Or is my DH?

[ElephantIntheroom1]

Hi, I haven't posted here before so I'm a bit nervous!

Having a bit of an issue at the moment. I have a DS who is 6 months. When I went on maternity leave it was agreed that I do some "keeping in touch" days over Xmas and the new year as I work in retail and it is a busy time. My maternity leave officially ends in Feb.

I am supposed to be working a couple of days this week, and then I have the rest of the month off until I go back in Feb. My DH is now refusing to look after DS while I work! DH gets 2 weeks off over Xmas with his job. He says that he wants this last week off to relax before he goes back next Monday and that I will have to tell work I can't go in! I can't do that, it would drop them in it. His argument is I'm not officially supposed to be back at work yet and he doesn't get a lot of time off (which is true). My argument is I already agreed to this BEFORE I went on maternity and he knew about it then, so he should have said something then. There is no one else who could have DS, we live far away from family etc due to his work. I really don't know what to do now as I feel he is pressuring me into this (and being a twat, if I'm honest). Am I really BU to have expected him to look after DS on his time off work?

Well if he is going to treat you like staff then you should claim all the benefits of being a live in nanny.
Give up your job and tell he he can work two jobs to make up the money. Also you will need 25 days paid leave when you can go away and he can look after the baby. Not to mention weekends.

What an arse, does he not realise that this is 2013? He should be doing 50% of the child care when you go back to work. It took two of you to make this baby and simply because you are the one that gave birth it doesn't mean the baby is just your problem.

Glad you seem to have it sorted, but he does need a reality check.

Becoming new parents is a culture shock, that is certainly true, but he seems to have taken his time in realising that it is 24/7, 365 days a year. Maternity leave is most definitely NOT a long holiday, but it is amazing how many men do seem to see it as such.

He is still a parent on New Year's Eve, whether he likes it or not. The needs of a young child don't stop just because of a date on the calendar.

He was being a twat, but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt by assuming he was nervous and didn't want to show it.