to think I really am a fecking eejit who should have her mouth taped shut?

[MsVestibule]

My DS's lovely young teacher is 30 weeks pregnant with her first baby. I had a quick chat with her yesterday in the playground, asked her how everything was going.

Now, with my first pregnancy, I was utterly convinced that I would miscarry but started to feel better when I approached the 3rd trimester. I erroneously think that every other new mum-to-be must feel the same. So I said to her "You must feel more comfortable now you're so far along?". She (rationally) assumed I meant physically comfortable so replied "Actually no, I'm trying to get used to the extra bulk and the heartburn is awful!".

Instead of just accepting that, like any sane person would have I explained what I'd actually meant. So basically, I told a heavily pregnant woman that she wasn't out of the woods yet, something could still go wrong .

I am that horribly tactless woman that people complain about on MN. Where's that packing tape...?

Don't worry about it op. You were being kind and trying to say something nice.

Im sure she will have realised that.

Lunaticfringe - yes you're right and luckily it did have that effect, I tried to be sensitive around the woman who lost her baby, who was and always has been lovely to me. She has had another pregnancy and safe birth since her loss, NOT that that makes it OK of course, but she has not had to be babyless while seeing me around with one IYSWIM.

Though the neighbour who told me, who is very old, did tell me very much in a wide-eyed horror kind of manner, clasping my arm.

Oh and neighbour on other side when I told her I had an EMCS planned for March 15, said very seriously "Beware the ides of March!" Lovely, thanks. Good luck would have sufficed.

I do not allows self to speak about my experiences to heavily pregnant women, as I now I project massively about my own issues when I do, sometimes it feels I need duct tape over my mouth, so YANBU!

You were saying something nice and encouraging (in a round about way) :) I don't think you need to feel bad about it.