to put a lock on the kitchen cupboard?

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Bloody DH has been helping himself to stuff again, most of our food is shared but there is a small cupboard that I put things I don't want him to eat in (treats I've bought for me or the kids, packed lunch bits, bits bought for a specific meal) just been to the cupboard and the bastards had all the squash and the pack of doughnuts I was saving to share with the kids as our Saturday afternoon treat He knows that is what that cupboards for and there is plenty of food in the other cupboards so it's not like he was starving and that's all he could find.

Bastard isn't even sorry.

Why are you leaving him out...?

Show the man some doughnut love.

What squoosh said

Purple, coz he's out, I should have explained better. I bought 4 doughnuts yesterday as they were reduced, he ate his, I'd saved mine to have with the kids whilst he's out this afternoon, but greedy git helped himself to them too.

YANBU

I don't share doughnuts with anyone. Tell him to keep his sticky mitts off and get his own supply.

Huh? Why is he not allowed doughnuts and squash?

Buy some more, then?

Does he have food issues?

I think that's rude of him tbh if he knew they were for the kids. Not 'crime of the century' rude but surely a grown man can have some willpower.

YANBU - it is not acceptable for a grown man to eat his share of the "treats" and then scoff down the DCs and his partners share too. I wouldn't actually put a lock on the cupboard but I'd be pretty damn pissed off.

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If you specifically told him you and the DC were eating yours later then yes I think he's a greedy rude pig.

Why should the OP have to go out and buy more because her DP is so disrespectful?

I don't think you are being unreasonable. If food is set aside for the children he shouldn't eat it. Said hypocritically after scoffing DS cream egg this morning

When I was a student some asshat in my halls kept eating my food. So I set some aside (an unopened can of coke, a half eaten box of malteasers and a small loaf of bread) and I sprayed it with dog anti chewing spray.
It's completely harmless to humans and my food wasn't eaten again.
Muhahahaha!!!!

LTB

On a more serious note (now that you've explained) he sounds very selfish.

Is he one of these people (you often read about them on here) who just can't resist eating something purely because 'it's there'?

YANBU that would irritate me as well.

Is he going to say sorry to the DC that he ate their Saturday treat as well as his own, or at least replace them?

he is allowed doughnuts and squash, just not the stuff I put in that cupboard because that's stuff specifically for the kids.

InPursuitOfOblivion but you've taken your child's creme egg and eaten it, so how does that make you different to the students who did that to you?

Did he seriously eat the doughnuts he knew were your children's afternoon treat? Selfish childish nobber (unless he nipped out and replaced them).

Everyone's entitled to a binge every now and then but not like that!

BTW, despite the above, a lock on one of the cupboards in your (shared) kitchen is ridiculous. Just give him one last explanation and if he eats something that's saved for another meal / treat again, send him straight out to replace it and refuse to put any food on the table for him until he has.

And be honest with the kids too

Tell them in front of your DH, why they didn't get their treats.

Worra, not usually, he just fancied the doughnuts.

ziggie, he will replace it but not til after dinner as that's when he'll be home.

Worraliberty I know I am actually a bad person! I blamed the loss of the cream egg on the dog too, so now DS is all huffy with him.
I believe in karma so I'm preparing my ass for a whooping. It usually comes in the form of DH drinking all the naice wine and leaving me the crap the neighbours brought round.

So he really is just greedy and selfish then

I wonder how he'd feel if the kids took something of his when he wanted it and replaced it hours later?

I'm considering hiding his beer as punishment.

I would put a lock on that cupboard door.My dp does this all the time.It gets on my nerves.

See Pursuit I know you're joking...I do get that.

But I think it gives kids mixed messages really on what is right and wrong

I gave my DS's friend a selection box at Christmas and he insisted on eating all 5 bars of chocolate at my house, rather than take it home. He said it would have disappeared overnight if he didn't.

I think if I grew up in a house like that, it probably would have taught me to binge eat too.