My toddler was "helping" spread jam on toast for brekkie. Unsurprisingly there was quite a bit of jam on floor/unit etc which I wiped up. Cue massive strop from toddler who was apparently traumatised that he had not been allowed to clean it. "Me do it!!". DH then tells me I am being mean in not re-smearing jam on various surfaces so that toddler can gain self esteem by attempting to down it. DH even got jam out of fridge and was preparing to re-smear before I stepped in with my meanness. aibu?