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To HATE New Years Eve with a passion?

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CiderBomb · 30/12/2013 16:00

I've always really hated New Years Eve. I find it really depressing, I'm not sure sure why? Maybe it's to do with being another year older, but in the days running up to it I suddenly feel really low for some reason?

I also hate this idea that you have to go out and have a good time. The best NYE's I've ever had are the ones where I've done nothing and just watched television. If you go out you end up being charged the earth to get in somewhere, squashed in with barely room to swing a cat and then struggling to get a taxi home until 7am or something stupid.

I hate it and wish it could be cancelled!

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timidviper · 31/12/2013 11:30

I used to love it for those few years where I was old enough to party but pre-children but just feel really melancholy about it now.

We live in an area many people retire to so suspect all our neighbours will be in bed by 10 and it will be like a ghost town here.

LesserOfTwoWeevils · 31/12/2013 11:31

Hate it. Loneliest time of the year. No one to go out with, no one to stay in with.

InaneNameChange · 31/12/2013 11:40

Oh Cider :-)

I don't exactly hate NYE but can't stand the hype around it, nor the hysteria getting into densely packed places where everyone is too drunk to talk properly. Love Auld Lang Syne, promise of a brand new shiny year, nice food and fireworks.

Lesser have a lovely night, get in the things in which you really enjoy.

SarahAndFuckTheResolutions · 31/12/2013 11:46

YABU.

I love New Years Eve.

Not that I will be going to a crap pub or drunken party or do any of that forced 'fun' stuff that you have.

But we are about to set off on a long woodland walk, then come home to a sausage casserole before an evening together as a family.

New Years Eve has always felt slightly magical to me, like all things are possible and old things are at work.

YoungBritishPissArtist · 31/12/2013 12:45

Does anyone remember seeing footage of the Millennial NYE at whatever the O2 arena used to be called? Tony and Cherie linking arms with the Queen and DoE to belt out Auld Lang Syne, the Queen had a face like a slapped arse Grin That's forced jollity!

SarahAndFuckTheResolutions · 31/12/2013 13:00

Anyone would have a face like a slapped arse if they found Tony and Cherie clinging onto them.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 13:04

The millennium was one of the few NY I enjoyed. And my first DC was conceived the next day....

popperdoodles · 31/12/2013 13:54

hate it but can't quite put my finger on why. Feel really down today. supposed to be travelling to friends this afternoon for the night but the would rather not. Feel fat and bloated, house is tip and can't find anything to wear. DS2 has just announced he feels ill and ds3 is being a devil child. I honestly just want to cry but dh insists when we get there it will be fine and we will have a good time. hmmm

DalmationDots · 31/12/2013 14:05

We were the the millennium dome for the NYE, it was spectacular although DC were too young really ...it was incredible to be there though and despite my hate of NYE, I did have a great one that year.

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CiderBomb · 31/12/2013 14:08

I remember the Millenium celebrations well. My parents had a big party in their house and invited all our family, friends and neighbours. Several people had arguments and fell out, my mum and dad had to actually split one rowing couple up, and then in the middle of it all our next door neighbour drunkenly fell down the stairs.

It was a riot!...

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cornishcreamtea · 31/12/2013 14:21

popper same here. I always feel down on NYE. We never celebrated it when I was young, my parents weren't drinkers and nor am I really. I would rather just be cuddled up in bed and let everyone else who enjoys it get on with it.

desertmum · 31/12/2013 14:36

husband away, daughter overseas, son at friends - so it's me and the dogs - bliss after thousands of visitors over Christmas - been to the supermarket and bought lots of yummy food and wine - it's too wet and windy for horses so I am set for the rest of the day - hate NYE - but looing forward to this one

Alisvolatpropiis · 31/12/2013 14:43

It doesn't bother me. Mostly because I do my own thing.

The last couple of years my dp and I have gone out for a meal then had a couple of drinks at home.

As a child it was always a quiet affair.

I think I've only ever been "out" on NYE once, when I was 18. My dad got pulled over twice picking me up (hadn't been drinking) and I found the whole thing a bit much.

I am the most wild 25 year old you're ever likely to meet Grin

Solo · 31/12/2013 14:50

I usually throw Ds over to my Mums so that I don't have to sit up with her; Ds likes to be up with a drink Hmm and now at 15, I think that's fine. Dd is usually in bed, but I think this year she'll be up with me watching Jules Holland.

Over the years, I've usually been in bed, but get really annoyed at being woken up by car horns being blasted out at midnight!

I wish I knew why I felt so depressed about NYE. I just can't give a reason for it which I think is sad in itself!

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CiderBomb · 31/12/2013 14:58

Over the past few years I've noticed people have started to let off Chinese lanterns at midnight, they do look very pretty but are so bloody dangerous to farm and wild animals.

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TheJollyReindeer · 31/12/2013 15:17

Hate it here too.
Always feel low at this time of Year.
Am terrified of what 2014 has in store for me.

TheSporkforeatingkyriarchy · 31/12/2013 15:21

I find it interesting that when people complain about the commercialness and expectations of Christmas, it is usually responded to with assertiveness that we don't have to do that and how nice it is to do it simply with the focus on family rather than that.

But for New Years, there aren't really simple alternatives given. Like the social expectation is you either go out and get drunk or you skip it. There is no simplified happy version that's out there and socially acceptable. Also the ridiculously high expectations of the fun and changes that happen rather than just enjoying it. It is very frustrating.

Caitlin17 · 31/12/2013 15:55

thespork you see that is what I feel about the Christmas. The huge commercial hype, the expectation you must join in, you must have a tree, you must wear a stupid paper hat, you must give carefully chosen gifts to all relatives who will of course reciprocate with rubbish (per the numerous threads ) you must put up with family you don't like, you must enjoy it. And there's no escape. And it lasts the whole of December.

NYE is one night with no lead up and you can basically have whatever you want. Mine has adapted several times over the years as I, children and friends have got older.

OnBoytox · 31/12/2013 16:00

I hate it too, always have.

I still have visions of when I was a young party animal, but every NYE would end in the same type of misery, ie, people around me getting off with other people and getting snogged at the stroke of midnight, everyone except me (I can't even explain why that used to always happen because I never seemed to be short of admirers at any other time!).

Anyway, it has scarred me for life.

I'll be staying at home on my own with a bottle of Vodka, but not drinking the whole lot obviously.

Coumarin · 31/12/2013 17:00

It's started. The feeling of doom. It's so bizarre, there really is no reason to feel so down about it. It's just another night really but here I am again, the New Years Eve Scrooge.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 17:04

I think I will stay at home and let DH take the DCs out to the party. I feel guilty about that but also bolshy too. Aaaargh.

Solo · 31/12/2013 17:14

I'm sorry we all feel this way, but I'm so glad it's not just me!!!

AngryFeet · 31/12/2013 17:19

I just view it as another reason to see friends and have fun. One of my friends always does a party (smallish only 6 or so couple plus kids). We all know each other so just sit and chat and drink. I dont see the big deal. If you don't like it stay in and watch a film. Noone is making you go out!

GoodNewsGrinch · 31/12/2013 17:27

I think I'd enjoy it more if I was invited to/was able to arrange a small house party/gathering of friends. But all my friends tend to have plans already with other parties or family arrangements going on. I'd be too worried that nobody would turn up.

Anybody up for a NYE meet-up for all us NYE haters next year? We could all be miserable and grumpy together Grin.

DalmationDots · 31/12/2013 17:31

AngryFeet It isn't the not having a party to go to, or not enjoying the party. I feel rubbish whether I go out or stay in, which is what others are saying. It is simply this overwhelming feeling of sadness and annoyance for no reason. All it is is the year changing but for some reason it does something to me emotionally. DD (21) gets it too and she goes to far more exciting parties than me!
The rest of the year I love a night out and being sociable, I love Christmas too. It is just NYE for some reason, whatever I do, it doesn't feel right.