11/02/2014 18:43

Wtf! This is a new one for me!

No class, no class at all. No way should she be asking people to fund get wedding. I'd love for someone to tell get so as well. Vouchers or wedding list are the norm aren't they?

Yanbu and this is cheeky. Please keep us updated as to how this goes down.

Spaulding · 11/02/2014 18:48

Whaaat?! Cheeky fuckers. If they can't afford a £7k wedding then they should save up and have a wedding they CAN afford. Not expect other people to fund their decision to have a wedding out of their budget.

Someone I knew had some kind of poem on the invitations which basically asked for money rather than gifts. They were given loads of envelopes at the wedding so I imagine they made quite a bit! We didn't donate. Grin

MsAspreyDiamonds · 11/02/2014 19:00

I would post a sacastic comment about how she would guarantee a wedding considering her previous history as a warning to all. I wouldnt care if she never spoke to me again as it is obvious that she is addicted to getting engaged rather than married. This engagement will probably end up like all of the other ones.

pluCaChange · 11/02/2014 19:04

What about offering publicly to "match" any "donation" she makes? She can't hope to be completely funded, surely?!