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To not want to leave DD in hotel room

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overfacebook · 18/01/2014 15:26

We went away with a few friends a while ago and stayed in a hotel. One of the couples had a 1 year old DD who they left in the room while we had dinner. The baby monitor wouldn't reach but they didn't seem worried and went up every now and then to listen at the door.

I now have a baby DD and we may be going away with the same group in the summer. There is no way that I'd feel happy about leaving her in a hotel room while DH and I were downstairs. However our friends are planning to do the same again.

Would I be unreasonable to tell them that I think this is irresponsible and really risky? Anyone could have a key; what if child was ill and you didn't realise for ages etc etc.... So many reasons. Or am I just being overly paranoid? I'd love to know what you all think and how I can approach this without coming over all judgemental.

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VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:27

i wouldn't want to either!

Tinkertaylor1 · 18/01/2014 15:28

I must be getting too cynical Hmm

Fakebook · 18/01/2014 15:28

I personally couldn't do it and never have. Yanbu.

YouStayClassySanDiego · 18/01/2014 15:29

You look after your baby the way you see fit, I would be exactly the same as you but I'd say nothing.

They can look after their child the way they want.

If you comment that you think their way is risky will they take offence?

AnyFucker · 18/01/2014 15:29

I would simply do what I felt comfortable with and if asked, explain why

Its interesting that you are thinking of calling them on it this year, but you didn't last year. If you think it is wrong, it is wrong whether you have your own child or not.

Personally, I would not be using my precious holiday time with such people, there you go

AnyFucker · 18/01/2014 15:30

but there you go

ancientbuchanan · 18/01/2014 15:30

When we did I had a baby monitor on the table.

There is no way otherwise, and that was before m mccann

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:31

i don't know, i might not have given it much thought pre-dc, i see things very differently now though.

harriet247 · 18/01/2014 15:33

Some hotels offer a baby listening service via the room phone- maybe this would be an option for them, not great but somewhere in the middle or is there a hotwl babysitting? I did this in my ptevious job in a hotel, an easy 20 quid!

MeepMeepVrooooom · 18/01/2014 15:33

I wouldn't personally. It's down to what you are comfortable with at the end of the day. Don't feel guilty for not doing it if you don't want to.

AnyFucker · 18/01/2014 15:34

I am not having a go at Op for not saying anything last year, just like i wouldn't if she didn't this year

She has free will, she should not feel pressured to leave her baby alone, and I get the impression that is going to happen

Original poster
overfacebook · 18/01/2014 15:34

I probably should have said something last time, but I thought it was their business. I wish I had now though as they now probably assume I think it's fine. They might take offence, hard to say. Perhaps a rented cottage where we don't go out to eat is the answer Hmm.

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HeartShapedBox · 18/01/2014 15:35

no way would I do this...

the timing of this threads a bit odd, though.

AnyFucker · 18/01/2014 15:35

Who are these people love, and why are you tied into holidaying with them ?

perhaps you have outgrown them and should just have your own nuclear family time ?

AnyFucker · 18/01/2014 15:36

why, HSB ?

MeepMeepVrooooom · 18/01/2014 15:36

Oh I also wouldn't say anything to your friends. It's there choice what they do with their child and your choice what to do with yours. If they ask all you need to say is you don't feel comfortable doing it

Tinkertaylor1 · 18/01/2014 15:36

Yes isn't it heart

YouStayClassySanDiego · 18/01/2014 15:38

Timings of what threads?

What d'you mean HeartSB

SauvignonBlanche · 18/01/2014 15:39

Perfectly fine IMHO - once they're old enough to use a phone and to get their shoes and coats on and come downstairs in an orderly fashion should the fire alarm go off.
I think DS was 13 and DD was 10 when we did it.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:39

please let's not turn it into a thread about what's happened recently :(

BackforGood · 18/01/2014 15:40

I wouldn't do it / have never done it myself, but ultimately these things are all 'risk assessed' by each family, and if you want to remain friends with them, criticising their decisions isn't usually the best way forward. I'd just say that I wasn't comfortable doing it, and look at alternative suggestions (such as a cottage and a takeaway)

AnyFucker · 18/01/2014 15:40

that was a totally different scenario if it's what I think it is Confused

YouStayClassySanDiego · 18/01/2014 15:42

Vampyre I'm confused, are you referring to what happened in Scotland this weekend?

Original poster
overfacebook · 18/01/2014 15:43

Thanks all, think I will just say that I don't feel comfortable about it and suggest a cottage + takeaway. Why is the timing odd?

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VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:44

i thought that's what heart was getting at, i could be wrong.

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