To think if you'd do it for yourself you should do it for your dc!

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Urgh rant rant rant (slightly lighthearted)

Maybe I am being unreasonable feel free to tell me I am

If you wear nice clothes yourself I feel you should dress your dc nice to (which you can do primarnie style or charity shops)

If you wouldn't eat something you find disgusting why would you make a child?

If you have a bath everyday why would you not bath your child everyday?

Why is it ok to smack a child but illegal t smack a grown up?

Children are humans to just because they are small.

my dd's clothes are mostly second hand - nice bits I wouldn't be able to afford normally but sometimes dd2 will be wearing her manky sleepsuits for the school run as need to get dd1 presentable 1st and I can't walk down the road in my pjs!! and dd1 has been wearing a coat far too small and tatty while ive been wearing a new one as she wouldn't wear anything else - meltdowns when I tried! but just got one in m&s similar style so fingers crossed she will wear it!!

as for food I am happy dd's enjoy fruit and see yoyo bears as a treat not like me who needs chocolate every day!!

as for bathing - we only have a shower which is a nightmare on my own so I aim for one in every other day with me but realistically they prob shower twice a week each

Well, I don't wear nice clothes or have a bath every day, and I'm certainly not going to take up eating lemon curd and nutella (together, ffs) on toast just because my tasteless 11yo does. Thanks anyway. I will probably start treating them like I would an adult the same day they manage to get dressed and ready to leave the house without rowing and/or getting out all the lego for no sodding reason at all.

I do get what you mean op but its all so circumstantial.

Not all kids will eat healthy home cooked food, if all they will consent to eat is x branded ready meal it's surely better for their parents to continue to model eating a varied diet.

If your 4 kids are killing 2 pairs or trousers a week each then you are only going to provide them with hand me down and the absolute cheapest.
If you've got more careful kids who will not wreck/actually appreciate/care about their clothes them you could let them close the nice ones they really like

punishment, well actually kids are different from grown ups in some ways and one of these is the criticism, punishment etc that is part of them learning to be a member of society

Children need to be socialised so to a large extent they do need to be treated differently. They have specific needs and these must be met and the best way to do so isn't to treat then s an adult.

I don't buy this child centred bullshit at all its creating nervousd and self centred people.

I do no endorse neglect either but that's a totally different thing. I buy myself dior makeup as an example, because I work for it, my 14 yo can make do with Avon and boots until she is earning her own money.