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To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

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LessMissAbs · 03/01/2014 23:29

Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

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NewtRipley · 04/01/2014 19:40

sparkly

Sounds reasonable to me

Sparklingbrook · 04/01/2014 19:40

My friend's son has autism, he is 8 and I have known him since he was born. However she can leave him with her Mum and go out and they are both comfortable with that.

playavsnow · 04/01/2014 19:41

I think you still ought to go to the cinema (no experience of autism here, but am home educator). Just be very careful as they do ask people to leave if they get complaints. I'd also put on vibrate and hold in hand if really worried, or sit in an end aisle seat and pop out to check.

BoneyBackJefferson · 04/01/2014 19:42

"It reminds me of a mob cheering when a 15th century political activist was hung, drawn and quartered."

Yes, in a surprise turn of events everybody watched what they went to see.

TheOneWithTheNicestSmile · 04/01/2014 19:43

sss, if you sit at (or near) the back & keep your phone in your bag or under a coat when checking, I doubt if anyone here would have a problem with it

sparklysilversequins · 04/01/2014 19:43

It's brilliant she has a trusted carer Sparking my dc's Dad is fine with them but not around that much and does tend to prioritise his own life Hmm so I can only really go out and not worry when it's him but like I say that's not very often.

Whistleblower0 · 04/01/2014 19:44

What is it you would be checking for sparkly? What are your dc likely to do when you are out for a couple of hours. I'm intrigued!

TheOneWithTheNicestSmile · 04/01/2014 19:45

Sparkling, autism is on a spectrum - they're not all the same!

NewtRipley · 04/01/2014 19:45

Whistleblower

You are sounding goady.

Sparklingbrook · 04/01/2014 19:48

I do know that TheOne, but I do have 'real experience of autism' as sparkly asked.

Farrowandbawlbauls · 04/01/2014 19:48

Whistleblower - unless you have no idea of what Autism is like then you will know that ANYTHING can happen.

Absolutly fucking anything. In a blink of an eye. Usually stuff you couldn't even dream of.

sparklysilversequins · 04/01/2014 19:49

That just about sums it up Farrow and double that as I have two!

Maryz · 04/01/2014 19:52

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wintertimeisfun · 04/01/2014 19:52

i have no personal experience of autism however i couple who has a son (at a guess with autism) regularly take him to a cafe that i go to. i would guess that their son has more severe autism by the way he behaves. i have a huge amount of respect for them which is why imop i think the rules should bend for someone with a genuine reason

BoneyBackJefferson · 04/01/2014 19:52

its not just at the cinema but the as well.

Maryz · 04/01/2014 19:53

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Farrowandbawlbauls · 04/01/2014 19:54

Maryz - I've got a reliable babysitter - I was responding to Whistleblowers post.

Farrowandbawlbauls · 04/01/2014 19:56

and my phone is always on vibrate and in my hand - hasn't gone off yet, but I don't check it to see if I've missed anything as I don't need to.

NewtRipley · 04/01/2014 19:56

Maryz

that's shit. Did you say anything to any of them?

I think (old gimmer) that cinema behaviour started to go to pot with the advent of videos. People forgetting that they are in a social situation.

sparklysilversequins · 04/01/2014 19:56

Do you also have a DH or DP who takes some of the load maryz?

everlong · 04/01/2014 19:57

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confuddledDOTcom · 04/01/2014 20:00

everlong because whenever I've noticed someone using a phone it's always been by coincidence, I've never been distracted by someone using one.

Maryz · 04/01/2014 20:04

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Whistleblower0 · 04/01/2014 20:05

I'm with the dont go to the cinema and annoy the fuck out of everyone else if you have to check your phone, for whatever reason..

Weller · 04/01/2014 20:05

I am the same with needing my phone on when my son is at respite care and I need to be contacted I have a mobile just for emergencies so no one else has the number the phone is kept in my hand on vibrate in a cover. Tbh though I have never had a problem with signal so don't have to check.

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