To not want to leave DD in hotel room

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We went away with a few friends a while ago and stayed in a hotel. One of the couples had a 1 year old DD who they left in the room while we had dinner. The baby monitor wouldn't reach but they didn't seem worried and went up every now and then to listen at the door.

I now have a baby DD and we may be going away with the same group in the summer. There is no way that I'd feel happy about leaving her in a hotel room while DH and I were downstairs. However our friends are planning to do the same again.

Would I be unreasonable to tell them that I think this is irresponsible and really risky? Anyone could have a key; what if child was ill and you didn't realise for ages etc etc.... So many reasons. Or am I just being overly paranoid? I'd love to know what you all think and how I can approach this without coming over all judgemental.

I wouldnt do it, dont think id say anything to the friends though unless they said something about my decision.

Im sure they are well aware of the risks

If the hotel had a listening service then I would do it. Its up to you op...its your baby and you don't need to justify yourself to anyone.

I wouldn't do it, and would suggest a cottage like you have. An alternative would be to put the LO down to sleep in the pram and wheel them down to the restaurant asleep.

When my boys were 3 & 5 we went up north to a family get together in a local hotel. My sisters called me a "namby pamby southerner" because I wouldn't leave the boys alone in the hotel room! I got two of my 17 year old nieces to babysit in the room with a supply of drinks and snacks.

Do what you feel comfortable with. If they feel guilty or defensive about their parenting because of your choice then that's their problem frankly!

Insearchoftheflumflumtree covers it perfectly. This is just a variation of what the McCanns did.Wrong then,wrong now. Unless you put all the children in one room to sleep and someone sits in, whether parent or paid babysitter, not on.

Cottages are better. Just smile and nod. But if it is a hotel, you need to work out what you are going to do. Split meals? Walk the baby asleep in a pushchair?

I have done this (& would again) but only in small hotels with very few rooms (less than 10) & having previously booked a room close/on the same floor as the restaurant. We used a baby monitor.

It is completely up to you. But, if the others still want to go to a hotel you would be unreasonable to kick up a fuss. You either don't go, put her in buggy or tag team with DH. It is unfair to inflict your parenting decisions on others. Saying that I would much prefer a cottage.

We did this with a listening service and once where the monitor worked. Wouldn't do it without one of those. Your solution of suggesting a cottage is a great one!