Doncha wish your DMiL

[Hoodathoughtit]

...was a lot like THIS?

MILs should also put bags over their heads in case anyone is tempted to engage with them and break eye contact with the bride which must be maintained at all times. No blinking.

It is her day after all.

Mish a wedding isn't just all about the bride. The mil "had her day"- so that's it? This will have been a tiny part of the day- as long as it wasn't the opening dance what is the problem?

From the way it was introduced I wonder if it followed on from the bride and her father.

If anyone remembers what I usually have to say about mils and my own in particular, then you'll know I'm no supporter of mils generally.

I thought it looked fun and she looked like fun, I would have had no problems with DH if he had danced with his mum on our wedding day, he's great fun and she had her moments.

I shall be practising for DSs wedding now, he's only 5 so I have a while to perfect my moves

I don't know why some MILs have to muscle in on everythng ......

Can't you just tell who are MILs or who have got ds on here!

A wedding is about the bride and groom. Sorry MILs your just bystanders !

You can be center stage of everything.

What's the difference, or dontcha like this either Mish?

Bloody hell what a lot of party poopers on here!!! I thought it was a lot of fun and i'd love my ma in law to be like that

I have DSs, what does that have to do with anything?

I am also a DIL and this wouldn't bother me at all.

Oh and A wedding is about the bride and groom

You're absolutely right and the groom wanted to dance with his mum.

And there was me thinking weddings were about families.

skulks off with knitting and a sherry and an early night for moi

Tara, that is just as horrific.

Would be horrific if it was the bride and groom. Can't abide the bridesmaids ones either!

So overdone now!

Mish will be a bystander one day.
A lonely old bystander, I for one intend to enjoy seeing my DD and Ds's getting wed.
Just a shame I can't throw those moves!

It is NOT horrific, it is lovely that a young Woman wants to dance with her Dad.
Just as it is lovely that a young Man wants to dance with his Mum.
They love their parents, their parents must have done something very right if their DC want to dance with them.

WTF is wrong with you all?

Cracking hell not everything has a meaning and not every MIL is a dragon also for all we know the bride is secure enough in her marriage to say "go knock yourself have fun" most people respond better honey then vinegar

Ducks and runs for cover

That was fab, loved it. Mothers of sons can do nothing right, can they?

What a wedding to remember, unlike all the bland boring ones we have to go to.
At least these one's were fun.

At the traditional weddings I have been to:

the bride's father has walked her down the aisle (in this country at least)

the bride's father has made a speech at the wedding support

the bride's father has danced with the bride

(some of them have danced a good deal better than the groom)

At my wedding there were also people singing and people playing musical instruments that I am unable to play. Plenty of reminders that I am not the only person in the world.

To be fair, my MIL does upstage me on pretty well all occasions. That is because she is great fun, a great character and a truly lovely person. I can live with that.

Ok I'm on a wind up ! I guess it counts on your relationship with your mil on how you would view this.

I can see two sides of the fence. If this was my ex mil I would have been the biggest cheerer. I still have a fantastic relationship with her 18 years after me and ex dp split. She was lovely, impartial and supportive. I love her very much.

My current mil however is the bitch from hell beyond. Who nearly caused me to split with dp over her lies and stressed me out so mch while pregnant with dd. If she did this at my wedding it would be about her staking her claim on the day.

Parents do need to take a bit of a backseat when their dc have grown in to adults. We are not centre stage anymore in their life's. We have to help nurture and support their relationships not to expect t be a major player in it.

Hoodathoughtit - I thought it was great. So did dd. She said "Wow, they are good dancers!"

It looked to me as though the groom had choreographed. He was certainly leading.

Go to youtube, there are loads, they're brilliant.

tara why will I be lonely?

You MIL sounds awful Mish.

Shame mothers like her give the good ones a bad name, my DSs are only titchy but it scares me to think whoever they marry will dislike me.

I plan to be the most agreeable person in the world. :o

I think she looks like a good laugh.

Some of the comments on here have got me thinking. As the mother of a boy, if he gets married must I know my place and do nothing to upstage the bride because I will be seen as the MIL from hell forever more?

But I am also the mother if a girl. So if she gets married then I am allowed to be involved as much as possible?

What a load of old crap.

Mother of the bride, mother of the grooom. It's a parent who is celebrating with their child. Their adult child but still their child.

My DH and I are currently supporting my lovely MIL who has Stage 4 cancer. My DH has a lovely relationship with his mum, it's part if what makes him the man he is.

I would hate to just be thought of as a bystander at my children's weddings Mish.
Someone on the outside looking in.
To me a wedding is about families and joining together.
Don't be a bystander.

Really funny and sweet. She's got good moves

Well, thanks to this thread, dd has just made me watch a load of Youtube wedding dances. All good fun.

Yes yes to weddings being all about families and not just the notion of 'the bride'.