To ask parents of 6/7 yr old girls to tell me what they are like?

[drivingmisslazy]

MY DD is going through a bit of a whiney, teary stage where she is thinking of no-one but herself, I have tried calmly talking to her she says sorry cries and said I don't know why I do it I wont do it again, but 5 mins later is back to being the same. I said to her older brother its a phase she is going through, but he thinks its just her lol. So can you tell me what your dd's are like so I can show him.

TIA

[FourAndDone]

Whitney?
Whiney

[JemimaMuddledUp]

DD is 7. She likes to be the centre of attention and is adept at turning on the waterworks to get her own way, but TBH she doesn't burst into tears as often as her 11yo brother who is majorly hitting the hormones!

[drivingmisslazy]

Feel so much better reading this thread. Glad I am not alone.

We had a lovely story before bed and a nice cuddle :)

I think what bothers me the most is the looks she gives me, like I am a piece of crap on the bottom of her shoe.

[Stricnine]

I haven't read the whole thread in detail... but I would suspect tiredness and possibly hunger if 6/7 year olds are tears whiny and generally 'horrible' :)... I'm now a Brownie leader (7-10 year old girls) having passed through this stage with my own (now 17) DD.. And the little darlings can be really off if they're tired .. add hunger and you've one challenging person on your hands!

I used to meet DD from any after school activity bearing food :)

similarly two nights away residentially with the Brownies can turn even the nicest, quietest little brownie into a monster if they don't get enough sleep or food!

[LoveBeingCantThinkOfAName]

Thank god, my dd is 6 soon and is like this, was thinking she as jealous of her younger brother but it sounds like its more normal

[DesperatelySeekingSedatives]

DD is 6 and has gradually turned more and more into a teenager.

Moody, tearful, dramatic, answers us back, rolls her eyes more than she ever has before and often says the following: "you ruin my life!" "you dont understand me!" "MUST you embarrass me ALL the time?!"

I am dreading the actual teen years!

[SuckItAndSee]

dd1 is mostly pretty reasonable - she's always been quite a placid kid - but the "attitude" thing is definitely creeping in

dd's year group also appear to have made an early start on the whole girls' friendships/popularity/in crowd business, which has had some repercussions at home. it's hard being six and a half sometimes.

[2Tinsellytocare]

This thread makes me feel a lot better, not sure how it is girl bashing?? OP's child just happens to be a girl and she's seeking reassurance

[SugarPlumpFairy3]

My dd is 6.10 and urm....very changeable . She is independent, full of fun, adventurous, loud, passionate and a clown. She is also still prone to tantrums occasionally, is argumentative, defiant and growing up very quickly at the moment .

She's always been a difficult child; the 'terrible twos' started early and finished late.

[Twattyzombiebollocks]

Mine is 7.5 and she is very sensitive, worries a lot, cries a lot, can whine for England. She's also stroppy and has a sense of fairness which is sadly very skewed in her favour!
She tantrums on an epic scale at least once a month and has strops several times a day. She has always been a drama llama tho

[stripeyshoes]

My dd is almost 8 and is the same. She is mostly lovely, kind, generous and funny but sometimes turns whiny, argumentative, and is a general pita - and often I have no idea why.

[RobinSparkles]

DD1 is 6.7 and usually kind, polite, well behaved and just lovely.

Although this week her behaviour has been...trying. She cries at the drop of a hat and she's throwing tantrums that she never has before.

A lot has happened recently - we've moved house and she's had to change schools. She's settled in well but she's missed her old friends a lot so I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.

I'm glad to see that it could be her age as well. Good that we're not alone!

Could be exhaustion from the Christmas period? They get so excited and overwhelmed!

[drivingmisslazy]

My dd loves school and she is very confident. I was woken with a big cuddle this morning and a declaration I think I will be good today. Bless her for trying. So far so good.

[C3P0]

Have you tried sending her to activities with a bit of discipline to teach self control? Hockey, judo, or ballet, maybe? Hard to be a princess when there are consequences.

[IfNotNowThenWhen]

Well, reading this I don't think any of these behaviors are restricted to girls at all.
I have a 7 yr old ds, and he is by turns funny, startlingly sensible, and easy going, then horribly selfish and tantrummy, eye rollingly cheeky, over emotional, and is constantly engaged in petty rivalries with certain friends.
It's a weird, adjusting time for children in general it seems.

[IfNotNowThenWhen]

I think 7 is called "the age of reason" isn't it? It's when children start to place themselves in the world, and start thinking about scary things, the big questions. Mine is rather obsessed with death, and worries about it.
They are starting to try and make sense of things in a way they weren't at say, 5.

[Balaboosta]

I find this thread really helpful! Like Definine my DD7 is also a boy-girl twin and brother has ASD. Its been a struggle with DD in recent months - she's a bit all over the place, poor concentration, can't stay on task, lack of cooperation, seeking attention at inappropriate moments - she blew our my birthday cake candles.
I'm reading this:
www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1416583009?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21
I'm a meditator myself and hope that working to develop her mindfulness will help her.
Often I feel her brain is completely disengaged from what is going on around her...
She's scrummy too!

[crossbag]

OK OK I apologise. Was just being very over sensitive and defensive of girls. I have 3 girls aged 4, 2 and 2 weeks. The amount of comments about having 3 girls I've had are a bit upsetting, usually about how bitchy girls are and won't it be awful when they're teenagers, my poor husband, boys are so loving and uncomplicated!

My old daughter is a bit of a madam so I am just scared that these people are right I suppose

[Taffeta]

DD (7) likes to work under the radar, the opposite of wanting to be the centre of attention. She is thoughtful and a dreamer. Increasingly she is forming her own opinions and is sure of them, which is nice to see, but makes her less biddable.

[Kewcumber]

I don;t think this is a girl thing. DS is 8 and not generally tearful but goes through phases from time to time of doing this. Its often linked to tiredness and a lack of control - the combination is fatal!

Please get out of the mind set that this is a "girl" thing. At this age I highly doubt its hormonal, see the child and react to that don;t find generic sterotypes and try to rely on them - that way madness lies!

[Taffeta]

For comparison sake, my DS (10) is still prone to tantrums and thinks the world revolves around him. He is massively competitive, has a string desire to succeed and is very sporty.

My children are nothing like each other. Although a kindergarten teacher that had them both commented that they both "knew their own mind" .

[PuppyMonkey]

My 6 yo is not teary at all, and she has a brilliant sense of humour. She literally never stops talking from the minute she wakes up to the minute she goes to bed though. Totally unlike my eldest DD who was always quiet and booky. Different characters.