AIBU to have not not want sex 18 months on.

[Rizzo69]

Our DD is 18 months old. She still sleeps in our room, and until now I have used this as an excuse for the fact that I have no interest in having sex.

DH has been very patient. He's always telling me I look great, hugging and trying to kiss me. He doesn't pressurise me for sex at all, but I know he wants us to start again. I'm happy with things as they are.

Am I being unreasonable?

I think most of assume that's what the Op meant, since she used quotes chunderella.

Maybe she didn't though.

Good for you - it's a start

Shame about the clean sheets though

I assumed that too, since it is what would make the biggest mess of the sheets! I was rather assuming that, at 4am and with a toddler to get up to, she wasn't looking for massive physical sexual satisfaction from this particular encounter, more a spur of the moment decision that she did want to move towards a sexual relationship again.

No one made me do anything. On the spur of the moment I gave DH a little treat.

I think if a marriage is to survive you have to continue being lovers, once things degenerate into just being co-childminders and friends then a large part of the intimacy and specialness of marriage goes.
I think women naturally tend to want to have sex less frequently than men, but the person who is least bothered about sex shouldn't always get their own way.
If someone never wanted sex then I'd think they should be discussing that with their spouse and whether they then want an open relationship so the parter who still wants sex can doesn't have enforced celibacy and can choose to be intimate.

Good for you Rizzo. I hope this could be the start of you having sexual fullfilment too.

Baby steps will slowly get you closer [winks]