To think that being very early is as bad as being very late...

[ButtercupsAreFlowers]

...when you're invited to someone's house? Just do not turn up 90 mins early for lunch when the house is in chaos and the food's nowhere near the oven. It's just not okay behaviour in my book - find somewhere to go until the appointed hour, fgs! Forcing myself to smile and be jolly - not easy when I just want to scream!

Buttercups we're no longer friends as a result - they got invited to a dinner party and decided to go to that instead. Quite what they thought I was going to do with the food I'd prepared is anybodies guess.
I enjoyed it though :)

I've stopped arranging get togethers with my ds's friend. When the dc were at nursery, parents tended to stay. They always arrived 60-90 mins early because x was so excited. lf we went there, mum would start texting first thing because lo was pestering about when we would get there. I would text back x O' Clock as agreed.

I agree with the poster that said 'come after x' means and 'please not before...'

My BIL's best mate does this to him and my sister - they arrange he's coming for lunch but then he wakes up mega early and just drives over. He's a single chap who travels with work and has no idea about family life with small children. Last time they'd arranged he come at 12:00 and he arrived at 7:45! Dsis had a screaming fit and he was dispatched to "go for a bit of a drive." What a Wally.

Screaming fit is about right Slatecross - how unbelievable! I had to suppress my own screaming fit yesterday.

YANBU - it's very very annoying.

YANBU. If the guests are late, at east you're prepared.

Distant Family members did this to me. I was in the shower and the cake was still in individual ingredient packets in the cupboard.

I have to confess I was so pissed off I wasn't polite.

They had even phoned (acopic anxious middle aged couple) to get directions (I live in their home city, minutes from the city centre on foot so I really didn't get this) and I e.mailed them fucking journey plans designed to get them to my house at the correct time.

But they didn't want to be late.

GOK. What time they actually left for the 20minute bus journey. I would much rather they had been 20 minutes late. They also walked past numerous cafes and pubs where they could have killed the extra time rather than turn up on my doorstep to drag me out of the shower.

They won't be coming again.

Close family members/ friends are welcome to turn up early. They will get a job!