To ask parents of 6/7 yr old girls to tell me what they are like?

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MY DD is going through a bit of a whiney, teary stage where she is thinking of no-one but herself, I have tried calmly talking to her she says sorry cries and said I don't know why I do it I wont do it again, but 5 mins later is back to being the same. I said to her older brother its a phase she is going through, but he thinks its just her lol. So can you tell me what your dd's are like so I can show him.

TIA

Yet another girl bashing thread on MN

How is it girl bashing to discuss the behaviour of your own female child?

My dd is about to turn 6 and is kind and thoughtful and caring. So nice to her brother. She has her moments but they are few and far between. She has a sunny nature and although shy, almost always looks on the positive side of things.

6/7 is an age where DCs start to be able to do things for themselves and want their opinions and choices to be recognised. It's also an age at which they realise they are expected to be more independent too.

Sometimes they find this wanting to be grown up, being expected to be grown up a bit much and they become clingy, huggy or tantrumy.

Sadly it is also an age at with more forceful children in the class may try out this wanting their own way and new found independence on their class mates. Y2 girls can have some pretty nasty moments.

At 6 and 7 my dds had brothers of 15 and 16 so to be honest any tantrum antics would have been teased right out of them.worked both ways too I might add.

Is your dd happy at school?

My dd is 7.5 now and is a mix of everything: loving, feisty, argumentative, kind and tantrummy. What we have noticed over the last year is that her moods can change from one minute to the next, and from one extreme to the other!

I have 3 boys and dd (she's my dc3), and it's very different from boys.

My DD is/was just as Clarinet's DD2.

My friend and I have a theory that every child has it's difficult stage - your DD's might be now!

My DD1 has been like this since she turned 5... almost to the day, its was like when Kevin the teenager hit 13 for any Harry Enfield fans! She may not make it to 6 grrr!!!

I'm not girl bashing, I have only have DDs. One of whom quietly gets on with life and grows up without step change phases and one who, I think is more typical, and does suddenly find the balance between being grown up and still wanting the security of childhood difficult at 6 and a bit at 9. (I was awful at 9/10, especially because I was really bored at school).

I don't know many small boys well and the ones I do know are very very clever and slightly geeky.

Mine is nearly 8 now and can be an absolute delight, getting really independent and confident, bur we have had a LOT of issues with disobedience the last year or two. It's not doing bad things, but refusal to do necessary things (getting ready to go out on time, putting things away, helping with chores). It has sometimes seemed that no matter what we do she just won't do things (and yes I have read How to Talk). Anyway, getting better gradually now.

DD is 7.2 She is loving, generous, perceptive, clever, independent and generally delightful. She is also whingy, turns on the tears at the slightest thing, stubborn, argumentative and appears to have completely lost her previously unshakeable self confidence .

I have no idea whether it is DC1 vs DC2, boy vs girl, or just their different personalities, but she is just a lot more complicated than DS (now 11) was at this age.

In comparison my DS1 was a vile toddler - i tried to ebay him many times between the ages of 16months and three years... has been lovely ever since, so I hold out hope this is my DD very late 'vile toddler' stage!

DS is a teary mess at the drop of the hat, DD not so much. They're 6 and a half. DD is more mature and self contained but is like hell unleashed when she's crossed. She's running rings around her brother. I find her easier to deal with as she can be diverted whereas DS is deep into tears and is often difficult to pull back from it. It doesn't seem to be improving. DD informed me today that he cries in class if he doesn't get all his answers right.

We have an 8 year old who has Attitude with a capital A sometimes but other times she is absolutely so sweet and lovely it's hard to correlate the two...She is really a Gremlin though when she's hungry and tired......

I have a friend who works in childcare who reckons their behaviour goes in 6 - 8 week cycles.....

I do think it's more of a personality thing. DS and dd3 are more dramatic than dd1 and dd2. The world would come crashing down if ds forgot his pencil case but dd2 would bum a pencil for the day off someone. Ds is 11 and is still dramatic. Dd3 is 3 and already shows the same streak. They are lovely children don't get me wrong,generous loving caring children but dramatic over small things.

My DD is 6.5 and is lovely on the whole - funny, kind, obedient, independent, imaginative and great company.

She can be headstrong and argumentative if she feels strongly about something no idea who she gets that from Also prone to tears and tantrums if very tired or hungry - but on the whole I love this age.

My dd 6.5 who has ASD is the best she is been, and is getting to be like a little companion. She is clever, inquisitive, and has calmed down so much, and easier to manage her behaviour. She does have her moments, but in whole she is fab

According to late DM my sis was determined to get her own way by hook or by crook from when she was a baby and succeeded with terror/tantrums and tyranny. She continued this way until she left home to get married at 26. She was only like this at home.

DB the ist born, was born contrary and refused to do what he was told.
I was the middle one, shy timid and always did as I was told but did have a short early teenage rebellion.

^^ to the "when she's good she's very good and when she's bad she's horrid!"

Dd is 6.6 and can be wonderful, happy, good company...when things are going her way. I think she's improving though and I'm hoping for a quiet 7-9 yr old phases.

Ds (7.7) is far more placid and even tempered....but lacks determination

DD is 7 and one month.

Main issue is that she is often in a world of her own, dreamy and unfocused. If she is in this zone, it can be really frustrating trying to get her to do simple things such as get dressed. She fiddles and faffs around.

She pings between being quite babyish and scarily grown up, and I think this can be difficult to navigate.

She is very tall, and seems to have some challenges managing her arms and legs.

She spontaneously says lovely things, and not just to get round us!

DD1 is funny, helpful, generous and empathetic. She can also be dreadful (today) where nothing is good enough. And the whining begins.

I sent her to her room earlier and she slept for 2 hours. She has also shot up - 3 pairs of trousers handed to DD2, so I am hoping it is some kind of growth exhaustion

I think girls vary (much like boys do.) I had one who was easy going and good natured at that age and one who is more highly strung, but has been from birth tbh.

Can I join thread?

I have a seven yr old. She's happy, smart, beautiful, loves gymnastics and other sports and loves all the usual girly stuff. She's usually very kind and absolutely brilliant with animals, so gentle and patient.

BUT.....

She can be soooo whiny, angry, rude argumentative and takes pleasure in point proving all the bloody time. She makes a fuss over everything's she's asked to do. She can remember things she did as a toddler yet claims to forget what I asked her to do. She is incapable of getting dressed without jumping and prancing about and wasting time.

If I didn't know better I'd say she was a teenager. She drives me up te bloody wall. Glad to hear im not alone

I disagree that this is a girl bashing thread. I have a 7yo ds and he's a Whitney pain in the arse aswell. It's all about equality in my house.

My DS was tearful and whiny at 7. My DD lovely. Not sure it's related to gender!