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To HATE New Years Eve with a passion?

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CiderBomb · 30/12/2013 16:00

I've always really hated New Years Eve. I find it really depressing, I'm not sure sure why? Maybe it's to do with being another year older, but in the days running up to it I suddenly feel really low for some reason?

I also hate this idea that you have to go out and have a good time. The best NYE's I've ever had are the ones where I've done nothing and just watched television. If you go out you end up being charged the earth to get in somewhere, squashed in with barely room to swing a cat and then struggling to get a taxi home until 7am or something stupid.

I hate it and wish it could be cancelled!

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CinammonGirl · 31/12/2013 17:36

I've always hated new year's eve - my lovely grandad died on the 3rd jan following a big family disagreement on new years eve (I was eight years old) so its always been a sad time of year. Dh doesn't like it either and its usually just another night where we eat nice food, watch a dvd and go to bed early. Tonight we have to stay up and see in the bells cos we will have company!

AngryFeet · 31/12/2013 17:56

I just view it as another reason to see friends and have fun. One of my friends always does a party (smallish only 6 or so couple plus kids). We all know each other so just sit and chat and drink. I dont see the big deal. If you don't like it stay in and watch a film. Noone is making you go out!

AngryFeet · 31/12/2013 17:56

Posted twice sorry!

LaGuardia · 31/12/2013 18:20

I just don't get it either. YANBU.

MurderOfGoths · 31/12/2013 18:23

"It is simply this overwhelming feeling of sadness and annoyance for no reason. All it is is the year changing but for some reason it does something to me emotionally."

This, exactly.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 18:28

I think it's cold, dark, the run up to Christmas is busy, and for some people stressful (or worse - a reminder of losses). The next few months are also cold and dark. New Year doesn't feel like something to look forward to. Other times of year - yes - but I think it's that, couple with a sense that you ^should6 be feeling optimistic that makes it hard.

Also (and this might be me), i'm not a very sociable person. Pressure to be sociable is hard.

fluffyraggies · 31/12/2013 18:43

Hurrah for this thread. I hate NYE. Always have. Since about 14/15.

I've done going out, done staying in. Twice in the last 5 or 6 years DH and i have had an awful steaming row on NYE. We never row!

Bloody ''another year over, and what have you done?'' crap.
Humph.

This year the pressure is right off, for once, as baby is due in a couple of weeks Grin and we're both much more interested in that than what the date is. Also no way i can go drinking or standing around a stuffed to the gills pub for 7 hours.

sincitylover · 31/12/2013 18:45

I dislike winter (I felt like a different person in the summer) and especially Christmas! I used to feel a bit better about New Year but most NYE I have had a have been a big letdown.

The whole season is just one big commercial cliché. Creates false expectations which can never be met!

I live in London but have never been to the fireworks - can't actually work out what type of person would be willing to be caged in waiting for many hours in the cold!

This year I have felt even more underwhelmed with it all - I will stay in and may go to bed early.

I really would like to spend Christmas and New Year in a warm country.

Pah!!

sincitylover · 31/12/2013 18:49

My emotions go through the mill during this period. I have a lovely period of time off work however we stay up late and then get up late.

I was also thinking today that I want to get back to normality but not the same normality - if that makes sense - ie would like new job and change other aspects of my normality.

TheSporkforeatingkyriarchy · 31/12/2013 19:04

Caitlin17 - I think a lot of people feel that way about Christmas, there were tons of threads about it, which were always answered with assurances that the person could simplify and/or make the day what whey wanted it to be meaningful to you. And like you said, people can do whatever they want for New Year's and it does evolve overtime (certainly for us it's gone from DP and I couple time to a big family celebration), but the same 'you can make it meaningful to you however you want it to be' doesn't seem to be there as it is for other holidays.

I love the new year's. My kids have been counting it down for days, have gotten new pyjamas tonight to start the new year with, and I'm enjoying the time for relaxing and contemplation as well as family time (we also have a family breakfast and fun planned for in the morning after DP comes home from work - joy of night shift at a hotel over NYE!). I enjoy it even more now really than before.

LetZygonsbeZygons · 31/12/2013 19:08

weve escaped to DFs house as its usually quieter. if my neighbours are anything to go by there'll be riot tonight as is most weekends.

DCs watching star wars for the millionth time, weve eaten, me with a latte, DC with a hot choc and DF snoring on the sofa next to her!apart from the snoring its quiet for now!

well go to be around 10ish and prob get woken at midnight by fireworks but here hey don't usually last long.

dementedma · 31/12/2013 19:25

Doing fuck all and just waiting for it all to be over.

dogindisguise · 31/12/2013 20:17

YANBU, I've always disliked NYE, although it all changed last year when I had to be induced then had DD at 00:15 on New Year's Day.

Post-Christmas low, bad weather, overcrowded and cold if you do go out, I could go on...

candycoatedwaterdrops · 31/12/2013 20:24

I hate it. I'm supposed to be going to a party for 8.30 pm. It's a 10 minute drive away and I have to stop and pick up 2 friends. It's already 8.24, so I'm going to be late. I don't want to go but felt too embarrassed to say no.

SpottyPony · 31/12/2013 20:33

Hate NYE with a passion, it makes me feel so down. On my own tonight, all family gone away on holiday and friends all out drinking. DS in bed and when all the fireworks start going off at midnight and I'm sat alone in this tiny flat I can imagine I'm going to feel very low. However I have a lot to be thankful for; this time last year I was 40 weeks pregnant with DS, sat alone in Germany as exH had gone out with friends, then came back and drunkenly attacked me which resulted in him being arrested for battery. So some horrible memories coming back tonight, but at least I am free from being with someone like that.

I hope all those who are alone tonight don't find it too awful and hope you all have a lovely 2014.

Meerka · 31/12/2013 20:38

find it depressing, sad, and miserable. Sent husband and son off to friends and now sitting on my own with preg nausea but tbh it depresses me every year.

Roll on tomorrow, please, quick as can be

mrsjay · 31/12/2013 20:43

yanbu but you do not need to go out stay home and do your own thing, i remember hogmany parties when i was a kid they were great fun i was allowed to stay up late and took swigs from beercans it was great now I feel just meh about it. MY dh gets all maudlin too if he has had too much to drink he is working late so probably will only have 1 and go to bed I am not the sentimental maudlin type

liquidstate · 31/12/2013 22:38

SpottyPony I followed your story. Am hoping 2014 is a wonderful year for you!

I am alone again for the third year in a row. I have a shaking dog at my feet and my DH has gone to bed as he is feeling unwell. We can't go out as dog petrified of fireworks and DH is always ill after Christmas. It happens every year, except this year I can't get pissed as am 14 weeks pregnant.

Happy new year everyone!

Plomino · 31/12/2013 22:56

I hate NYE with a passion , but then I'm always working . In the last 20 years , I've had one NYE off , and that was because I broke my leg . I always end up getting kissed by some orrible drunk and it's just euwwwww.

SpottyPony · 31/12/2013 23:13

liquidstate thank you! And same to you. Congratulations on your pregnancy and hope tonight passes quickly for you and your dog Thanks

helenthemadex · 31/12/2013 23:23

I honestly thought I was the only person who loathed NYE, just makes me feel really low the whole day and always has not matter who I have been with or where I have gone, all that false and forced happiness, far to many pissed people and usually loads of tears

GoodNewsGrinch · 31/12/2013 23:30

Do you know, I was absolutely dreading tonight. I've got a really heavy cold so too ill to go to out anyway. XH was meant to have the DC but went to the pub instead but I wasn't too bothered about having them home anyway.

I'm actually really ok. DC are in bed, I'm sat here alone but I don't feel lonely being on here. I might do this every year. I can't believe I have never just embraced it before.

gaelicsheep · 31/12/2013 23:32

I've always hated NYE. I find it really unsettling and I hate the feeling of the passage of time writ large with the chimes of Big Ben. This year is worse than ever because my Mum has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer and next year is panning out to be the worst year of our lives. It's very possible we have just spent our last family Christmas together. So all in all, tonight I'm feeling pretty crap and I'm thinking I'll just go to bed and try to forget all about it for a while.

GoodNewsGrinch · 31/12/2013 23:33

I'm so sorry gaelic. I'm not surprised you're feeling this way Sad.

Un-mumsnetty hugs Flowers.

Poshpaws1 · 31/12/2013 23:56

So sorry for you, how awful. Remembering when my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer a few years back. New Year's Eve crap on top of that would have finished me off (hugs)