To want to actually punch DH in the face?

[MrsPeeWee]

For slurping his tea and giving it the almighty "ahhh" once hes taken the loudest swallow.
I could literally reach over and slap it out if his hands.

Please share equally annoying moments your DH's regularly do, so I feel less the angry housewife. sniggers

When DH finishes eating, he throws the knife and fork down on the plate with an unnecessary loud clattering noise and look of triumph on his face as though he's thinking 'ha! I finished my food before you'. God it annoys me.
He never even told me we were racing.

Maybe if people are grumbling about things that are trivial, but joking about violence isn't a trivial matter though. I mean would anybody 'jokingly' post this about their child if they'd pissed them off?

Well I suppose it depends what you call 'violence'. I think it's become a fashionable word, used in all sorts of inappropriate situations. It's like the word 'victim'... it's one of my pet hates. Over-use and mis-use is diminishing it, making it usual and normal and that's not on. It does a huge disservice to people who ARE actual victims who DO suffer actual violence.

An example of a poster getting jumped on is TaraLott's post, Fut. You silenced her. I understood the humour in her post, you did not. You don't have the right to shut people up.

This was a humorous thread, it had good potential but instead of reading, wincing and back-spacing out of it in silent disgust, the minority of posters have jumped on the bandwagon of decrying violence and making a huge issue out of something that this thread was not. There are plenty of shelters and refuges who could do with help and would maybe even welcome such strident advocates against real violence. This isn't such a place and I think there are many of us who have had enough of it.

Fut - you're missing my point. If I said something that offended you that doesn't mean I have to apologise to you or take back what I said.

A: I think red is an awful colour.
B: That offends me because I like the colour red.
A: Well, just because you like the colour red and are offended by my dislike of the colour red, does not mean I have to apologise and take back my dislike of the colour red.

It's my opinion. You being offended isn't going to make me change my opinion.

Well said, Lying

Ive taught my baby to do ghis 'aaah' bit I find kt amusing.i do it too. But if anyone else dared theyd get the death stare.

Lying and HappyGoLucky but the same goes for people who are offended. They don't have to shut up and go elsewhere because their opinion differs from yours. They can say they don't like it. You of course can continue your teenage-style whining about how it's spoiled your fun if you want, but the right to express an opinion cuts both ways. You don't have the right to shut them up either.

Mellow - I'm not attempting to shut them up. Merely stating that shouting the words 'I'm offended' is pointless. It doesn't mean anything and doesn't accomplish anything so why wade into a conversation and say 'stop it, I'm offended'. It's not going to stop the conversation is it? It's a moot point.

I may as well stomp into Parliament and yell 'stop talking about your pay rises, it offends me'.

I've never understood why people think that being offended actually matters.

Mellow... who said anything about spoiling anybody's fun? It's a chatboard. I can happily post around the PO. It's you and your band of merry thread-stompers who are intent on silencing those posters you don't like the writings of. I like posting here and, subject to MN's guidelines, will carry on doing that. If all I had to contribute was bleary, illogical and ineffective protests then I think I'd go and find something else but, whatever does it for you.

My dad once said to my mum if you don't shut up I'll actually punch you in the face, and he did. I wish growing up with domestic violence hadn't affected me so much and I could look at this thread title in a lighthearted manner.

IamNotLegend... the title may not have been obvious to you but the OP would have been as would the subsequent posts.

I find many topics upsetting; I choose to not read them because of that. You have the absolute right to read and post what you want but I fail to understand why you'd put yourself through the trauma really. It seems a bit masochistic to me.

NotnowI'mreading

My mum is dead and still laughed heartily at your cupcake/mum remark.

Not least imagining having a really jokey argument with her re: cupcakes if she was alive.

(I'll never be over the fact that she died either. However, her death had nothing to do with cupcakes)

Don't worry, I haven't suffered any trauma reading through these posts. I assumed correctly it was a lighthearted thread. I find it interesting though how people who have suffered the effects of domestic violence, either directly it indirectly, react differently to such an emotive thread title. I'm afraid I don't find humour in it but i'm not offended if the next person does.

If you're offended, don't read the thread

Actually if that easily offended, you may as well never use the internet ever again maybe you should consider staying in the house..

I think it's fair enough to be offended by a thread title which threatens to punch a dh. It's not funny. Op, you should be more careful how you phrase your humorous titles.

Hunting - that's just it, she shouldn't be more careful. Why should she? Just in case some mumsnetters get offended ?

The liberty of free speech comes before the right to be offended.

I agree with suelford.

If that makes me PO so be it.

DV is not really a laughing matter.

Is it okay to 'joke' someone being a retard due to the annoying way they eat?

Same thing imo, just ignorant, insensitive and unnecessary.

I'm not offended.
I just think there would have been a totally different reaction had the op been titled ' aibu to actually want to punch Dw in the face'.

But the key thing here is, no-one is actually laughing at DV.

OP didn't come on and say "Guess what? Just twatted DH in the face for chewing soup" and everyone fell about laughing.

Fucking hell Futtheshutup, yeah I was so proud I went and stood over him and pissed my pants laughing.

My husband brings his man pillow to bed every stinking night. I don't want to punch him so much as pinchhim on the underside of his arm.

Hunting, I'm assuming you're having a little goad there but, on the assumption that I'm wrong and you're actually being serious I'll tell you that I'm offended by the posters on this thread that have taken the opportunity to talk, on a lighthearted thread, about their violent experiences...

No warning you see, horribly triggering for some and yet they choose to spout them, endlessly, one after the other like a lemming-fest. I don't want to read them yet I chose to open this thread and am now forced to do so.

It does indeed cut both ways.

SecretWitch... What exactly is a 'man pillow'?

I do the gagging thing when I clean my teeth, luckily I don't have a husband to annoy I have been told I swill and gargle mouthwash in quite an exaggerated fashion too!

LyingWitch( always happy to meet a sister witch) I call the over size body pillow thing he insists on clutching every night the man pillow..