To want to give daughters bf a good talking to???

[chickensaresafehere]

My daughter(14) has been out with this lad before,but he wasn't particularly nice to her&quite controlling.
Move forward a couple of months & after some mild interrogation it transpires she's going back out with him
We have had a few arguments & chats about
how he treated her before &
he's probably going to do it again, but she's adamant she
wants to give it a go.
She's brought him back home,because it's raining & they have nowhere to go,so I have reluctantly let him in.They are in her room,with the door open!!
Please give me something good to say to him as he leaves that will leave a lasting impression on him

I don't think you can change him. In your shoes id wait for something to happen and then lightly say something but it could back fire on you splendidly! She has to make any challenges. You need to help her find a way.

If you so much bring tears to my daughters eyes again you'll be leaving this house in a body bag. Or.... If you upset her I'll be wearing your bollocks for earrings. Have a nice day!

See this minced meat? (holding up rinsed mince) That's you that is!

Yeh I know,we've talked a lot about it&have a good relationship.But he's cast his spell over her & would love to give him something to think about on his way home,without upsetting her too much IYSWIM.

Glitz & Dinnae
Would love to say those,but am trying to be more subtle

Get a baseball bat for next time he comes around and greet him at the door with it and just raise your eyebrows

Have you got some red food colouring? And a cleaver? Make some loud cutting slams into a wood board, add a drama dash of colour then knock and ask him sweetly with a steely eye if he would like to stay for supper?

Mad professor lab coat, unkempt hair and glasses optional

Yes, what Dinnae says... also the Robert De Niro from 'Meet the Fockers'... that two finger on eyes and back again... be supersweet to him in your daughter's sight and hearing - and utterly terrifying to him if you get him on your own. Tell him that you know 'people' and he doesn't ever want to know them... but, you know how these things happen, introductions are made, horses heads are involved... , that kind of thing.

Just say I'd appreciate you showing respect to her because I really don't want to have to speak to you again about it. and I have a shovel and a really good alibi

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damn
this

Love it,Lyin!!!
Maybe someone can lend me their huge,tattooed scary husband to glare menacingly at him.Apparently all daughters friends think my husband is camp & rather lovely!!!!

One of my friends refused to come to my house when we were younger because she said my dad looks like he belongs to the mafia. You can borrow my dad

Chickens... Well, my husband has no tattoos and isn't scary but you can borrow him by all means. My brother thinks he looks like Peter Sutcliffe.

There are some terrifying 'quiet' guys... Michael Myers was none to chatty as I recall, and a bit pasty to boot...

There we are - Glitz's dad and my husband - sorted...

My DH in the wrong mood looks like he'd kill you and enjoy it... He's actually soft as site! You can borrow him if you like. He put the fear of God into all his much younger sister's teenage bfs.

Brilliant!!
He wouldn't come within a mile of our house then

Has anyone seen the duck dynasty "Daddy's got a gun" episode, where Willie finds out his daughter has a boyfriend, so insists on getting to know each other over an afternoon of snake shooting?

What about
'If you plan on coming here again,plan on showing my daughter some respect'????

I know Iam,I have experience of that myself,so it's something that I'm very aware of .

she is 14 and they can be intense at that age although what sort of things is he doing to her telling your dd he is no good will only drive them closer together I do think boys can be really quite controlling at this age equally girls can too I have had 2 teen girls and some of the boyfriend girlfriend stories i hear have me about how they treat each other

I didn't listen much at 14. Actually, I didn't listen much at 15 through to 19 either. If I'd had an inkling that my mum didn't like my highly inappropriate boyfriends, I probably would have married them all in Gretna Green without delay and been very sorry (but unrepentant).

Much better that OP takes the direct approach with the 'boyfriend'... she can still cheerlead appropriately with her daughter out of his earshot.