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To HATE New Years Eve with a passion?

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CiderBomb · 30/12/2013 16:00

I've always really hated New Years Eve. I find it really depressing, I'm not sure sure why? Maybe it's to do with being another year older, but in the days running up to it I suddenly feel really low for some reason?

I also hate this idea that you have to go out and have a good time. The best NYE's I've ever had are the ones where I've done nothing and just watched television. If you go out you end up being charged the earth to get in somewhere, squashed in with barely room to swing a cat and then struggling to get a taxi home until 7am or something stupid.

I hate it and wish it could be cancelled!

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DalmationDots · 30/12/2013 21:58

I agree.
Really dislike it and very few have actually been good. People are often reluctant to host and so in my younger days it was questioning if you'd have anything to do. Then there was the single days where it was just depressing at midnight. Then there was the days with my exH when we usually had young children so going out was impossible. There was usually tears because DC wanted to stay up, did and then got over tired etc etc. Now I'm on my own, grown up children who are usually off partying and need picking up at god only knows what hour or home being equally miserable as me!!

It is all over-hyped and over priced.
There is so much expectation to have an incredible evening celebrating the new start and good memories. All it does it bring up the bad memories/regrets/self-doubts and tbh a lack of hope for the next year. However hard you try to 'celebrate'.
And I'm usually a fairly optimistic and care free person!

I usually just plan a night in now (this year DD age 21 is joining me as she is poorly), we have got a nice meal planned, a film lined up (Will avoid the depressing TV shows where you see everyone else out partying/looking joyful!) and I will go to bed when I want (probably before midnight!).
I find it much nicer if I put no pressure on the night to deliver, don't reflect or make resolutions and just get on with life. If a party comes up I will usually go but equally try and forget it is new year and avoid all the over-thinking.
It is strange how one night can cause such rubbish thoughts and low mood.

NewtRipley · 30/12/2013 22:00

I agree Dalmations

GobbySadcase · 30/12/2013 22:05

Hate it even more as of this evening.

NewtRipley · 30/12/2013 22:06

Gobby

You OK?

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 30/12/2013 22:07

I hate NYE. I'm usually in bed by 11pm and resent being woken up by rampant fireworks at midnight, then just as I'm falling back to sleep, texts sent by people who rarely otherwise text start to come though Hmm. NYD is just depressing.

DalmationDots · 30/12/2013 22:11

Oh and the best NYE I had was when we did Christmas Day on the 31st because we had been on holiday and my parents wanted their roast dinner and DC to open presents etc.
It was lovely. No pressure. It wasn't 25th so for some reason not a stressy Christmas, and the New Year feelings wern't there because it still felt like Christmas.
Woke up on the 1st feeling full, happy and ready to de-Christmas and begin the new year.

Must win vouchers towards a holiday more often so we can can have an extra holiday next year and repeat this!

TheArticFunky · 30/12/2013 22:12

I always feel really on edge and anxious in the lead up to NYE too. This has been a very sad year for me on one hand I will be glad to see the back of it but I also don't want to see the back of it iykwim.

Dollslikeyouandme · 30/12/2013 22:14

Yanbu I've never been keen.

I find it a bit depressing as I'm saying goodbye to Autumn my favourite season, and to the Christmas festivities.

I don't mind so much these days as long as I'm allowed to just ignore it.

nf1morethanjustlumpsandbumps · 30/12/2013 22:18

I hate it with a passion. Have a nice bottle of sparkling pinot grigio in and some nice nibbles will be having those in the evening and will any luck be asleep by midnight.

SagelyNodding · 30/12/2013 22:19

I can't stand NYE. It is the one night of the year where you HAVE TO HAVE FUN OR ELSE!

I will be popping into a party we are invited to with the kids (3 and 6) as I will be dropping DP off there, then planning on being home by 8:30. Kids to bed as usual and a decent film, leftover Christmas goodies, and a bottle of wine for me in peace...

DP actually prefers NYE to Christmas Shock

TSSDNCOP · 30/12/2013 22:21

I like the fireworks. But I don't celebrate it.

I shall be having a nice dinner and a movie indoors.

It is the profound sense of over ness that defeats me. I have a feeling of dread and sadness that lays me very low.

I am naturally an optimistic person so I find this feeling so horribly unsettling. Every year I promise myself I will spend NYE on a beach. Next year I bloody well will.

NewtRipley · 30/12/2013 22:23

Can I have permission to go to the party but come back before midnight? Please?

GobbySadcase · 30/12/2013 22:39

Messaged you, Newt

DalmationDots · 30/12/2013 23:01

TSSDNCOP I agree, I am a 'get on with it' kind of person who (probably having been through my fair share of bad times) is pretty optimistic and puts things in perspective easily. So for some reason when all these wishy washy feelings of having to reflect on the year and accept that was my 2013 come along, I feel absolutely rubbish - whether my 2013 was bad or good, I still just feel empty because it wasn't outstandingly spectacular.

NYE on a beach sounds absolutely wonderful and the perfect solution. As far away and secluded as possible so I can forget the rest of the world and the fact we have ticked from 2013 to 2014. I will have to get saving for next year.

DalmationDots · 30/12/2013 23:04

Newt go for it, just sneak out at about 11 when everyone is drunk enough not to notice, but not so drunk that if they notice you they will over-enthusiastically rush towards you, possibly screeching 'don't leave yet Newt!!!' drawing attention to your departure.
If anyone asks, say you felt terribly ill with a very contagious stomach bug and didn't want to spread it.

Squeakygate · 30/12/2013 23:05

Ive had some pretty miserable NYE's. One absolute fabulous one, two or three pretty good ones and the others were somewhere inbetween.
Last year dh and I were in bed about 11. We normally stay up to hear the bells in but we couldnt be bothered. I suspect if we do stay up tomorrow it will be due to consuming too much wine.
We arent bothered really about NYE anymore.

CitrusSun · 30/12/2013 23:06

Enforced jollity, ugh

Caitlin17 · 30/12/2013 23:37

Do those of you who go to bed before midnight do that specially or is that when you usually go to bed? (being someone who would have to be ill to go to bed before midnight)

LindyHemming · 30/12/2013 23:43

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superstarheartbreaker · 31/12/2013 00:17

Yanbu.... It's shit mainly because it is the start of JANUARY- bluegh !

livinginawinterwonderland · 31/12/2013 07:51

I agree OP. DP is cooking me a nice dinner and we're staying home with a bottle of wine. Doubt we'll make it to midnight, we've both been up since 5am when DP's alarm went off for work.

loveolives · 31/12/2013 07:55

NYE is totally overrated. We'll be staying in and I will cook something nice and we'll watch crap on the TV.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 09:20

Thanks Dalmation Grin

SomethingkindaOod · 31/12/2013 10:39

I had one wonderful NYE in New Zealand years ago while.travelling and every one since has been rubbish. I'm actually trying to persuade DH to go out tonight so I can get my DC's to sleep and go to bed with a good book and ignore the 3(!) parties going on in our street tonight. We've been invited to all of them but I was ill over Christmas and am knackered so am hoping that DH will do the good neighbour thing and go be jolly somewhere else Grin

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CiderBomb · 31/12/2013 11:23

Well the dreaded, depressing day is here.

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