To just be fed up ?

[Moggy72]

Just that really. Not sure why? I have 3 lovely DCs. Three boys but just find the mess and the work overwhelming. I stopped working in a demanding high earning job a year ago and have struggled to find work (though I don't have to work financially). My DH is working away each week and back at weekends. I find him generally quite demanding and lazy when he is home. We fought a bit recently because he has been stressed at work - and he's been snappy, I feel bad writing this, because so many on MN have real worries... But just finding everything a real effort at the moment. I lost 10 kilos through diet and exercise a year ago - but have put it all back on.

Moggy you have had a huge life change and you are a single parent during the week to three boys I personally don't don't how you do it and I know I would not be able to cope I think child care is relentless you have probably ut on weight due to stress and exhaustion I expect. Are you in a position to get any help, I hope you find a job because that will probably give you a break of sorts.

Are you in a position to get more help?cleaner?nursery etc? Yanbu at all

Talk to him.

Men are not mind readers and you both need to communicate.

You have every right of be fed up. Everyone needs a little bit of time for themselves and Id say its hard for you to have bath in peace with three young children.

Def talk to dh. I only have one baby but the change was a shock to the system while he did his own thing a weekends. It took one big 'talk' to really sort things and they are great now. If you could organise paid childcare even one half day a week, it would be a start.

Hi Moggy - recognised you from an earlier schools thread so know that you're also waiting on school offers...Yes, I know: another desperately middle class worry but a horribly stressful, draining one nonetheless and a lonely one because we don't want to offload on our friends who are also going through it.

I'm sorry you're feeling low but it's entirely understandable that you feel the way you do. As a quick fix, some paid childcare as MrsWB suggested could work (even if it's just someone to do the running about of the school run) and/or or perhaps you could you hire a cleaner or up your cleaner's hours if you already have one? Reducing the domestic drudgery might help - at least to alleviate the frustration of mess, etc. You can then move forward and deal with your DH & consider what you want to do next from a better place.

Sorry - realised my helpful hints already posted so not so helpful
Thinking of you all the same.

agree getting a cleaner, also look into finding a gym with a creche attached, even if you just use it for a swim and a coffee twice a week

I feel for you, sounds hard going

It must be hard. Three boys is a lot and to have your partner away a lot makes it even harder. Yes, others may have other problems, but don't let that diminish yours.
Do you have friends and family around?

Thanks all. Yes Auntfidget feel like the schools selection for my older DS has also taken its toll. I think I need to start working out again just to take some time out for myself. Will speak to DH too but his has a full plate at the moment too.

maybe have a look around and see whats available to you before speaking to dh? he might see it as another problem he has to solve and might not be as supportive as you'd want , which may burst your bubble a bit (or maybe thats what happened to me!!)

maybe look at the councils vacancies, term time would suit you with the kids, like supply cover or support assistant, ignore me if I'm talking rubbish! you could be a brain surgeon for all I know

good luck op x

there's jobs advertised here to the right of the page too x