to tell my daughter's guest to leave for smoking in the house?

[WestieMamma]

They're both 20. They both know that there's no smoking in the house. She's been smoking when we're not around and opening the windows in an attempt to hide the evidence and lying to my husband when asked about it. My daughter's room absolutely reeks.

Reasons for total ban on smoking:

1. We have a baby
2. Husband is severely asthmatic and irritants such as smoke trigger attacks.
3. My husband and I do not want our house to smell like an ashtray.
4. It's our house, our rules.

I'm very, very angry. My daughter thinks I'm very, very mean.

AIBU?

The guest will have to leave and your daughter can find new lodgings if she doesn't like it. Outrageous

yanbu, it's downright disrespectful. She was asked not to and did anyway, knowing your reasons. And it stinks.

YANBU. They have been VU, very disrespectful therefore, they can go. They can do what they like in their own house.

You don't need a reason. It your house is non-smoking visitors should respect that.

My friend smokes but when he is here he goes into the garden (and the far end of the garden)to smoke, NEVER had to mention that or ask him to, he simply respects the fact that nobody who lives here smokes

I think you need to be coming down hard on your DD rather than her friend.
Your house, your rules? She's breaking them on a daily basis.

you dont have to justify the smoking ban. ask her to leave.

YANBU.

Is guest just here for the day or is she staying over?

Filthy skank. Also must think you're thick as she is if she's lying about it. She's have been out if mine within seconds.

YANBU. Even without the reasons 1 - 3 you list you would still not be unreasonable - number 4 says it all.

I don't think yabu and I do smoke. there's no way in the world I would light up in someone else's house (I always go outside even in peoples houses who do smoke). I would be seriously pissed off not sure I would kick someone out tho.

Is it definitely the friend not your daughter? I only ask because all my 'friends' were the ones that smoked when I smoked. Also, did your daughter tell the friend it would be OK because as a guest of your daughter, her permission counts for something? However, YAmostcertainlyNBU

The worst aspect of this is her total disregard for the health of your DH and baby. For that alone YANBU. Kick the friend out and tell DD to change her attitude or pack her bags.

Give your daughter and friend a leaflet on SIDs, if they smoke again, she goes.

YADNBU

yuk.

YANBU, I smoke and do not tolerate smoking in the house. Stale smoke is disgusting and I would be raging.

Surely as smokers they are used to having to go outside for a fag (if they ever go to pubs/clubs/restaurants etc)?
Tell them outside or leave.

How very bloody rude! And I say that as a smoker. I don't smoke in my house as dp isn't a smoker and I don't want the house to stink either.

She needs to go. Yanbu at all.

I love that you think it's just the friend and not your daughter too! Ha!

No one smokes in my house ever, i hate it the stench, its gross, and it makes everything else stink.

Yanbu. She is.

YANBU

It shows a complete lack of respect for her host, your baby, your DH and your home, and at 20 she is perfectly capable of being respectful. I would be absolutely furious - read her the riot act and tell her that if she wishes to carry on smoking indoors she will need to move to a hotel. I would also check that it's definitely just her and not your DD too.

Yanbu, they are so far out of line it's unreal. At 20 they should definitely be old enough to understand and respect your reasons! They are acting like disrespectful teenagers not grown women.

Apparently my daughter told her not to smoke in the house but then got a bit railroaded by her friend. My daughter has AS so won't stand up to her friend because she's so desperate to have a friend. I suspect she was smoking too so I'm extremely angry with her also.

The friend has been staying for a few days and was planning on staying a few more. Eating my food, drinking my wine and being made welcome like part of the family, as well as breaking the house rules and trying to deceive us.

YANBU especially as there is a baby and an asthmatic in the house. Very selfish.