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AIBU?

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OK iabu as it's fb but sheesh

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BuntCadger · 01/02/2014 11:11

I have a scrummy 11 day old baby and finally chose his name yesterday. Zachary Benjamin do I text family and friends and later upload a few pics for friends and family on fb with his name.

lots of lovely messages and all good. .. then a message from cousin "really? I think my Zachary was happy being the only one! " I replied that I didn't know she had a Don with that name but that it is such a lovely. name and sure lots of boys have thus name.

today there is another message about the fact 3 of my 4 children share names with her family. Thomas did Jessica. . They are hardly unusual names and they are names I like. nothing to do with her family.

she's now in her early 50s and a grandma herself so her kids are a fair bit older. j just don't get why she feels the need to be so snipey. I was all as loved up.with newborn and she's just made it a bit . dh.wants me to. "unfriend" her but it seems a bit petty, although. I wouldn't have to see her comments

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Wishfulmakeupping · 02/02/2014 19:08

Please don't change your baby's name. Please do block this crazy woman and enjoy pots of cuddles with your lovely baby :)

candycoatedwaterdrops · 02/02/2014 19:46

I've read through again and I'm flabbergasted anyone could behave this way.

Unimaginativecow · 02/02/2014 19:49

Enjoy your new bundle . It is a gorgeous name! Ignore her and whatever drama she's decided to create.
There is normally one in every family waves at SIL

Dubjackeen · 02/02/2014 19:57

Beautiful name, and I bet beautiful baby! Take no heed of any nonsense on Facebook!

minniemagoo · 02/02/2014 20:04

Horribly immature way for an adult to behave and a horrendous way for a relative to behave to a new mum.
Beautiful name, rise above it, ignore the madness (and e-mails), don't get drawn in and enjoy the newborn cuddles (jealous!).

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BuntCadger · 02/02/2014 21:44

love mnet. thanks for the support and also making me smile I called my mum had a cry like a wuzz and she was lovely. I'm fairly tempted to post her mammoth email.

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YellowDinosaur · 02/02/2014 22:07

Birdsgotofly but that isn't about your cousins being adopted is it? It's about your Uncle being a cunt...

Anyway I derail again. As you were...

HaroldLloyd · 02/02/2014 22:10

Just say

"Stop being weird"

Goldmandra · 02/02/2014 22:42

I'm fairly tempted to post her mammoth email.

I'd love to say great idea so we can ooh and aah at the insanity but

a) not really a great idea in case it gets back to her or other family

b) why haven't you deleted it yet?

I would be tempted to do it too

FryOneFatManic · 02/02/2014 22:45

This woman sounds very odd.

She'd have a fit if she came across my extended family. Out of about 45 people, 6 have the same first name. We just found ways of identifying each one. Especially as we are all close enough to meet regularly.

falulahthecat · 02/02/2014 22:49

In the 'olden' days almost everyone followed a naming pattern and so cousins were often named the same thing AND born in the same/close years.
I would just tell her she clearly had impeccable taste in names and how nice it is that they are now 'family' names and hopefully generations to come will continue to use them etc etc. Lay it on thick. Then ignore any other negative responses!

Topaz25 · 03/02/2014 13:30

Please block here, from your Facebook, your email and your life. Don't engage. Don't change your baby's beautiful name. Don't let her ruin this moment for you.

Topaz25 · 03/02/2014 13:31

*block her

SidneyBristow · 03/02/2014 14:47

What a nasty cow your cousin is. Who treats a new mother that way?? Of course you're hormonal, and probably tired, and sore, and maybe overwhelmed - and you do not need to be vented at by some miserable old cow. Nobody with any scrap of common sense would make the sort of sour comments your cousin did.

As for your sister, is it possible that the cousin contacted her, and your sis was just trying to explain what happened? Maybe she thought the cousin would apologise?

Cousin Hagface is a major drama queen. Of course she meant it as a snidey comment; if she hadn't, she'd have apologized profusely, not sent you such aggressive messages. I'd unfriend or block, and do whatever it's called so that she couldn't see any of my pictures/comments online through mutual friends' pages.

Please don't let her comments take the shine off your happiness. She's unhinged.

dying to see the full email

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BuntCadger · 03/02/2014 17:03

My cousins sister has removed me from fb now too. I understand as it is her sister but I can't see family functions being at all pleasant. I'm sticking with name and going to just rise above and carry on. I have second guessed myself but I am fairly confident I didn't misread especially as other friends were at her comments. and moving on he's scrummy and putting on weight nicely. He will be 2 weeks tomorrow and is gorgeously snoozing away in his moses basket as I sneak on here

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FlockOfTwats · 03/02/2014 17:05

YABVU. Did you not know you were supposed to choose names that NO ONE ELSE IN THE WORLD has otherwise you are blatantly stealing off people. Jees some people these days!

In all seriousness, Your cousin is being a dick.

HaroldLloyd · 03/02/2014 17:12

Your cousins sister is very petty!

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 03/02/2014 17:19

Dear Zachary please cuddle Mummy and reassure her she's picked you a lovely name, now have a lovely time and never mind your older relatives who should be ashamed of themselves.

Triliteral · 03/02/2014 17:20

My MIL complains that by the time her children came along, there were very few names left that hadn't been taken by FIL's family. Personally I find this hilarious. She didn't feel she could choose her preferred names because they were already being used by cousins. To me, avoiding names of anyone outside of your own personal household is ludicrous. Call your children what you want. You and they will be living with those names for a long time. Anyway, maybe she's jealous, as some others have said. Just ignore her and go on enjoying your beautiful children.

Olivegirl · 03/02/2014 17:30

What on earth is the matter with her!
And it's not even her dc names it's her family...
Ignore her
No one has any claim to names

Goldmandra · 04/02/2014 12:24

Oh Bunt he sounds gorgeous! I'm very a little

Enjoy every second of these early days. They go so quickly.

Well done for deciding to go with your first choice and move on

Adikia · 04/02/2014 13:58

That's ridiculous, if I avoided the names of all my cousins and their families then there would be no names left for me to choose! Just ignore her and enjoy Zachary being so small.

KurriKurri · 04/02/2014 14:07

Please don't change your babies name - you chose it especially for him because you loved it. What your cousin and her sister think are irrelevant - they are clearly mad as badgers.

Do they seriously believe names are for one off usage only? - Why do they think you can buy baby name books, if no one can use an already used name. The names you have chosen sound like lovely traditional 'biblical style' names - which people have been using for years.

And surely if someone chooses a name that you have used for your child, it is a massive compliment - you know they love that name too.

In terms of mad relatives butting in on your new baby experience - when I was pregnant, I got a letter from a mad aunt of XH's saying 'you'd better have a boy, because we need someone to carry on the family name' - the 'family' name is Pearson - not a name I felt was likely to die out if I had the audacity to have a girl!

Enjoy your newborn -ignore Patty and Selma

ScarlettMantleplume · 04/02/2014 14:09

The pair of them are barking.

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