Ex threatening court, unborn baby

[marleyandme2014]

Posting here for more traffic as need so advice urgently.

Currently 40+6 and been having a slow early labour for 3 days now.

Last week or so (basically from my due date) my ex has been absolutely vile towards me - sending angry abusive text messages, telling me what a bad parent I'll be, how I'm mentally unstable (I'm not), how he will be taking me to court and he is going to show them what kind of person I really am.

I asked him why? I have not refused contact once the baby is born. I have said I won't be putting him on the birth cert initially and this is one of the reasons he will take me to court - to gain his 'rights'.

I am with my long term partner (ex was a fling during a break in my relationship - not proud of it but there you go). Ex is so angry, he is badmouthing me to anyone who will listen and has now started talking about turning my mum against me (which would never happen as we are very close).

I don't know what my first steps should be. I obviously am trying not to get too stressed because I don't want to cause problems with the birth, but I am so upset. This person is foreign and I'm scared he will get parental rights, then a passport and take her away from me.

I totally agree with what Chunderella says.

Ghetto.

That's a vile post, nothing at all from this op indicates she's intentionally done this,many things indicate she has not.

So why bother posting it on this thread?

If someone deliberately went out to get pregnant because their partner was infertile do you really believe they would tell the natural father? Come off it if the op had done this deliberately she'd have just disappeared and never said a word and he would have never known. The fact things are the way they are shows that the op has been upfront and honest so the insults are uncalled for.

But if she didnt tell the father, she wouldnt be able to get the maintainence she wants. Willing to take that yet deny him everything.

If the plan was not to get pregnant OP would have used contraception given she hardly knew the man from iirc from the other post. Nice and convenient timing not to mention she can use the fact he is from another country against him.

Its ok for the OP to use him, shut him out but the ex is not supposed to react and when he does he is suddendly no good to be a father. Double standards are rife again i see.

FGS, what sort of weirdos defend a man who is harassing and threatening a woman who is in labour?

and Happy, I noticed you haven't asked why he didn't use contraception...

Of course someone would put themselves through all of this just for the bit of money they might get in child maintenance why didn't I think of that . He'd have to be stupidly rich to make that worth it. By the way no contraception is 100% guaranteed I know quite a few people who can confirm that.

I also agree you shouldn't block him from you phone as

Get a new phone to use daily, and keep the old one on just to collect his texts so you can use them as proof of what he's like, or to communicate with him if/when you want to.

Oops part of my message disappeared!

Should have said ... as they're extremely valuable evidence against him.

I think the unpleasant posts on this thread say far more about the people making them than any supposed imaginary bad behaviour on the part of op.

Just a quick update, I've finally had my baby girl - she was born in the early hours. Absolutely beautiful and the light of my life already. We are home, safe, sound and healthy.

I haven't had chance to read the replies on this thread yet, but thank you to those of you who have offered support and advice - it has been and will continue to be a great strength for me xxx

Congratulations marley

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Happymummy.

Go through her posts, what exactly is the only thing at all that she is denying the only thing is the birth certificate, she was open and trying to arrange contact and involvement she was giving him information and she was trying to engage with him.

Congratulations!

Tell him its not his baby and to leave you alone

Congratulations

Essentially his current behaviour is risking the health of your child. Can you speak to mw about this and see if something can be recorded in your notes etc as proof?

Ahh I just saw the news!! Congratulations

congratulations and I too would tell him to fuck right off as he's not the father.