Ahh splash feel bad for you.
As a kid I always wanted to be brideaid but no one in either side family got married apart from older cousin who married abroad.
The old expression always a bridemaid never a bride but I been a bride had lovely wedding but choice bridesmaids was awquard,
freind a had known from juniors right upto seniors 7-18 we lived same smal town lots history went to uni and kept in touch life freindships seemed more genuine in days pre fb dident they?
Freind b met at uni so age 19 and got married at 24.
neither of my mates were with anyone at time.
I picked mate b and not sure why think we were just closer and pre meeting hubby broke up with longterm boyfreind and was in terrible mess and she had always been supportive maybe more supportive than freind a but in more reckless lets go out and get drunk way and encouraged me take a risk and get together with future hubby where as freind a much more uptight regimented.
Also when split from boyfreind lived geographically near freind a she wanted to move i wanted to oe but she chose to move in with her bloke at the time.
Before announced whos who wanted to go bridal dress shopping but she was too busy.
I was dreading telling her but she was ok explained we had tight budget and was obligated to have evil sister as one , dident know anyone with kids at time so no kiddy bridemaids.
But in all fairness freind a was really good about it we all got horribly drunk hen night which bridemaid arranged.my sister dissapeared on hen nite like selfish person she was they both got to know each other bit better and they get on.
Then night before wedding at mums in hometown freind a came over and we got pizza, dvd and champers and sister through strop and stayed in her bedroom.
whats worse is got lovely simple strappy coral pink dresses debenhams debut strappy but floaty knee length as sisters a stick and bridemaid from uni was tall and good 14-1 so wanted her to feel fab thinking sis look great in bin bag sis convinced mam she looked awful and took up her dress making it assemetrical hemline both freinds a and freinds be were shocked by sisters actions.
hubby picked 3grooms as had 2best mates and his brother.
my cousin had twin boys but they were toddlers at tie but came to wedding dont understand people who say no kids.
has the bride actually said you cant bring your child whilst having kiddy bridemaids?
fact shes been slow to ring.
not sure what it is about weddings and fab that turn people into such insensitive moos nothing more crass than birth or wedding announcment on fb is there. Also the blog sounds hideous idea and rubbing epopels face in it another reason hate fb look how fab i life i have and it does not include you like when people tag pics nites out.feels bit playground to me.
few years on freind a got married she made my dd1 bridemaid she was 3 and she refused to get with the wedding party for pics and was total pitta.as wedding was my home town bit single white femaile but she chose same venues as us im bias wasent patch on our wedding was nice as got wear what I liked, mam had dd1 only had 1 at time and we booked nice in fancy country hotel nearby.
I did make her godmum to dd1 she was First person I asked.
then had join christening for youngerfreind a was god mum dd2 and freind b godmum to little boy as knew she gove him good advice on the ladies and enjoying life.
Neither freind a or freind b have kids so know what its like being only 1.
freind a is trying but her new husband is a tosser who dpes not speak to me even though we live in same city maybe meet up once a month her husbad has put strain on freindship but shes been supportive last year when had troubles but she has active sociall life, her work separate freinds and lives enough of distance wouldent pop round and thinks he was oaffended i said no to having her rats when on holiday I cant stand rats.
shes had hell with her evill younger sister. opposite to mine in size she was huge and she had to change her colour scheme i end from red to sort of wine as couldent get size dress in 24. but i said on plus side fat bridemaid make you look good.She also had her sisters 2kids.
I dont know if she was bridemaid to her sister but her sister turned into total bridezilla and despite sw was still huge!saw the pics on fb:)
does the bride have any siblings or neices/nephews as bar best mates they be obvious choice.
I also find people without kids much more selfish and less accomodating with their plans when dd2 was due hubbys mate invited him wedding miles away from home same with another set of freinds . neither of us went yet they still dropped their giftlist round our houses with we would like money funnily after that we dont bother with them.
My cousin oddly enough a male we were few months apart growing up we were more like siblings then we grew apart he moved london quite high flyer quite money driven. Hes now met complete loon i mean total space cadet. hes now totally changed has his highlighst doe toni and guy, dresses like a scruffy gay man, spends fortune on clothes and holidays. anyway made him godfather to little boy and he never makes effort to see him.Hes now engaged to her and this is person who does love montages of their love with music on you tube and posts things on fb.
thankfully she does as shes been counting the says down from maybe 800!
she has a disney bridal countdown.
shes turned into total bridezilla.
shes picked pink wedding ress puffy think jordan/gyspy wedding
the venue is disney land florida so hardly anyone going.
but gives me something to chuckle at and even me and mys sister bond over her weirdness.
geographically they oved not far away from us by havent been see them see them maybe 2-3times a year back in hometown and at family events.
What I have learnt over years is people can be insensitive tossers and try not let bother you. I had one mummy mate from school who was like my best mate was here when youngest were born he was so bloody special. I couldent make her godmother as she wasent christened but made sure vicar let her light candle playes huge part. what ahppeed we grew apart she didet return calls, forgot his 1st birthday for a few months i got evry upset accepting shes fair weather freind and shes just not that into me. shes quite competative and our daughters dont get on.
i still see her occasionally and when she moved to her dream house was happy for her.rather worryingly might be moving round corner from her but i cant hack being picked up , dropped and used.
Freind b lives in diffrent city not too far. I love her bloke, she does not want kids. im sure if she was married i play part in it.
although we dont see each other often when we meet up its like no time has passed and if had issie could ring her we live totally diffrent lifestyles but somehow freindships survived she thinks im nuts.
If i were you I would restrict fb no delte but hide so not on feed only there if you activly seek it to be.
prepare yourself for this freindship may have ended shes treated you badly.
plan the best birthday ever maybe go away somewhere nice and be sure to post pics on fb!