to put a lock on the kitchen cupboard?

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Bloody DH has been helping himself to stuff again, most of our food is shared but there is a small cupboard that I put things I don't want him to eat in (treats I've bought for me or the kids, packed lunch bits, bits bought for a specific meal) just been to the cupboard and the bastards had all the squash and the pack of doughnuts I was saving to share with the kids as our Saturday afternoon treat He knows that is what that cupboards for and there is plenty of food in the other cupboards so it's not like he was starving and that's all he could find.

Bastard isn't even sorry.

Many years ago my SIL's SIL had a lock on her food cupboard.She was bonkers.We still talk about it today over 40 years on. ' You remember so and so ? Well she's just had another GGS ' ' Oh, her that used to have a lock on the food cupboard '.

I have a tool box with a padlock on it where I keep the snacks. Not to keep DH out, but to ration for the boys, otherwise they will eat a weeks worth of packed lunch extras in one sitting.

AuntySib that's fair enough but my DSIL's SIL only had a DH and no kids. As I said she was a teeny bit bonkers.

Just ask him to pop out and get replacements.

I hide all treats in my handbag and places he wont go -sock drawers are you friends!

My DD puts green food colouring into her milk at Uni to stop her flatmates from nicking it. Apparently it works.

DH eats our cold supper when he gets home (much later than we eat), but supper also forms a major part of DS's packed lunch for the next day (cold sausages, salmon steak, fajitas, stir fry, etc.).

If I've miscalculated or the DC were extra hungry, so there's not enough for DH's supper and DS's lunch, DH accepts that like a grown man, and makes something else for himself!

If you have your own car, store food like this in your boot.

DP once ate all the bread one night. There were 10 slices left, enough for two sandwiches, four rounds of toast in the morning and a couple to spare. There was a plated up meal left out for him too. He'd had a text to let him know and a note left out. He still necked the lot when he got in from a mahoosive long job around 2 a.m.

I won't repeat what I said to him but he's never dared do it again

yanbu.

it's rude and disrespectful.

what if you (as a family ) couldn't afford to replace?
he knows what that cupboard's for, he had his fair share and he still went and ate them?

I would be reading him the riot act

Sorry failed to mention the sandwiches and toast would have been the children's lunchboxes and breakfasts.

And what I said was extremely rude, also involved him being the one who went to the shop, bought replacements, drove to school, sweet-talked the dragon in the office, and came home again, in his morning break, not mine.

I put a huge 'DO NOT EAT' sticker on a bar of chocolate I was saving for some baking with DDs. DH still ate it. I had to tell DDs, as we had started getting ingredients ready when I realized. They still talk about it to this day.

I'd say hide your treats in future.

No car to leave it in unfortunately but knicker drawer may be an idea.

nickelbabe - most weeks our budget is pretty tight so you think he would of thought about that.

DameDeepRedBetty I'm not surprised you were rude. DH has already been told if he touches the last of the bread again his life won't be worth living, there is nothing worse than realising you've run out of packed lunch stuff as you are getting the DC ready for school.

I would make the beer disappear. Why should he get to eat your treats on top of his own?

In fact, I'd drink all the beer (even though I don't really like the stuff) and leave the empty cans/bottles out where he can see them!

YANBU. Some people cannot afford to 'just pop out' and get some more, or, in this case, the man is at work and OP has no car.

He's selfish. He ate his children's treats, knowingly.

You shouldn't have to hide food. He's a grown up. He can get his own and no one needs to eat four doughnuts

Aaaargh, reminds me of my (very EX)H. Talk about a glutton. I used to bake a lot and if I wasn't vigilant, he'd hoover up most of the goodies before the kids got near them. Another awful thing - we generally had his parents or friends round for Sunday lunch - he'd carve, and it'd be a case of slice a bit of meat for serving, then slice another bit that he'd pop straight in his mouth from the carving fork! Disgusting, I thought.

But I also knew a couple where the big chest freezer was kept in the garage, and the husband fitted a lock to it, and he'd only allow his wife access if he were present too, to make sure she didn't take out more than what he decided she needed.

They divorced eventually!

DH will do things like this. I don't always mind as much with things like bread although it is annoying, he's not a mind reader.
It used to drive me mad with snacks and was costing a fortune. I bought everyone a labelled snack box that gets filled once a week. It has worked very well, no one has pinched anyone's things.

This is weird! You have a separate cupboard with things in that your DH isn't allowed to eat, but you and DC are??

Why don't people only form adult relationships with grown up human beings?

Spotty, I do all the shopping and cooking and money is tight so that cupboard is my way of making sure the DC have enough for packed lunch and keeping sugary stuff out their reach so they check first, DH has a shelf in the top of a cupboard that he uses for his treats which none of us touch. I also have a cupboard where the pet food lives

Is there anything worth having on your DHs treat shelf? It's really not on that he scoffed your's and the DC's treats too. He'd had his, then decided to eat the rest, knowing full well he was making his wife and his children go without. He was being really selfish and greedy. Personally I think he was being a git.

I'm sorry this is still odd to me. DH and I both work.I do the shopping and we have a cupboard of treats. We all eat them.