to have ds' birthday party on mother's day?

[lemonlemon]

Ooh aren't I well organised? I thought, getting his 4th birthday party all organised so far in advance. Until I realised that I've booked it for sodding mother's day, when I'm guessing most people will be wanting to do family things rather than watching their kids stuff their face with cake and playing pass the parcel.

So my options are either have the party as planned and risk people not coming or try and rearrange it - I've not sent any invites yet but have booked entertainment. What shall I do?!

But Italian - in the UK, most people with small DCs (in the 3-4 age range to go to this birthday party) will be expecting a hand made card, not a commercialised thing, and it's normal here for a lot of people to go to church (if your're religious, it's one of those sundays that are 'standing room only' in our church, a lot of non-regular church goers go on Mother's day) then have a family lunch that the mothers of the family don't cook or clean up for. Often that means eating out, but for us, it'll be MIL and I with our feet up (DM goes to DBs), DH cooking while FIL gets steadily drunker in the kitchen 'helping', followed by DH and FIL loading the dishwasher./cleaning up.

I know traditions vary around the country (and around Europe), but round here, it's considered bad form to leave grandmothers on their own on Mothering Sunday.

I probably would have taken dds to a party on mothers day all i do is not cook on mothers day and have the flowers in the morning the rest is a normal sunday have the party tbh i am sure the children will come

Hmmm.
Actually, mothers day is usually about my own DM tbh.
So whilst I would be happy to take Dcs to a party it would be a bit mean to not see my DM. So I would go for DC's sake but it would be a pita.
I would expect these things normally to be on a Saturday.

I didn't realise till I came on MN that Mothering Sunday was such a big thing, we're not churchgoers and our families have never got together for it either with my grandmothers when they were alive, or with DM and DMIL now. Cards are sent but that's all. Never heard anyone in real life say they do anything more than that either.

I'd send dh with the dc and enjoy some peace and quiet. I know I'm mum and while I appreciate the thought the put into homemade cards, I still put them first and would feel awful as an adult saying the day is all about me and they can't go.

It would never even occur to me not to go but I doubt anyone in my house will remember it's Mother's Day.

DD2 went to a party last year on MD. I was a bit disappointed, but I wouldn't dream of not letting her go. I'm an adult MD is just a day, kid's love parties. I'd put my dc first every time. It's only a couple of hours anyway.

Oh, and I wouldn't call MD a Hallmark day. It's a very old Christian festival. When you return to your mother church.

I did exactly the same last year.

Booked dts's party on mothers day (didn't realise at the time) and was worried about numbers. I even started a thread about it.

Needn't have worried... out of 50 children invited, only 3 didn't come.

IME I wouldn't worry.

Dd was invited to a party last year on Mother's Day. She went, but looking back it was a nightmare. The party was 10.30-1. So the morning was a rush, then she wasn't hungry at all for the family meal that had been arranged for an early tea time, as she was still full of party food. I know the mum who arranged it isn't making the same mistake again this year and has done the party the week before. She had a naff Mother's Day, rushing around trying to sort party stuff in the morning and then tidying up in the afternoon. If you are able to change it, I'd look into doing that.