To be sick of comments by my overweight boss?

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Yes I know you are going to say what has mentioning her weight got to do with it.

My boss is morbidly obese, doesn't make any difference to me whatever her weight is. She is generally good but I am getting sick and tired of her constant comments about food and weight.

She is always going on about food and keeps asking me if I have eaten. Not sure what concern it is of hers. When I do get my lunch out, usually a salad of some sort, she tells me to "stop eating like a silly scarecrow". I am a size 10 so hardly a scarecrow!

I now avoid eating in front of her. She regularly brings in cake and biscuits and keeps checking if I have eaten them.

She regularly mentions my lack of cleavage, she is something like a GG.

She says I am weak and have no strength

It seems like it is ok for her to criticise me, my size and what I eat but if it was the reverse it woud be deemed as unacceptable.

Aibu to make some comments back or should I just tell her I am tired of it?

Mrs DV is right.

But mostly, be kind, not annoyed, it really, really isn't about your body or your diet, it's about her body, her diet, her feelings about those.

She's commenting on your salad because she knows she should be eating like you. She's commenting because she can see you aren't just magically thin, you aren't 'lucky', she could do it too, seeing you eat crap too (even if she's provided it) and you still being thin would be comforting, "we both eat cakes, biscuits, but she doesn't get fat" whereas you know that you don't do it all the time.

And food is social and emotional, by providing it she's probably not trying to fatten you up, she's trying to offer you something that would make her happy. If your main pleasure is food, being offered treat food would be a nice thing, she's probably not offering you a couple of hundred calories, she's offering you a little bit of happiness with frosting.

Be kind. Few people are very overweight without having serious issues around food.

Can you sneak into her house with a sewing kit, find her wardrobe and take in all her clothes, and repeat monthly for the foreseeable future?

If not, do what MrsDeVere says.

SDTG's approach: "Why is it so important to you that I eat that cake/biscuit, when I have told you that I don't want to?" Or "Did you mean that to be as personal and offensive as it sounded?" is exactly how I would play it. No game playing, no pretending to have IBS or a gluten allergy or a sugar intolerance or anything else. And as someone pointed out upthread, nobody can claim your slight frame and abstemious habits stand in the way of your performance at work, which is surely the only thing that could justify such personal comments.

I am thin too, and it fucks me off when people feel they have the right to comment on what I eat. I recently had this at a family funeral, when I only had half of a small piece of cake with my coffee. Imagine it the other way round, i.e. "Auntie Jane, are you really going to eat such a large piece of cake? No wonder you're so damn fat!" It's really no different from what was said to me, yet somehow much less acceptable...

I agree that all the logging of comments and so on is OTT and unrealistic. Can you have a quiet word and say - look, your comments on what I eat are sort of getting to me, I just happen to like salads and not really like cake, so thanks very much for offering me cakes and biscuits but I really don't want to eat them, don't want you going to the trouble of making them and if its ok please can we stop talking about food and what I eat?

People with food issues often become 'feeders' - my ex-flatmate used bombard me with cake at a time they were trying to lose weight.