My older sister lives with my parents in Ireland while my younger sister and I live in England.
Throughout our childhoods OS bullied me and YS pretty much constantly. My parents ignored it, just as they ignored any emotionally difficult situation.
I basically stopped talking to OS when I was 14 as it was the only way to stop her bullying me and she was driving me mad (literally). She gave up on me but redoubled her energies on YS whom she bullied until YS left home 2 years ago. YS hates OS. I just feel sorry for her at this stage, the environment she my DM and DF have at home now is majorly dysfunctional and toxic. OS texted some weeks ago saying weshould be in contact more and "be friends like we used to be." (last time we were friendly I was about 5). I don't want to engage with her so I just said "of course" to avoid a fight.
She rang yesterday out of the blue. She hasn't rung me in at least 5 years. I ignored the call. Later YS rang me to say OS had rung her (YS had also got a 'let's be friends' text a few weeks ago). Apparently mum is very down and YS needs to call her, the implicit message being that YS and I are shit daughters for not being in more contact. OS is due to ring me again today and no doubt I'll get the same message.
Now, when I was depressed a few years ago I was basically told by mum and OS that I was worrying everyone and I needed to get over it.
So today when OS rings today WIBU to suggest I say the same thing to mum? And to say that if her version of "friendship" is to ring me up once in 5 years to criticise me then she can stuff it up her arse? Or am I just being petty?