AIBU to think that I'm NOT keeping DH awake if he is snoring?

[MmeLindor]

He keeps waking up and muttering cause he 'can't sleep cause of the light of the iPhone'.

He's been snoring since I came to bed so how on earth can MNetting be bothering him?

YABVU.No really you are.If you want to mess around on here don't do it next to some one trying to sleep in bed.

My ex used to do that, he'd be snoring his head off then moan in the morning that he'd hardly slept because I had the bedside light on to read

Or if I kicked poked him to stop him snoring he would moan that I woke him up, shame, didn't realise I was meant to be awake all night just so he wasn't disturbed. should have taken my mums advice and held a pillow over his face until he was quiet

Gosh I definitely don't miss him!

Disclaimer: One part of this post isn't serious, and its NOT the last sentence!

Caitlin
Seriously? He's fast asleep and snoring. How can I be disturbing him?

Ineed
I'm quite happy to keep DH. Just like to moan occasionally

Can you use your iPhone to record his snoring?

Oh gosh, I wasn't suggesting you left him! I hope it doesnt come across that way

The scenario above was one of a long list of things tbh! I'm sure your dh is lovely

I really can't imagine reading in bed or playing on a phone if the person next to me is asleep or is trying to sleep.

Ineed
Don't worry. I didn't take offence :)

I'm assuming his snoring/moaning wasn't the reason he's your ex. Or not just that

Ha. Might record his snores for when he tells me he doesn't snore m

Caitlin
But he is asleep and I'm not tired yet.

He complains if I stay downstairs too long so this is a compromise for me. I'd be happy to sit on the couch with a glass of wine.

How do you put up with the snoring???

Oh phew!

My DH can be lying on his back with his eyes closed and his mouth open snoring like an elephant with a head cold, but if I poke kick him he says iambu and that he wasn't snoring and that he was, in fact, wide awake.

Yes, I have this discussion with my DH too

I'll moan that he's keeping me awake with his snoring and he'll moan I'm keeping him awake with my light on.

I didn't realise you could snore loud enough to wake the dead when you're wide awake, and in fact the only reason my light is on is because I can't sleep because of the bloody snoring

Caitlin: I need to read in bed if I'm going to be able to sleep. Why should I be prevented from doing so just because dh has chosen to try to go to sleep first? Neither my reading nor typing prevents him from sleeping, the snoring lump beside me now demonstrates that fact.

He sounds even more like my ex now (is he my ex?) ::narrows eyes suspiciously::

A typical evening in our house was.
Him: I'm going to bed now, you coming? (Often complete with dodgy pornstar voice and waggling eyebrows)
Me: oh I'll be up soon, I'm not really tired and you know the light will annoy you.
Him: no it won't
Me: it always does, you're always moaning about it.
Him: Ffs, its like you don't even love me. Jesus, all I wanna do I go to bed at the same time.
Me: of course i love you, I'm just not tired.

I'm sure you get the gist!

Bleugh. He sound vile - nothing like a bit of emotional blackmail to get you in the mood!

No, thankfully DH doesn't do that. He's mostly accepted the compromise and doesn't often complain. When he does, I ignore and whinge about him on Mumsnet so we are both happy!

Could you turn the light down on your iPhone screen? That might help?

Like I said, the snoring/moaning was part of a long list of problems!

These days its my 7 year old ds2 who snores, although not always in my bed, but hes so freaking cute (both looks and the lovely little snore he does) that I forgive him.

It's down as far as it will go. And I've inverted the colours. There is more light coming under the door from the night light in the hall!

Why is it that the kids or the dog snoring make me say 'awwww' but DH snoring gives me the rage?

download an app called night mode...it's for exactly this! I always use phone in bed, like you I compromise by coming to bed early than I need or want try it

Turn the brightness on your screen all the way down. If me or dp have ours very low we don't disturb each other.

The answer? Have your own bed. A king size one. To spread out on and MN in in peace. Minus the bulldozer sound effects.

Only problem with this option...you are usually required to be single before this happens!

I'm MNing next to a snoring DH. I just bunch up the covers around the phone to stop the light from bothering him

Goldencity1 We must have the same DH - I've never noticed you in bed!

Yes you're BU.

When he rouses the light becomes really obvious. He isn't aware he's been asleep and snoring. To him it feels like he hasn't slept at all.

Honestly, sounds to me like he might have a sleeping disorder. If he were truly asleep he wouldn't rouse as often. I suggest a sleep study.

I say this as someone who experienced the same thing before I got my CPAP.