To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

[LessMissAbs]

Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

LessMissAbs

"the light was on for less than 15s."

that's 15 seconds each time your friend used it and 15 seconds for each time you used it.

and as you posted you both used it several times.

LittleMissSunshine I have a sneaking suspicion that you and a couple of other posters have such a strong desire to indcotrinate, that you will simply keep repeating the question until, parrot-style and exhausted, your opponent repeats what you want them to say.

Meanwhile, in the real world:-

(a) My phone was switched off

(b) I doubt I'd have many friends left if I interrogated them as to whether their phones were switched off before they entered a cinema

(c) I had no idea my friend was using her phone in any way

(d) I had no idea that ALL the adverts TELL you to switch off your phone. I am afraid that the only subliminal message that remains in my cuntish brain is a visual image of a mobile phone with a cross over it and a vague memory of words of a ringtone and words about it disturbing cinema audiences. Therefore I am guessing that some make the logical assumption that putting a phone onto silent mode meets the requirements.

As I say, I switch mine off. However there is a fairly common psychological response to strict rules in normally law abiding people which is to comply but in a casual way. I am sure screeds have been written on this if it interests you. I think particularly if the rule is seen as pointlessly strict and many people break it without sanction.

I think theres a biological basis for this called social facilitation that means a lot of the people classified by you and others as cunts, idiots and worse, behave like this in cinemas.

So good luck with policing the cinemas of Britain then!

OP never gave us the whole story in the first place its gone from I don't know my friend was doing it for all this time to now admitting her friend had her phone on for 15s - amazing it was timed as well!

NewBeginnings just save time, and tell me what special words of obedience it is you would like me to repeat?

BoneyBack I didn't use my friends phone to tell the time. How weird would that be. I posted that I wear a digital watch, and used the light to look at it a couple of times.

For that, I must be shot.

there's only about 160 posts left to sort this out. Unless we are having Thread 2.

NOOOOOO!!!!! I can't bear it!

So you suck sweeties and therefore probably rustle the paper too OP.
That's even more annoying than a phone.

I am asking you over n over again cos you refuse to answer the question - is it because you are scared to admit that you would agree with my question that is why you still avoid to answer it because it would prove everyone else point that your friend was wrong.

I am asking you because I want to you know where you stand on that point - what is wrong in asking you that because it is fundamental to your post in the first place.

The phone advert runs in all cinemas in all films its a standard advert it is the same TURN YOUR PHONE OFF.

Only a moment ago you stated that your friend's was using it for 15s and now you are back to saying you don't know if she was - so which is it?

As I said to you before your attitude towards me and my autistic children disgusts me so please know that nothing I say on here is addressed to you and I won't be responding to anything you say.

This is getting a bit weird now.

There really are people in cinemas who go just to watch what other people are doing, aren't there?

And they are on this thread.

That was to whistleblower btw.

Infact your stupid statement 'However there is a fairly common psychological response to strict rules in normally law abiding people which is to comply but in a casual way.'

Do you apply this when your driving and meet a red light - oh well I'll only go through the red light this one time today because you know its a fairly common response to comply in a causal way WTAF

Perhaps there could be 'quiet showings' where everyone does as they are asked, and 'noisy showings' where you can talk, text, chat on the phone. Then at least there's a choice.

Sorry I miss understood, but even if you and your friend wanted "tension relief" what makes you think that the other cinema goers wanted the same thing?

LittleMissSunshine all I is sayin is I is lost by what you is saying now.

Just saying, like.

What is it that you is saying?

There are no words of obedience. I am genuinely curious as to whether at any point you genuinely questioned the reasonableness of your own behaviour? I don't think it's that tricky a question to be honest, and I'm not sure how I can phrase it any simpler!

You hang around red lights and cinemas to police possible infractions?

sparkling

I suspect that there would be "noisy" people going to the quiet screening just "to make a point"

PrimalLass The Filmhouse is my local cinema. One of the reasons I like it is its customers are capable of sitting through a film without the comfort blanket of a phone.

Your comments about being unable to get out because some people sit to the end of the credits are ridiculous. Sometimes I do as the music and location credits are usually right at the end. However there is plenty of room to get past if I want to leave.

My question was when the advert tells you to turn your phone off and then your friend during the film gets out her phone to use it - was she right or wrong to do that?

The film house? I'll be there next week.

LessMissAbbs was your last reply to Littlemiss supposed to be funny? If it was it failed miserably.

meh, I cant get excited about people using their phone in the cinema, and not cause I use mine. It just doesn't bother me, talking does more tbh.

You should have thrown some popcorn at her and had her removed when she starting shouting.

NewBeginnings No. I see it thus. I was watching film quietly. I got a fright when loud woman shouted at my friend. Spoiled rest of film for me. Thought woman was a bit of an arse and felt sorry for my friend. Said to woman at end I didn't want to hear her voice during the film. Didn't get involved in slanging match in middle of cinema.

I see it as a reasonable response in the circumstances.

If I had been using my phone myself to disturb other cinema users then I would have been unreasonable.

I trust there are no further words or guilt trips you would like me to complete?

You are probably right Boney.

Well it's been a blast but I think I am done. I hope it all gets sorted and the OP turns out to NBU eventually.