to not want to give away all our baby clothes

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Sil is about to have a baby. Dh wants us to bag up all our baby clothes and give to her. She can than keep what she likes and dispose of rest.
I am happy for her to have what she wants. However, I would like to be able to offer stuff to my nephews when they have dc. Or I wiuld like to sell some items as. I currently have no income. I do have access to joint account but it isn't the same. Plus her bil will probably pass on designer stuff whilst we have supermarket brands mainly.

That seems fair enough. Having access to the joint account should be the same though.

I think you could offer some to her (if she wants them, I have to admit I didn't want all the bags of clothes that arrived, I got far too many and I wanted to buy my own!) Has she indicated she wants any?

Been in this situation before! Given Hand me downs without a thanks to sil laws. Always have it in my head that I want to give it to people that deserve it most! I am constantly giving to relatives without any acknowledgement, call me negative but I'd rather give to charity any day!

Just tell this to your dh then.
I'm surprised he's interested in baby clothes, most men I know aren't that involved with who has what.
I don't think my dh has any idea what we did with our dcs baby clothes.

Seems fine to me - I have kept a few of DS's clothes for sentimental reasons.

However (and I may be reading far too much into this) are your nephews just about to have DC's/in steady relationships and if you have no income and see this as a way of making some cash, why haven't you already? My DH can get a bit hoard-y sometimes and these are exactly the kind of excuses he would use! Maybe your DH just wants rid of some of the clutter.

Just give her some of it - seems fair enough to me.

We had loads of baby clothes (having been given lots as presents) and I was able to sell some of the best ones and split the rest between a couple of friends and family.

FWIW, unless they are good brands it's probably not worth selling them. And yes, you should have money from the joint account for you.

He does want to get rid of some. Clutter as long as that clutter isn't his lego or football programme s though. Yes I did start to sell some bits. We than had a surprise pregnancy so it was actually fortunate that I hadn't got rid of them all.
2 of my nephews are getting to the start a family stage. One has been married a few years and the other is settled and living together with a long term partner. They are not poor but I think it is much harder for young people starting out today as housing costs are so much higher.

Sil has also been given shedloads of new stuff from friends and family so probably doesn't even want our hand me downs.

We have a few good brands like gap, designers at debs etc which were gifts.

Do whatever you like

I'm planning on keeping a few special/sentimental items (the outfit he wears home from hospital, gifts from relatives etc), selling some (anything designer I wasted spent money on while I was bored on maternity leave), giving some away (my friends have already reserved some and my baby hasn't even been born yet)!

It's up to you!