To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

[LessMissAbs]

Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

Gratifying surely that we all live in a world where this can matter so much to so many of us? Let's count our blessings.

I don't go to the cinema to be distracted and annoyed. I rarely am tbh anyway.

But if I am, I just get people thrown out. Much less hassle than having a polite word.

Harold apologies if I have got this wrong but aren't you on the side of the phone users? If you are The Edinburgh Filmhouse is not the place for you.

OP still refusing to answer my question - says it all really oh and by the way I am police community support officer and sometimes I do have to direct traffic if required.

I would be fine, I have been going to the theatre, to see films and such for many years and not even attracted a tut.

Does it worry you at all that many other people find your behaviour unreasonable?

I kind of guessed that Caitlin. The Filmhouse in Morningside is a very special cinema. Only very lucky people go there. It is very quiet, even if the film is Jim Carrey or something. Don't whatever you do, ever ever go in with a cold, a propensity to sneeze or a nervous fidget.

LittleMissSunshine I can't say for sure whether my friend actually got her phone out of her handbag or not. I don't stare at her during the film. Does that make a difference to the potential moral rights or wrongs?

How do you define "using"? Texting or phoning, or does checking the time or for messages count as "using". Does "using" have to be active or passive?

I don't think you can make a judgment about another person's morality without having all the appropriate definitions in place.

I think we should all have a big hug.

Is the light from a phone more annoying than that from a light up watch?

I assume that the OP's friend had switched her phone to silent.

Your comments about being unable to get out because some people sit to the end of the credits are ridiculous. Sometimes I do as the music and location credits are usually right at the end. However there is plenty of room to get past if I want to leave.

As long as you don't do the sooking a lemon face at the uncultured fools who just want to get back to the bar (me).

NewBeginnings Does it worry you at all that many other people find your behaviour unreasonable?

Gosh, yes. Absolutely. I am getting my whip out of the cupboard as we speak to self flagellate.

And believe me, I shall think twice about ever going in a cinema with a friend again!!!

Although after I've interrogated them, told them they are idiotic cunts, bought them unwanted presents, checked their phones are switched off and made them look at my watch fob, I doubt I'll have any left.

The film house? I'll be there next week.

My question is simple OP seriously it really is

You are asked to turn your phone OFF meaning OFF meaning don't fucking use it during a movie.

IF someone uses their phone and it distracts other people

Do you think that person using their phone is right or wrong?

I'm guessing the most recent posts by OP are supposed to be a parody of Catherine Tate ' s ghastly,stroppy "do I look bothered" teenager character. Which is exactly what my mental picture of her has been from page 1.

I would love to see CCTV footage of this event.

OP, is there any chance (even a slim, teeny-tiny, little one) that you might look at a thread this long with the large majority of posters telling you YABU, despite your friend being a fragrant EU international sophisticate and Brian being booming, ranty and without class, that you might accept it and consider another pov?

So was your friend unreasonable for disturbing the woman's enjoyment of the film?
Yes she was
Was the woman unreasonable for disturbing your enjoyment of the film?
Yes, but (IMO) less so than your friend.
Where you being unreasonable for the passive aggressive nature of your comment (and walking away to make yourself feel superior) at the end of the film?
Yes.

Just my opinion.

Drama queen :)

Isn't that an ad though Maryz?

Bet they had lighting for that.

PrimalLass if you are at Edinburgh Filmhouse then, for the avoidance of doubt, " switch your phone off" applies to everyone. You will get told off if you use it and you won't get sympathy. And unlike multiplexes the ushers still sit in on films.