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Original poster

To be upset because he did a poo in my loo? And took photos.

105 replies

aliena · 05/02/2014 18:21

Boiler engineer was fixing my boiler today(emergency repair). Heard him go into showeroom opposite where boiler was and shut the door. He was in there for absolutely ages! When he left, i saw that he had used a whole load of toilet cleaner so he had obviously poo ed in there.

I am so upset because he did not ask me if he could use it. I had a whole load of my daughters' freshly laundered clothes and their personal towels drying on the heated towel rail in there. If he had asked me to use the loo, obviously I would have said yes (i always do when asked) but this would have given me the chance to quickly clear their stuff away and to give him a clean guest towel. As it was, there was no guest towel in there, only their stuff. And it is a tiny room and he would definitely have brushed against their things just getting to the loo. And what didhe dry/ wipe his (pooey) hands on?Aaagh!

Also later i heard clicking camera noises and when i went to see what was going on, the boiler guy was indeed taking photos in my boiler cupboard. I should have asked him what he was doing...... But I didnt and now i'm worrying since after he left i saw that there was an plastic bag of old bank statements/ receipts/ papers in there that DH at some stage must have shoved in there.

Just feel horrible. Am i being silly? Should i just bite my lip or say something to his office(he works for a small local company a couple of minutes away). Will definitely not have him back.

OP posts:
bodygoingsouth · 05/02/2014 18:41

why do you keep bank statements in your bog?

when you poo do you get it all over your hands then op?

have you been at the wine? you sound unhinged dear.

TheCraicDealer · 05/02/2014 18:42

I ask to use the toilet when visiting someone's house or premises, but really what I mean is, "where is your toilet". If I was an engineer, working independently and knew where the facilities were I'd just crack on. You're being v v v unreasonable. If you're funny about clothes being potentially covered in poo crumbs don't hang them up in a toilet. Does it really matter if the poo is his or yours or your DD's? It's still shit!

Also the "clicking" could've been the boiler being turned off and on, doing the thing with the pilot light and all that.

insummeritrains · 05/02/2014 18:42

This has got to be a joke? Are you always this precious about people using your toilet? I'm sure your freshly-laundered towels will have survived the ghastly experience. I think if this is worrying you so much - then there's your problem, right there.

WitchWay · 05/02/2014 18:42

sparkly "it's no biggie" - er I think it was Grin

DirtieBertie · 05/02/2014 18:43

Loo thing - you are bonkers Grin

Camera thing - OK, that sounds odd...but... sometimes I use a cameraphone to get a look at something dark, or out of sight (like when Dcs lost a ball in the hed gutter, I took photos to figure out where I needed to feel). It could possibly have been something like that?

DrNick · 05/02/2014 18:43

"why do you keep bank statements in your bog?"

haha

K8Middleton · 05/02/2014 18:43

You are being ridiculous about the toilet. Unless you have some medical condition like OCD I cannot begin to understand your hysteria.

You are being paranoid about the photos. He is probably taking photos of how it was before he started taking it apart. This is quite normal for electricians and heating engineers and anyone who needs to know what wire was connected to what bit before it was disassembled and reassembled.

treas · 05/02/2014 18:44

YABU

Re photos - these days lots of companies require their workers to take photos of the items they work on as proof that they left it in working order / have done the work correctly, to cover their arses when dishonest customers make false claims against the company.

Ifcatshadthumbs · 05/02/2014 18:44

DH regularly takes photos of his work too, not uncommon for tradesmen to do so.

DrNick · 05/02/2014 18:44

' he would definitely have brushed against their things just getting to the loo'

MAN WALKS INTO LOO AND SPREADS MAN GERMS

bodygoingsouth · 05/02/2014 18:45

MrsFlorrick literally just wet myself at your last sentence.

K8Middleton · 05/02/2014 18:46

Have you combed the area for rogue pubic hairs op? One could have come off and lodged itself on a towel Shock Shock Wink

Chippednailvarnish · 05/02/2014 18:48

He took a shit in your loo and you didn't have fresh hand towels!?!?

I bet he's on Plumbernet asking if he's BU in expecting fresh towels for each crap he takes.

steff13 · 05/02/2014 18:48

Why would his hands be "pooey?" I always wash my hands after using the restroom, but I wouldn't describe my unwashed hands as "pooey." Did you not have toilet paper in there? Did he have to use his bare hands?

I think you're being quite unreasonable, and also unreasonable for leading me to believe he had taken a picture of said poo. I'm very disappointed.

MmeMorrible · 05/02/2014 18:48

Don't you have anything else to worry about?

It's a toilet... He used it...He cleaned it...Why is this problem? Some people are so precious about basic bodily functions.

He took a picture of your boiler. Probably company policy to prove the work was completed & get a record of the boiler serial number etc. Why is this a problem?

Preciousbane · 05/02/2014 18:49

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TSSDNCOP · 05/02/2014 18:49

I think you have yo think about how you could possibly frame a complaint without sounding totally precious and getting a man into trouble for going to toilet.

I really don't see how you'd pull it off to be honest.

The question is, does the boiler work? If yes, he did his job.

bodygoingsouth · 05/02/2014 18:50

omg not poo crumbsagain. haven't got over the last poo crumb thread yet!

Topaz25 · 05/02/2014 18:50

YABU about him using the toilet. Why would his hands be "pooey"? If he was drying his hands surely he washed them.
It was thoughtful of him to use toilet cleaner too.

He was probably photographing the boiler but you could check with the company if that's standard practice if you're concerned.

LittleBearPad · 05/02/2014 18:51

I thought he took pictures of his poo too. Now that would have been odd.

The rest, your being unreasonable, if you asked. And rather precious.

Hope the man germs dissipate, and why don't you keep a hand towel in your loo at all times. Why would a guest towel be needed. doesn't own enough towels clearly

Original poster
aliena · 05/02/2014 18:52

Yes of course i gave him a cuppa and was very nice and polite. Thank you everyone for putting it into perspective. I still would have preferred if he had asked me though and actually thinking about it, i probably would have preferred for him to use the guest loo rather than him use the family bathroom. Oh well. You learn something new everyday.

OP posts:
LittleBearPad · 05/02/2014 18:53

I don't have enough loos either. Sigh.

DaddyPigsMistress · 05/02/2014 18:53

Dh puts in wood burners and boilers, he has to take pics at the end tobgo on file. He gets bollocked if he forgets.

FunLovinBunster · 05/02/2014 18:53

Wot no poo photos?
Hopes dashed.

TheCraicDealer · 05/02/2014 18:53

I suspect there's an element of the fact that it was tradesman poo as well here. Complaining about him brushing against your DDs' clothes? Unless the last boiler he fitted was in Steptoe & Sons yard i think you may be overthinking this somewhat.

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