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to have ds' birthday party on mother's day?

110 replies

lemonlemon · 06/02/2014 11:03

Ooh aren't I well organised? I thought, getting his 4th birthday party all organised so far in advance. Until I realised that I've booked it for sodding mother's day, when I'm guessing most people will be wanting to do family things rather than watching their kids stuff their face with cake and playing pass the parcel.

So my options are either have the party as planned and risk people not coming or try and rearrange it - I've not sent any invites yet but have booked entertainment. What shall I do?!

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Asheth · 06/02/2014 13:07

I took my DS to a friends party last Mothers Day. I didn't even think about not going and I enjoy seeing my DC having a good time with their friends. But I know that some of his friends didn't go due to celebrating Mothers day.

GinSoakedMisery · 06/02/2014 13:10

I would come. Couldn't give two hoots about Mother's Day, I'm a mother the rest of the year as well.

perfectstorm · 06/02/2014 13:10

It wouldn't even cross my mind not to come - it's not like it's Christmas!

pixiegumboot · 06/02/2014 13:14

What date is it? Think I will have this problem too...

MiaowTheCat · 06/02/2014 13:31

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 06/02/2014 13:55

We'd come, birthdays trump Mothers Day here, we don't do Mothers Day really, just cards.

Jinsei · 06/02/2014 14:15

We'd come! I like mother's day but it isn't a big deal for me. But then, I'm not precious about adult birthdays and stuff either, so I don't really get it when people make a big issue of these things. I'd go ahead with the party anyway if I were you - you'll probably get a few who won't come, but I'm sure lots will.

I don't really understand the people who say they'd let their kids go but would be annoyed! Why wouldn't you just decline if it was that important to you? Confused

Original poster
lemonlemon · 06/02/2014 14:15

Righty ho then. I'm going to stick to my original plan and blame you lot if no one turns up Grin

Pixiegumboot it's 30th March

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Monetbyhimself · 06/02/2014 14:19

I wouldn't but it's because I find mothers day, and the lead up to it really difficult since the death of my own mum. We tend to close the doors against the world on mothers day.

Innogen · 06/02/2014 14:30

Mother's day isn't a big deal at all. Feels so self indulgent, on par with Valentines Day for me.

We'd come!

potterpaint · 06/02/2014 14:37

I took dd to a party on Mother's Day a couple of years ago... But I didn't want to!! Dd had a sleepover the night before and came back at 11am... Will never ever let her do that again as she was horrible.

Hoppinggreen · 06/02/2014 14:45

I would want to come but my own bloody mother makes my life hell if I don't spend all day making a fuss of her!!
She's usually quite reasonable the rest if the year but fir some reason she turns into a prize pain in the arse about Mothers Day.

Whatutalkinboutwillis · 06/02/2014 14:47

Oh dear I didn't realise that was Mother's Day booked my ds party that day too! Oh dear

MrsCakesPremonition · 06/02/2014 14:47

What time is it booked for? TBH the idea of packing DH and DS off to a party in the morning while I have a leisurely shower and potter is really appealing.

SantanaLopez · 06/02/2014 14:51

30th March, that's early this year?!

I'd be glad of the time to myself! I think as long as you expect some people not to come you'll be grand.

In fact- why not stick on the invitation that you know it's Mothers Day so you'd be glad of a quick RVSP?

breatheslowly · 06/02/2014 14:51

I'd go. Not a problem at all as we don't do much for mothers' day. But if I were you, I'd rearrange as I think most people do more for mothers' day than we do.

bodygoingsouth · 06/02/2014 14:56

sorry no it actually is a big deal in our family as we all see my dm and then all either go out for a meal or dh cooks for us
I have the excuse to sit in my arse all day and sip wine.

SelectAUserName · 06/02/2014 14:56

Santana it's not particularly early I don't think? It's usually around the time the clocks go forward, which is always March.

Isabelonatricycle · 06/02/2014 15:05

It's the fourth Sunday in Lent, so as Easter is rather late this year, so is this year's Mothering Sunday.

DontmindifIdo · 06/02/2014 15:05

well, it depends on your DS's friends family traditions, we usually go to chuch (it is mothering sunday) then spend the day with PIL, so it's not just all about me. Most of my "Mummy friends" do seem to do stuff with grandparents on Mothers day too. It's stuff we could do on another day, but unless it was DS's best friend, or if I was really good friends with the mum hosting, I'd just decline rather than change my plans. (At 4, it's still down to me if DS goes to parties or not, I just decline the ones that don't suit us, tell DS we can't go and thats it)

If you can change the date, you'd have less stress.

SarahAndFuck · 06/02/2014 15:08

I've just booked DS's birthday party for the day before and was asked if it was a booking for a Mother's Day party.

That was the first I knew of Mother's Day this year (and given the situation with PILs it's going to make that weekend a bit of a pig as far as the barrage of misery texts will go, DS's birthday and Mother's Day happening together) but that's a whole other thread).

I wouldn't stop DS going to a party just so I could have a 'day' but I do like these suggestions of sending DH to the party with him so I could have an hour's peace without them Grin

If anyone wants to invite us, they are free and available to attend anything you like. I can't come, I'll be in the bath with a book. Grin

Mellowandfruitful · 06/02/2014 15:09

I would come (maybe with a tiny bit of grumbling) because I would want DS to have the chance to go to a friend's party and it is possible to work around that in celebrating Mother's Day. I would maybe think about a time change if that's possible though as 12-2 is prime going out for lunch territory. Still allows for breakfast in bed to be made by DC... Actually, if you could make it 10-12 or 11-1 you could sell it as 'dads bring DC to party giving Mum a lie in' Smile

Smile We had DS's christening on Father's Day (also didn't twig when we booked it) and it worked surprisingly well. For family it was fine because most people were there with their dads Smile and also for friends, as people came with families it was time for dads to have with their kids and to celebrate as well. So I think yours will work out fine.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 06/02/2014 15:10

I've done the same thing! DS2's birthday is 2nd April and, last time Easter was very late, I booked a party for the nearest Sunday - only realising after the invitations had been sent out that it was Mother's Day.

Everyone came, so I guess we were just lucky!

Personally, I wouldn't care if we received a party invite for Mother's Day, Father's Day etc. But then we don't really celebrate anything other than Christmas & kids birthdays!

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 06/02/2014 15:13

Are you in the UK Santana? The US mother's day is definitely later in the year - May time maybe?

fivesacrowd · 06/02/2014 15:21

I've done the same thing, booked dd a party at a recording studio & now worried no one will come as its 12 - 2 on Mother's Day. Can't find another date near her birthday that suits us better though Confused

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