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AIBU this young mother should have thought a little harder about what toys to take to the library?

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Morgause · 11/02/2014 13:17

Local studies department of the library all is quiet as people researching their families, local history or looking through old newspapers make quiet notes. The only sound is the hushed whispered request to the librarian. It's always like that there - a little oasis of peace and tranquillity in the middle of a big city.

Enter young mum with small child clad all in pink. Small child is very loud and questioning (but very cute). Eyebrows are raised all around. A shudder of disapproval meanders its way around the gathering. Mum explains loudly to small person that she needs to look at some things in the old newspapers. Small person not impressed (loudly). Neither are crusty researchers.

"I won't be very long", I've bought you some toys to play with. Sighs of relief all round.

Mum roots round in large bag and produces a xylophone. Small child accompanies herself to a rousing chorus of "Winkle, winkle ickle star" several times without once hitting the right note.

The sense of outrage was palpable. I left before the drum came out.

I found it quite amusing but I guess people who'd travelled a long way probably didn't. I can't help but think some books and dolls may have been a better choice than a xylophone.

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AcrylicPlexiglass · 12/02/2014 17:23

Sounds hilarious! I bet everyone was spitting feathers. Love it when people get it so very wrong and are oblivious. I have done this many times in my life, especially when I was a young mother of lively twins. It's so easy to forget how horrendous young children appear to normal folk in a child free environment. She probably felt that a loud music session = keeping quiet, comparatively speaking and forgot that no one else would agree. I have a vivid recollection of being pulled up in a park by a very irate, well-heeled older woman when I was staring into space for a bit of peace and allowing (in a not paying attention kind of way) my young toddler boys to empty all the earth out of the flower bed and place it on the smooth light coloured concrete pathway. She was quite rightly, in retrospect, outraged and I was in turn very unfairly cross with her for not realising how important it was for me to be able to switch off for a while and let my boys wreak havoc. Happy days.

Pixel · 12/02/2014 18:56

Also, her choice of toys was terrible, a few books would have been so much better
Books? In a library? Don't be ridiculous!

BeetlebumShesAGun · 14/02/2014 10:18

It is funny about the xylophone but I think the fact you felt the need to describe the mum's age and the fact the child as in pink, even if you were just "creating a word picture" shows you have some opinion on those two things, even unconsciously. Agree with other posters who have asked would you have written "old mum" if she was over 30?

Then again perhaps I'm over sensitive as I live in an area where I continually get judgey pants looks from other mums for being "young" - I don't actually think 25 is young to have a child. Under 30 certainly isn't!

Morgause · 14/02/2014 10:22

Jesus wept. How many more times? I said she was young because she was young. To me under 30 is young. I don't know what I would have written if she was over 30. She wasn't. I described what I saw. She was young.

Young is not an insult to me. If it is for you it's your problem not mine.

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CuttingOutTheCrap · 14/02/2014 10:33

I have reread the Op several times and still fail to interpret 'pink' 'young' etc as anything other than descriptors but perhaps she could have said:

One adult and one child entered the library I was in. The library is usually quiet. The child made noise. The adult gave the child a musical instrument to play with while the adult did some research. The child used the instrument and sang, making even more noise. Was the adult unreasonable?

I much prefer the OPs version!

BeetlebumShesAGun · 14/02/2014 10:38

If you flip it over and were to write it the other way around from the mum's point of view;

"I had to nip into the library to look something up and only had a xylophone with me to amuse DD. There was an old woman there who found it very funny plus some crusty researchers who looked very disapproving!"

I'm sure something like that would get jumped on as well and the OP probably wouldn't see why her age was relevant to the story, that's all.

In addition I wouldn't take a xylophone to a library, I would have had a giggle! Grin

Morgause · 14/02/2014 10:40

My age would have been totally descriptive, I've already said I'm old. It's a fact not an insult.

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TheOriginalSteamingNit · 14/02/2014 10:41

'An old woman clad in fleece'? Grin

Morgause · 14/02/2014 10:43

tuts

An old woman clad in her very best Bhs winter coat and mumsnet scarf.

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Caitlin17 · 14/02/2014 13:14

Cutting if you cut out all the descriptors it becomes dull and salient points are omitted. However "pink" on this forum is not just a colour.

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