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Original poster

To think if you'd do it for yourself you should do it for your dc!

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Back2Basics · 30/12/2013 22:06

Urgh rant rant rant (slightly lighthearted)

Maybe I am being unreasonable feel free to tell me I am Grin

If you wear nice clothes yourself I feel you should dress your dc nice to (which you can do primarnie style or charity shops)

If you wouldn't eat something you find disgusting why would you make a child?

If you have a bath everyday why would you not bath your child everyday?

Why is it ok to smack a child but illegal t smack a grown up?

Children are humans to just because they are small.

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ShylaMcClaus · 30/12/2013 22:08

I'm about to have an unreasonably large glass of Baileys.

I do happen to be pondering whether sleepless DS deserves one as well.

Thurlow · 30/12/2013 22:09

I want to ask who pissed on your chips - but in a nice way as you sounds slightly scary

Well... What defines nice clothes?

I HATE mushrooms but I do 'make' DD eat them because... because I do. I don't know why Blush

Kids don't need bathing every day necessarily as they don't sweat like adults do.

Your last point I agree with absolutely.

Sirzy · 30/12/2013 22:10

what is 'nice' clothes though? surely thats down to individual taste.

Some foods i find disgusting DS loves

Adults and children are all different. Can't always treat them the same as people have different likes and dislikes aswell as needs

Original poster
Back2Basics · 30/12/2013 22:11

I'm really not scary! Just getting annoyed with what I have been reading on here today. Time for a break I think.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/12/2013 22:11

I make ds3 (16) go to school - should I have to go too?

ShylaMcClaus · 30/12/2013 22:12

I have always dressed my DC "nice", but the difference is, if I buy a pair of shoes they will last me five to ten years. Not so with DC.

JumpingJackSprat · 30/12/2013 22:13

If you don't make kids try stuff how do they know they don't like it?

Solongsucker · 30/12/2013 22:13

Mum lights a fag.... Takes a drag....
Kids look on, should she offer them one?
No offense but could I ask what has motivated this thread?
RL event, news, it's just alittle ... Random.

Original poster
Back2Basics · 30/12/2013 22:14

I just don't see how anyone can spend stupid money on clothes and have their dc looking like tramps. Its not hard to spend a few quid in primark so they look nice. Not really about style more clothes that fit.

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DameFanny · 30/12/2013 22:14

I don't cook food I wouldn't eat so no problems for ds there

His clothes are about the same quality as mine - although his Dr Who jacket is Hennes, and my work jackets tend to be more expensive - except in cost per wear of course

He doesn't bathe every day, although he could if he wanted.

Not really seeing the issue?

whois · 30/12/2013 22:15

Shower: Because little children don't need a bath a day, and I do 'need' a shower every day. Little children don't swear or smell in the same way.

Clothes: Because children grow out of clothes quickly so there is less point buying them a designer jumper than buying my self one as I'll get a lot more wear out of it.

Food: Because they bloody like those horrible hot dog things and I don't!

SPsWantsCliffInHerStocking · 30/12/2013 22:15

Because The 'Tude is a child I will decide what he eta ya and what he wears.

I think fish is rank but have him eat it. Is that wrong?? I also won't spend the same on clothes as I would on myself.

LizzieVereker · 30/12/2013 22:15

I agree about the smacking/ bathing and to an extent food - but given free rein DS2 would live on cheese and crackers, so needs a bit of encouragement to eat healthily.

But adults tend not to grow out of naice clothes every 5 minutes, or throw up on them, or put the knee through on their trousers once a week (always the left knee, why?). So cheaper clothes are better for small humans, IMO. I find children's designer clothes a bit icky, as if the child has become an accessory tbh.

SavoyCabbage · 30/12/2013 22:17

But surely adults need to wash more regularly than children?

My dd likes to climb trees so needs clothing more suited to this activity than the clothes I wear. Also neither of my dc know what a Birds Eye potato waffle is. I love them. My youngest dds favourite is mussels. Not waffles. She would not like to have to have waffles all the time because she has to have what I have.

Sirzy · 30/12/2013 22:18

bathing/showering daily is also not recommended for any children with excema generally. DS is perfectly clean but doesn't need to bath daily.

secretsofsanta · 30/12/2013 22:19

Well dc are generally better dressed than me dd3 exceptionas dresses hersef

Dcs dont need a bath daily until puberty

I drink copious amounts of wine, dc dont obviously

I eat most things but im not a big fruit eater. Dcs are encouraged ti eat plenty.

Original poster
Back2Basics · 30/12/2013 22:19

I didn't say designer clothes or free reign do what you like.

Or even spend the same, but why are childrens needs below an adults? I would go without for my dc I wouldn't buy a coat if I couldn't buy them one iyswim?

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LynetteScavo · 30/12/2013 22:19

My children wear much nicer clothes than me (its far easier to dress small children - you just go to GAP, choose a load of stuff in the right size, job done.

My children have never been made to eat anything, ever.

I couldn't go out if I hand't had a shower that morning. If my DC are clean, I don't force them to have a bath before bed.

I don't hit my DC. I do carry them up to their room and tell them they must sleep though (I wouldn't do this with an adult).

I insist my DC speak and and write correctly, though. I would insist they say "dress nicely" and write "Children are humans too." Just because I'm fussy like that.

My mother does the same to me.

TinyDiamond · 30/12/2013 22:19

I'll tell you why. because kids are bloody messy. They can also be so stubborn and awkward when it comes to getting dressed that it saves a war by letting them pick something and just god damn wear it. I see these kids in pre school dressed in head to toe white company, cath kidston etc. why? They are covered in paint or cake afterwards. For a special occasion it is different of course. But for day to day any old thing is fine. Why do you care so much how other people dress their children?

EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin · 30/12/2013 22:20

I laid out a nice dress and leggings today for 6yo dd. After ten minutes i went to check on her. She had instead put on her dressing up Sofia dress. A pair of jeans. A pair of mismatched shoes. A pair of sunglasses. And novelty antler hat.

I make dd eat vegetables even though she doesn't like them because it's my responsibly to ensure she is provided with healthy food. If she chooses not to eat them, she doesn't get TV time before bed.

I don't let dd stay up as late as she likes because it's my job as her parent to ensure she is well-rested.

I don't bathe her everyday because she doesn't yet sweat. She has a bath 1-2 times a week when we also wash her hair. Every other morning and night it's a quick wash with a facecloth.

It's not okay to smack a child, neither is it okay to smack an adult. But I think it's legal for both parties so long as no mark is left? I may be wrong on this point though.

SPsWantsCliffInHerStocking · 30/12/2013 22:20

Why would I go without a coat just because I can't get my son one? He has loads! If I fancy a coat I will jolly well purchase one

ShylaMcClaus · 30/12/2013 22:21

DD would be horrified if I made her dress in the clothes I wear. She is the same size and only deigns to borrow my Lipsy coat when she is taking the bins out Grin

TinyDiamond · 30/12/2013 22:22

You do realise kids don't care about clothes? What do you mean kids needs coming second? As if they care where their clothes are from

LaurieFairyCake · 30/12/2013 22:23

I wear much nicer clothes and carry posh handbags

Dd doesn't - she's still growing, doesn't need a handbag and when she grows up and gets a job she can buy her own, more expensive stuff.

LynetteScavo · 30/12/2013 22:23

I've never known of a parent have a coat when their DC didn't.

I've known of parents who didn't have a coat themselves, and thought their DC also didn't need one. The DC didn't seem that bothered, tbh....