WIBU? 3 yo and bottle or 9yo with teddies

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My DD is about to turn 3.

She drinks from a cup normally but at bed time she has a bath, a bottle (ie baby bottle with teat) of cow's milk, brushes teeth, story, then bed.

DD has no other comforter/cuddly toy she is attached to.

My DSis says DD is too old for a bottle, but her 9 yo twin boys cannot go to bed with out their favorite teddies.

Why is DD too old for a bottle? Who says? It is one a day and teeth are brushed afterward.

DSis says about the teddies, they like their comfort.

What is the difference between a bottle as comfort or a teddy and wibu?

Indeed

No they just don't want to spill hot coffee down themselves whilst walking to the office :)

And the water bottles?

That was just some idea that schools or the government came up with.

We never had them when I was at school and I was fine, we waited til break and used the water fountain

I agree. But all children have sports bottles with them all the time nowadays. Is that damaging their teeth and infantilising them?

Shouldn't damage teeth as it's meant to just have water inside. Schools don't usually allow anything else.
Agree cups would be better but spillage would be a huge issue amongst a lot of the children. And schools can't replace all the ruined books etc.

And if course the sports bottles means that the children with delayed coo ordination etc aren't singled out by being only one with bottle.

But people were saying it was the bottle damaging teeth rather than the milk. Causing an overbite.

A lot of the ones at dds school aren't sports bottles with te pull out and suck nozzle. Dds and others have an open spout with a cap that pushes down and closes off

I think a three year old with a bottle is too old. Sure it's comforting but I think its a bit of a fuss and a bit babyish?? I don't see the advantage of it. If you want to wean your DC then you can cut a big hole in the end of the test which will make it more like drinking from a cup and less about the sucking action.

I don't have any issues with 9 year olds having teddies.

I've not heard of the over bite thing before. Merely how the milk washes over the teeth differently to a cup which can cause damage.

And also the fact that comfort sucking can cause a child to consume more milk than they actually "need"

That can have problems with filling them up too much and not allowing them to be hungry enough to eat enough proper food.

One bottle of milk is not too much milk, nor is it going to ruin their teeth or fill them up so much they dont eat.

Yes a three yr old shouldnt have bottles of milk all day long, but one bottle before bed will not cause problems.

And cutting a hole in the teat is not recommended.

Why is it making a fuss and why should a three year old not need the comfort, there is nothing wrong with a three year old being 'babyish'.

Live and let live! Nothing wrong with having a teddy at bedtime at 9yo, nothing wrong with a 3yo having a bottle of milk at bedtime either. You will probably find that they stop pretty much as soon as they start pre-school anyway. As for tooth problems, the only one of my 5 DCs with an overbite/ a filling is the one who NEVER used a dummy or a bottle! Sods law! One day, you will both look back and wish that your teenagers were all still drinking from baby bottles and cuddling teddies. Don;t fall out over it, life's too short.