to have ds' birthday party on mother's day?

[lemonlemon]

Ooh aren't I well organised? I thought, getting his 4th birthday party all organised so far in advance. Until I realised that I've booked it for sodding mother's day, when I'm guessing most people will be wanting to do family things rather than watching their kids stuff their face with cake and playing pass the parcel.

So my options are either have the party as planned and risk people not coming or try and rearrange it - I've not sent any invites yet but have booked entertainment. What shall I do?!

[TheRealAmandaClarke]

I would go.
Still time for a cup of tea in bed and receiving a bunch of daffodils in the morning.

[Viviennemary]

It wouldn't bother me but a lot of people do like to do special things as families and Dads or kids might even arrange a surprise meal out or similar.

[Tweasels]

I can't believe some people wouldn't let their child go to a party because it's Mother's Day

Would you not let them go if it was your birthday?

I've had DS's party on Mother's Day before, it was his birthday which I tend to believe trumps an all about 'me' day.

Saying that, the best Mother's Day I've had was when me and my fellow mother friends went on an all day drinking sesh. That's what Mother's Day should be about; pretending you're not one

[summertimeandthelivingiseasy]

I did this with DTDs 4th birthday. I had no idea that Mother's day involved wiping out an entire day! Thought it was just card and daffs, and maybe church.

A couple of people couldn't come because it was Mothers Day, but they were no great loss.

Some people don't have mothers and like something else to do :)

[Bramshott]

It's not a question of not letting them go Tweazel - but quite a of lot people have a lunch out booked with their grandma or other family members and if that's not nearby, you could well get a lot of people who can't make it.

[brettgirl2]

it wouldn't bother me tbh. Op I think there's always a problem with dates and parties, just invite plenty, it doesn't matter if they don't all come.

[DamnBamboo]

This happened to someone i know last year.
The turnout for the party wasn't great.
I felt sorry for the birthday boy.

It wouldn't bother me but plenty of people go and see grandma's etc.. so understandably, it might not be a good day for more people than average.

[MsAspreyDiamonds]

Can you move it to the day before which is a saturday since invites havent been sent out. We always do family things on mothers day which involves a weekend away & travelling so wouldnt be able to attend.

[ItalianWiking84]

Of course I would send my child, a children party is in my world more important than an adult commercial celebration, which can easy be celebrated in the morning or evening.

[Stinklebell]

I wouldn't, unless is was early 10-12ish, or later 4-6ish

It's not so much that it's my day, I usually get a card and a lukewarm cup of coffee chucked at me first thing if I'm lucky, but we do tend to go out for a big family lunch on Mother's Day with my Mum, Dad, brother, SiL, nieces/nephews and Gran

[pussycatdoll]

I can't believe some people wouldn't let their child go to a party because it's Mother's Day

Er, Tweasels, what's not to get not people might have made plans
We travel 3 hours to see MIL for example

Or go to the cemetery with my mum to put flowers on my grandmothers grave

You know Mothers Day things ???

[DamnBamboo]

Christ, I am amazed at some of the responses.
Some mothers, themselves have mothers many of whom may be elderly etc.. and so many people would go to see them, or take them out.

It's not about having a day for yourself trump one for your kids, it's about any other obligations or plans you may reasonably have.

Like I said, I wouldn't care but I don't think it's fair to assume that those who turn down an invitation because it's mothers day are self-absorbed.

[MrsCakesPremonition]

Italian - if you had already made plans to visit people, for out for lunch etc. would you cancel those plans so your child could go to the party?

I think that all people are saying is that there is a slightly increased risk of clashing with other people's pre-existing commitments. A bit like holding a party on a Bank Holiday and finding that more people than usual are planning to get away for the long weekend.

[pussycatdoll]

Why do people keep saying it's a commercial occasion
?
Having lunch with my mum & going to church is hardly being sucked in to a commercial event

[pussycatdoll]

Exactly MrsCakesPremonition

[DontmindifIdo]

See, from this thread it's really mixed, I think from those who'd just spending it as a nuclear family, possibly with mum being spoilt, then they'll come along, but for those who see extended family (possibly having to fit in with other extended family's schedules - eg. I know we'll have PIL to ours for lunch, but they will go via BIL & SILs in the morning so we couldn't have an early lunch so that DS could go to an early afternoon party), then it's more likely they'll decline your invite than try to reschedule several people.

If you can move it to the day before, even if it means a different venue, you're more likely to get the bulk of his friends there. Or before you send out any invites, speak to the mums of his best friends, if you could be certain his favourite people were there, then it wouldn't really matter if the bulk of the rest can't make it, similarly, if you can canvess opinion and realise that most of his friends won't be there, you might as well save your money and book a smaller do.

[ItalianWiking84]

MrsCakesPremonition yes I would, but then again, I am from Denmark, where Mothers Day is usually not celebrated with either brunch or lunch or church. Usually Mothers Day in Denmark falls on a confirmation day and therefore is not celebrated if you go to a confirmation. Would you decline a confirmation to celebrate Mothers Day?

[Stinklebell]

I think that all people are saying is that there is a slightly increased risk of clashing with other people's pre-existing commitments

Yes, I agree.

Due to the logistics and distances involved in getting my family all in the same place at the same time, we already have plans for Mother's Day which I wouldn't cancel.

If it was early, or later, or if I had no plans, then fine, but I think if you arrange something on such a date, you have to be prepared for the fact that people may already have plans to do stuff with their families

[MrsCakesPremonition]

Yes - I don't know anyone who has ever had a child confirmed, so it would be pretty meaningless.

[Minnieisthedevilmouse]

No because I've two sets of mothers to visit and me and I'm fecked if I'm not getting a look in but they do.

Actually. Just thought. They would go. Them and dad. I'd be home in the bath in peace and quiet book and wine.

[ItalianWiking84]

MrsCakesPremonition but everybody I know has had that and therefor its common to not celebrate mothers day due to confirmations.
The question was also only if you would go or not and to that I answered, that yes I would go and in my opinion a Mothers day is a commercial celebration, which I still stand by

[Fantasyfootballfan]

Wouldn't occur to me to be bothered, we would come,

[MrsCakesPremonition]

All I asked was if you had a pre-existing commitment that clashed with a child's party, would you cancel your commitment to go to the party.

The fact that the commitment relates to Mothers Day is largely irrelevant. It doesn't sound as though you would cancel attending a confrmation in order to take your child to a party.

[WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes]

Although I am of the view that Mothers Day is commercial nonsense and don't celebrate it as such, I would probably not book a party for that day because of the much higher risk that people will have other plans, a lot of people do visit grandparents etc, it is disappointing if other children can't come.

[AuditAngel]

I'd forgotten it was Mother's Day on the 30th. DD1's birthday is on 27th and I was thinking about avoiding the 30th because it's my birthday. Since it is Mother's Day, DH will be working. I guess DD's party will be on 23rd.

I would bring DC to a party on Mother's Day as DHZ is always at work that say must remember to tell DH to make sure he doesn't get lumbered with working the evening as well