If your DH complained that the shower was dirty

[Finabhear]

Would you,
a/ point him in he direction of the cleaning products and think no more about it
b/ take it as criticism
c/ shrug, so what, its on the to do list?
d/ any other suggestions?

I think I should have chose a. but I actually did b.

I do most of the cleaning in our house mainly because my tolerance for dirt is lower that DH's.

Still quietly steaming to myself but am IBU?

My other half casually mentioned the toilet in this manner soon after we moved on together

I said "you have two options - clean it, or hire someone to clean it for you"

15 a years later, we still have a cleaner

you should have told him to clean it while he was in there. I quite often clean the inside of the shower while waiting for my conditioner to work - there is a sponge and spray in there all the time so no excuses.

I would go for e, if e was lock him in the shower cubicle and put the shower on to freezing!!

Only joking!

DH already cleans the shower and does a fab job, I usually have a bath so probably wouldn't notice much muck

Whilst he was having a whinge about it, he could have cleaned it.

My dh does this, not with cleaning, but with things that need doing. I say to him as above. 'Whilst you have whinged/moaned about (insert task) you could have done it'.

I would go for B. I can't help it. Luckily for him, he doesn't mention the cleanliness of things very often, but if he does, I take it as a personal insult because I'm a SAHM and don't work, so I have a bit of a guilt thing about cleaning.

Not that it is really bad, but I find lots of things to do instead of cleaning iyswim. I don't really enjoy cleaning and have a big house that shows up all the mess. And two young DC. But I try to do enough so that DH doesn't feel the need to start cleaning himself at the weekend - I would rather he spent the time with us all instead. We have a division of labour in other ways, but cleaning is not one of them, I do it. He rarely comments though. It seems that as long as the bed is made, he doesn't really care (has a thing about the bed being made, so I scoot up and do that before he gets home, which makes me look really organised and tidy).

I would say "I'm not the only person capable of cleaning it."

A

And expect him to he grateful he's not having to have the CIF bottle removed from his arse.

I would have reacted exactly as you did Fin. And I HATE cleaning the shower too for all the reasons you say.

'Clean it then'.

I would tell him I have been too busy to do it. But only because we have equally shared out the cleaning of rooms. I cant imagine him ever saying this to be honest.

Tell him to fuck off, then a.

Thank you everyone, I can see that my self esteem needs cranking up a tad. Certainly to the point where I can just shrug and say 'meh'. This should have been a cut and dried 'whatever' and not a big drama.

Look at him confused. Tile head. and then:

"oh you should probably clean it then"

That's what you should have done anyway.. I am heavily pregnant and dh would probably rather set himself on fire than be dumb enough to tell me about a dirty bath.